Hi guys. I usually don't bring relationship issues to Nairaland, but this one is very serious as it concerns the man I am engaged to and scheduled to marry before the end of the year.

I have known him for a year and few months and we are in love. When we started having sex, it was all vanilla and although he was a bit rough; as in throwing me around and putting me in different positions, I was okay with it, and honestly, it was kinda exciting because some of those styles were new to me

However recently things have gotten really weird whenever we are having sex. He requests me to do certain stuff that honestly creeps me out. Sometimes he would tie my hands behind my back so tight and stuff the pillowcase in my mouth, then have his way with me. Sometimes he would blindfold me with my scarf and ask me to beg him to free me, while choking me with his two hands. There was even a time he got a knife and pretended to want to stab me and asked me to play along and act scared. Sometimes he would ask me to forge tears so he would watch me cry while we had sex.

It's gotten real bad that a week ago, I almost passed out when he was doing one of his weird choking sex-plays. In the past I have talked to him about how I didn't enjoy some of these things and how we should do it sparingly or not at all. He sounded like he understood, but after a few weeks he seemed bored and uninterested in normal sex, and begged me to go back to the rough stuff because that's the only thing he likes.

I know he loves me because he takes good care of me and is even friendly with my parents and siblings. But this extreme sex thing is really making me uncomfortable.

I can't imagine going through this sort of sex every day when we eventually get married and live under the same roof.

I need serious advice on the next steps to take.

Have you heard of death by misadventure ?

Don't be a victim and run for your life

Your "Boyfriend" get problem. Problem what?!, I mean problems. You mean he is carrying all his fantasies on you like a sex slave or a road-side chick (so much for a wife-to-be). After watching every act in porn, he now uses you as a practical rat to dissect. And you said he loves you. Okay continue (in madame Patience voice).

"the past I have talked to him about how I didn't enjoy some of these things and how we should do it sparingly or not at all. He sounded like he understood, but after a few weeks he seemed bored and uninterested in normal sex, and begged me to go back to the rough stuff because that's the only thing he likes"

You better tell your "Boyfriend" to seek for help before he starts bringing home a dog to (...) you, telling you it arouses him or smash your head on the wall while in the act.

You are playing with Fire.

If your fiance can't respect your boundaries and is trying to force or manipulate you into doing something you dont want to do it's time to end the relationship. You may think you love him but someone that loves and respects you wouldn't treat you this way

The movies he watched when he was young is replaying.
Stop saying he loves you because of friendliness to your parents or taking care of you, anybody can do that.
Your peace is paramount, peace is a major component of love.
Does he have someone he listens to?
Does he have a pastor that can talk to him?
His sexual fantasies are wild.

To be candid, some ppl are really weird in term of things they do daily and it take grace of God to outgrown in it.
Abt you n ur Fiancé, it seems he’s so deep in it no matter how persuasive you are, n the end to eternity is facing you face to face without you knowing.
Using knife to chase you is one of the signs you should know he does not mean well with you, If you didn’t ran or he desist from such habit.
Op I will advise you since you said you’ve sit him down n it seems it’s futile that you shld excuse yourself in that relationship.
May we not mourn over ourselves, a time is coming where he will see that you’re not choking to his satisfaction n will keep pressing you who knows whether by then you would have reach your limit n you can’t do anything since he normally tie your hand also.

Your partner like BDSM

BDSM is a sexual activity involving such practices as the use of physical restraints, the granting and relinquishing of control, and the infliction of pain.

Since him dey give you money, bear the pains with him

You need to take him for deliverance. He has evil spirits in him.

He is into BDSM and you are not.
Options.
Talk extensively with him( ask him abt his ex and how it ended)
Counselling
Die OR walk away ( you can arrange this either way)

Your guy is always on colos.

R.I.P in advance..

You are comfortably sitting on a keg of gunpowder with lighter in ur hand. Continue oooo but I doubt if u will live to tell the story

My condolences to your family in advance

Shooooou

I was thinking Ladies prefer it this way


Unstable gender will not kill me with laugh

He is not Man enough yenyehyen

Enjoy it while you last

madridguy:
Your partner like BDSM

BDSM is a sexual activity involving such practices as the use of physical restraints, the granting and relinquishing of control, and the infliction of pain.

Since him dey give you money, bear the pains with him

followin....

Tell me more, My Comrade In Porn

biggy00000:
He is into BDSM and you are not.
Options.
Talk extensively with him( ask him abt his ex and how it ended)
Counselling
Die OR walk away ( you can arrange this either way)

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DaisyMellow:
Hi guys. I usually don't bring relationship issues to Nairaland, but this one is very serious as it concerns the man I am engaged to and scheduled to marry before the end of the year.

I have known him for a year and few months and we are in love. When we started having sex, it was all vanilla and although he was a bit rough; as in throwing me around and putting me in different positions, I was okay with it, and honestly, it was kinda exciting because some of those styles were new to me

However recently things have gotten really weird whenever we are having sex. He requests me to do certain stuff that honestly creeps me out. Sometimes he would tie my hands behind my back so tight and stuff the pillowcase in my mouth, then have his way with me. Sometimes he would blindfold me with my scarf and ask me to beg him to free me, while choking me with his two hands. There was even a time he got a knife and pretended to want to stab me and asked me to play along and act scared. Sometimes he would ask me to forge tears so he would watch me cry while we had sex.

It's gotten real bad that a week ago, I almost passed out when he was doing one of his weird choking sex-plays. In the past I have talked to him about how I didn't enjoy some of these things and how we should do it sparingly or not at all. He sounded like he understood, but after a few weeks he seemed bored and uninterested in normal sex, and begged me to go back to the rough stuff because that's the only thing he likes.

I know he loves me because he takes good care of me and is even friendly with my parents and siblings. But this extreme sex thing is really making me uncomfortable.

I can't imagine going through this sort of sex every day when we eventually get married and live under the same roof.

I need serious advice on the next steps to take.

Madam,run for your life, because one of these days,a nasty accident may happen.Your fiance is hooked on pornography and adopted fetishes from there.Dont be surprised if one day he demands anal sex from you.
Pornography has twisted his brain and wired him to be acting out those weird fantasies.
Leave him now before the demon of pornography that has taken over his head,pushes it further, and he mistakenly kills you.
A word is enough for the wise.

DaisyMellow:
Hi guys. I usually don't bring relationship issues to Nairaland, but this one is very serious as it concerns the man I am engaged to and scheduled to marry before the end of the year.

I have known him for a year and few months and we are in love. When we started having sex, it was all vanilla and although he was a bit rough; as in throwing me around and putting me in different positions, I was okay with it, and honestly, it was kinda exciting because some of those styles were new to me

However recently things have gotten really weird whenever we are having sex. He requests me to do certain stuff that honestly creeps me out. Sometimes he would tie my hands behind my back so tight and stuff the pillowcase in my mouth, then have his way with me. Sometimes he would blindfold me with my scarf and ask me to beg him to free me, while choking me with his two hands.

You Do Am, Abi You No Do Am?

DaisyMellow:
Hi guys. I usually don't bring relationship issues to Nairaland, but this one is very serious as it concerns the man I am engaged to and scheduled to marry before the end of the year.

I have known him for a year and few months and we are in love. When we started having sex, it was all vanilla and although he was a bit rough; as in throwing me around and putting me in different positions, I was okay with it, and honestly, it was kinda exciting because some of those styles were new to me

However recently things have gotten really weird whenever we are having sex. He requests me to do certain stuff that honestly creeps me out. Sometimes he would tie my hands behind my back so tight and stuff the pillowcase in my mouth, then have his way with me. Sometimes he would blindfold me with my scarf and ask me to beg him to free me, while choking me with his two hands. There was even a time he got a knife and pretended to want to stab me and asked me to play along and act scared. Sometimes he would ask me to forge tears so he would watch me cry while we had sex.

It's gotten real bad that a week ago, I almost passed out when he was doing one of his weird choking sex-plays. In the past I have talked to him about how I didn't enjoy some of these things and how we should do it sparingly or not at all. He sounded like he understood, but after a few weeks he seemed bored and uninterested in normal sex, and begged me to go back to the rough stuff because that's the only thing he likes.

I know he loves me because he takes good care of me and is even friendly with my parents and siblings. But this extreme sex thing is really making me uncomfortable.

I can't imagine going through this sort of sex every day when we eventually get married and live under the same roof.

I need serious advice on the next steps to take.

IT Was all Vanilla And although he was a bit rough; as in throwing me around and putting me in different positions, I was okay with it, and honestly, it was kinda exciting because some of those styles were new to me.



Just look up there 👆.

Just keeping enjoying it until he kills you. All those style are from... Pornhub,Xvideos,xnxx

DaisyMellow:
Hi guys. I usually don't bring relationship issues to Nairaland, but this one is very serious as it concerns the man I am engaged to and scheduled to marry before the end of the year.

I have known him for a year and few months and we are in love. When we started having sex, it was all vanilla and although he was a bit rough; as in throwing me around and putting me in different positions, I was okay with it, and honestly, it was kinda exciting because some of those styles were new to me

However recently things have gotten really weird whenever we are having sex. He requests me to do certain stuff that honestly creeps me out. Sometimes he would tie my hands behind my back so tight and stuff the pillowcase in my mouth, then have his way with me. Sometimes he would blindfold me with my scarf and ask me to beg him to free me, while choking me with his two hands. There was even a time he got a knife and pretended to want to stab me and asked me to play along and act scared. Sometimes he would ask me to forge tears so he would watch me cry while we had sex.

It's gotten real bad that a week ago, I almost passed out when he was doing one of his weird choking sex-plays. In the past I have talked to him about how I didn't enjoy some of these things and how we should do it sparingly or not at all. He sounded like he understood, but after a few weeks he seemed bored and uninterested in normal sex, and begged me to go back to the rough stuff because that's the only thing he likes.

I know he loves me because he takes good care of me and is even friendly with my parents and siblings. But this extreme sex thing is really making me uncomfortable.

I can't imagine going through this sort of sex every day when we eventually get married and live under the same roof.

I need serious advice on the next steps to take.

I recall a character in the TV series "Billions" ask to go for a therapy, discuss and find out if it's deep rooted & maybe if you still wanna keep the relationship, you may have to start talking options. I know you understand what I mean, If you can't withstand the pressure after he's disclosed his sexual preferences, you better quit now.

niceluvsus:
The movies he watched when he was young is replaying.
Stop saying he loves you because of friendliness to your parents or taking care of you, anybody can do that.
Your peace is paramount, peace is a major component of love.
Does he have someone he listens to?
Does he have a pastor that can talk to him?
His sexual fantasies are wild.

The dude is a sex addict he watches. PornHub Xvideos xnxx and grannybleeping

When I started reading, I knew a lot of money will be involve, and I got to the he takes care of me part.

If you marry him, he's gonna kill you in the act someday.

If he was a poor guy, u would av rejected all this.

Poor guy sef, no go ever think go that side.

Alot to take for the money he is giving you.

Please if you talk to him and he doesn't change just leave he isn't the only man abeg, even if you marry he will still cheat because he likes it rough,you no go work 😱,see next will be anal sex the guy is obviously a sex freak just dey play... leave oh before rape and aggression set in then domestic violence or neglect can he even wait for you maybe if you just gave birth for example and wait for 3 wees b4 knacking girl think your life through, friendliness now no be friendliness later oh,if man never see fish he will value fish but if he catch the fish men no regards for fish again oh ...wise up 🤨🤨

DaisyMellow:
Hi guys. I usually don't bring relationship issues to Nairaland, but this one is very serious as it concerns the man I am engaged to and scheduled to marry before the end of the year.

I have known him for a year and few months and we are in love. When we started having sex, it was all vanilla and although he was a bit rough; as in throwing me around and putting me in different positions, I was okay with it, and honestly, it was kinda exciting because some of those styles were new to me

However recently things have gotten really weird whenever we are having sex. He requests me to do certain stuff that honestly creeps me out. Sometimes he would tie my hands behind my back so tight and stuff the pillowcase in my mouth, then have his way with me. Sometimes he would blindfold me with my scarf and ask me to beg him to free me, while choking me with his two hands. There was even a time he got a knife and pretended to want to stab me and asked me to play along and act scared. Sometimes he would ask me to forge tears so he would watch me cry while we had sex.

It's gotten real bad that a week ago, I almost passed out when he was doing one of his weird choking sex-plays. In the past I have talked to him about how I didn't enjoy some of these things and how we should do it sparingly or not at all. He sounded like he understood, but after a few weeks he seemed bored and uninterested in normal sex, and begged me to go back to the rough stuff because that's the only thing he likes.

I know he loves me because he takes good care of me and is even friendly with my parents and siblings. But this extreme sex thing is really making me uncomfortable.

I can't imagine going through this sort of sex every day when we eventually get married and live under the same roof.

I need serious advice on the next steps to take.

Those are visible signs of a psychopath. This one go kill you one day.

How will a sane human open her dignity her husband pride her kpekus to a dog or cat to lick all in the name of fantasy. what's really happening to our girls and they will later open that shit to a man to lick it's so irritating. I don't blam man that doesn't marry non virgin some girls are demons this is wickedness. Imagine a man gives his penis to a dog or cat to lick and later give his girlfriend to to lick try think about this. Honestly non virgin don't deserve husband. Baby mama for all non virgin girls they are the head of hookup olosho parading everywhere looking for inocent man to devor

OP,

Hope If you break up with this Guy for a Gentleman,
You wont start to Regret? 🤔😏

Ladies are like that.

They will complain that a Guys Fcvks them too much and doesn't allow their Towtow to Rest BUT
When they meet a more gentle lover, they start to Complain. 😕

You're walking through the valley of the shadow of death and the trajectory of eternity is right before you.

Some fantasies are better left in the realm of imagination. Ruuuuuuunnnnnn!

Two things are involved.
1. He is a rapist that enjoys seeing Thier victim shed tears & beg for mercy. Raping someone gives them Joy, makes them feel like an Alpha male. They enjoy raping unsuspecting young victims, thereafter threaten to kill them if they say a word after.
From your narration he has all the threat of a rapist.

2. He is possessed from watching the movie called "50 shades of Grey". That's what Christian Grey does to his women.
Why I said he might have been possessed by the movie, my ex after watching the movie became possessed (obsessed) that she no longer enjoys sex except I treat her like Christian Grey does to Ann, if she's at the office she would call and tell me that she would like me to punish her today like Christian Grey does to Ann, she became obsessed with such types of sex, it became a problem to me & I found out she was turning me into a beast that am not, after a sober reflection over such sex life, I called her one day and quit the relationship cause she can no longer enjoy normal sex.

He will kill you and you will regret not walking away. You just said he takes care of you ? Don’t you know a man of such doesn’t have any respect for you and your body ? Do you think you can endure all that in marriage ? He will soon bring his friends home to do 3some, 4some with you, dog will sleep with you , even monkeys will be invited to Bleep your anus , why do you think you can’t have a better man if you dump his asshole ? You are seeing a red light but still moving on, you go pay the fine with your life don’t worry !

The guy must be taking care of your bills full time

My dear sister
I know you are in that relationship becos of your personal gain
If at this age you don't really know what you want, then otilo is your name.

Stay there make pant dy wear you.

If you make mistakes of marrying him, my condolences to your parents and siblings.

A word is enough.