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How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by FeliciaOja(f): 5:37pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
I feel so angry and heartbroken after I found out my mother has been collecting money meant for me behind my back for months. I had an accident few months ago, I was hospitalized for a week. I lost my phone in the accident, so majority of my friends couldn't contact me directly. One of my uncle from Baltimore sent my mother $500 to give me and my cousin also sent $200. This happened February My mum took advantage of the fact I don't have phone. She was the one majority of my uncles and relatives contact since they can't contact me. Today, that my cousin is in Nigeria with my uncle and they decided to pay us a visit. I was happy until they were about to go and my mum just whisper to me Tell your uncle thank you for the money he sent you. I was shocked. After they left, I confronted her to know what really happened. She said she will explain later that she is late for church. I feel very heartbroken, only God knows how many times they gave her something for me and she took it without telling me. I want to cut her off and distance from her, how should I handle this so she won't ever touch my money again? Should I report her to my uncle and relatives. 5 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Yugoslavia247(m): 5:42pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
FeliciaOja: Better forgive and forget Have you paid her for taking care of you from birth Just forget it. E don happen. When you small dey thief her meat. She no kee you. Now you know your mom has long throat for money so play along. Wetin be money. Some people wish they had mom. Madam forget it. Na she born you. 10 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by FeliciaOja(f): 5:43pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
This is a woman I was planning to give money to build house. Now I'm having serious doubt. The worst part is that my father had been the one spending heavily from my hospital bill to my daily needs. My mom also disturb him for money to buy food for house. So what else did she do with $700 that she was given I have just lost hope in her But I feel like reporting her to my uncles and relatives. Only God knows how long this has been happening. |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by FeliciaOja(f): 5:48pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247:Do you know how much is $700?? As much as I want to forgive her My heart is broken. Yes she took care of me but my dad is the one who always gives me money. If I run to my mom for cash she direct me to my father. And my father gives the money without issue. I just figured out my mom is a money addict and nothing will ever make me give her money for anything again. If she can sideline her daughter for this long then God knows how much money she will secretly collect from my husband or in-laws. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Rokiat(f): 5:52pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Just $700? Is that what you are heartbroken over? That ain’t much naw for you to hold a grudge against your mother. What she did was absolutely wrong but please let it go, my only issue here is the lack of boundaries the fact that she took the money without even asking for it when it was not meant for her. Forgive her and let it go but you need to set some firm boundaries with her. 1 Like 3 Shares |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by FeliciaOja(f): 5:55pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Last last my mother is money hungry but she is still my mother regardless. I will cut her off financially, if I want to build or my husband wants to give my family money. I will personally collect it and give it to my father. I just imagine when people applaud Hakimi for putting all his property to his mother. If I try it I will be finished This is a tough lesson I have learnt, I still love her. But shishi she won't collect from me again. That's her punishment 5 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Yugoslavia247(m): 5:59pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
FeliciaOja: Dey play with your blessings. Better give her. You won't understand sha. Maybe you have not started hustling for money yourself. Honour thy father and thy mother Reward prosperity and long life. If you give her money you Honor her. See this life if you want smooth sailing forgive and forget. 700 dollar is nothing. Can you bless her NO Can she bless you YES The floor is yours |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by FeliciaOja(f): 6:03pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Rokiat:My dear, I will try and forgive her My worry is how long has this been going on. My uncles abroad don't call me much They call her frequently and ask after us. So who knows how long they have been sending money to her to give us. And she has been pocketing it Because that my uncle is very generous She used to do the same thing when I was small. When visitors give us money she will tell us to give to her to save. When we later ask for the money she will give us stories. Since then I stopped giving her or telling her about any money I received. My elder brother still gives her money and my dad still gives her money. So that why I'm Soo angry that upon all the money she still connected the money meant for me only to tell me when my uncle cane to visit us. Now it looked as if I ate the money since February and didn't thank my uncles and his son. |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Yugoslavia247(m): 6:07pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
FeliciaOja: This your uncles. Shey na your mama brother. No be because of her u take Sabi them. Omo you funny. Better focus on more important things. U don Sabi your mama way. So now device means to maneuver |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by EastAlchemist: 6:08pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
FeliciaOja:Sell her phone 1 Like |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:10pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
FeliciaOja:although i am tempted to ask: WHAT DID SHE DO WITH THE MONEY? if she didnt tell you before then... i suggest you tell your uncles and cousins to come back and confront your mother for what she did. its not about the MONEY, its about the DECEIT and you not knowing who your helpers were in your times of need. |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by ChizzyBuna(m): 6:11pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Omo this your mumsi na Yahoo Mother Some women worship money. I'm very very sure your dad is rich, if not I really pity him cuz your mumsi fit dey cheat for him back. My aunty that year that woman can disgrace her life for money. Just spray her money during occasion, she go hail you tire, dance for you, she fit even fight for you Aunty Jo Jo 5 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by chicoMX(m): 6:13pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Please do nothing... E nor reach to cut your mama off! When you were hospitalized, who took care of the bills? Who took care of you whilst you were there?. If this matter vex you too much, do yours back. |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Carcholce: 6:15pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
FeliciaOja: You shouldn’t have brought our Messiah into this. Right now we don’t know if your story is true or you are one of those femail that is hell bent on discrediting Hakimi. |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Tallesty1(m): 6:17pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247:Only a fool forgives and forgets |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by FeliciaOja(f): 6:20pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247:And so what?? So I should keep quiet while she eats up all these money. And im here surviving with not upto 30k in my account. She is the first daughter and she senior all of my uncles abroad. No doubt they respect her but what she did is not fair She knows that $700 will help me a lot during this hard time. Im waiting for her to come back from church. This house won't contain us tonight |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Yugoslavia247(m): 6:20pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Tallesty1: I hear. Cultist |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Yugoslavia247(m): 6:22pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
FeliciaOja: Go fight her. If she turns her back on you. Those your uncles will forget you exist |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by FeliciaOja(f): 6:23pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Carcholce:I have nothing against him, tho I didn't believe the story when I heard the news That boy is lucky. Imagine if his mother was like my mother. It would be a different story all together. |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Nobody: 6:24pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Tallesty1:😯 na WA ooo |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by FeliciaOja(f): 6:27pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247:see this one, the only thing saving her is that I don't have heart of wickedness. I woukd have call my uncles and cry to them how my mom behaves badly. I must disturb her today. A whole $700 not even shishi enter my hand. Can u imagine |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Nazgul: 6:28pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
FeliciaOja:Are you below 18 that you cannot receive the money directly? Why would an uncle send money to and adult through her mom, doesn't he have your number to call you directly for your account details? |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Yugoslavia247(m): 6:29pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
FeliciaOja: You must be a teenager. How old are you. Your mom grew up with them. They reason you because of your mom. If you spoil your mom image at first they will assist you. After they side line you. But So they will pity you. |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by FeliciaOja(f): 6:31pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
chicoMX:My dad paid for the hospital bills My dad paid for MRI scan My dad paid for x-ray scan. To make it even worse, I remember I told her to buy me pepper chicken from shoprite. My mum told me to give her the money to buy it!!!!!!!!! I had to give her 3k This is something my dad will just go and buy without asking. U guys won't understand, I still love her but anything finiance. I will never involve her again. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Yugoslavia247(m): 6:33pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
FeliciaOja:This is what you should do. Use monez fear am |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by chicoMX(m): 6:38pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
FeliciaOja: Omo. This one loud, anything wey cross your mind to do please do. As long as say you no go kill person 2 Likes |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by FeliciaOja(f): 6:47pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Nazgul:NOOO!! The issue is that I don't speak with my uncles like that. It's usually hi or hello and that's it. They left Nigeria when I was still very little. No time to bond together unless when they come to Nigeria. It's my mum who talks frequently with them because she senior all of them. Honestly I don't know the reason why they do it. Maybe my mom told them to send it to her directly, I just don't know That's why I want to see if I can report her to them, so that next time they want to send to me. They will contact me |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Tallesty1(m): 6:49pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247:Forgive but don't forget. |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Nazgul: 6:50pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
FeliciaOja:Just tell them to send it to you directly. There's no need to report her. Open a dorm account, or tell them to use Western Union or any other means. Make your research properly before calling them, so that when you call, you'll give them your information which they use to send you the money directly. 1 Like |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by Tallesty1(m): 6:50pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat:To forgive is divine and to forget is the absence of common sense |
Re: How To Handle Betrayal From Your Mother by ChizzyBuna(m): 7:07pm On Apr 26, 2023 |
Op, can you recieve money from usa?? Do you have domicilary account? No Do you have intl. Passport? No I think the reason they send it to her is because she has dom account Maybe she is saving money for her brothers to use and build project. Go and open a dom account then try telling them stylishly that you now have a dom account. Now they have your details and can send tou money direct. 1 Like |
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