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Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by bomsilaga(m): 1:14pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Ishilove:I was a project director and did bricklayer labouring in the abroad. People will come for my head but with the dignity of labour abroad, it amounts to nothing. Nigeria is a dream killer for many but Nigeria is our country. 4 Likes |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by lifenajeje(m): 1:14pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
With ur accounting skill learn data analysis and business intelligence instead of fork.lift 1 Like |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by OvertheTop(m): 1:14pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
deltateam: How Naa? Will he be Spending the Money in Naira? As long as You are Spending in the Foreign Currency, the Value will be Less than what he is Earning Right Now (1M naira per Month spent in Nigeria) |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by rickleye: 1:15pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Ok. I hope you’ll somehow see this through the myriad of responses. Abroad is for 2 people . Wifey is right. This is how you can help 1. Find a tech support job . 2. Work in a factory-UPS or FEDEX distribution center. 3 . In the interim you are going to have to take over the home front. 4. Get ready to change your mindset- it will be struggle because all your life you are used to a certain set of rules. You are both partners . 5. Intimacy will decrease. You’ll hear I am tired a lot . It’s life don’t be mad. 6. Think before you speak and don’t speak all the things you are thinking. Very impt. 7 you tube is your friend. DIY videos to save money. So you will have to help w cooking , cleaning , watching the kids. Taking out thrash , taking vehicle to mechanic etc. When she finishes work she can put them to bed and the rat race continues next day. It is well my brother 2 Likes |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by 3rdavefarms(m): 1:15pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
My own be say before you mont on her whe we finally see ... use lime and alum first to wash the level Australia her Baba Gbola pass Africa .. we are on the same equatorial line |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by Acidosis(m): 1:17pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
deltateam: He currently earns more than a branch manager. So, your advice is not valid. HIs net salary is N1.1m. The main justification for leaving is to hide under the typical "for the sake of my kids." 2 Likes |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by OvertheTop(m): 1:17pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
MrNipplesLover: but is it Easy to Resign from 1M Naira per Month in Nigeria. Is it Easy? 1 Like |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by bejick(m): 1:18pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Altern8tor: Good advice, when you settle down wella you can stop 1 Like |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by OvertheTop(m): 1:19pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
ezegold4we: NOT if You are BROKE . Family will Hate U 1 Like |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by OvertheTop(m): 1:23pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by Acidosis(m): 1:24pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
bejick: True, he doesn't have to listen to me. 1 Like |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by akslink: 1:25pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
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Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by NNEWIsuper: 1:25pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Firefunmi2014:You couldn't change naira to pounds because you lacked knowledge about it, many Nigerian communities are exchanging pounds to naira and vice versa online |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by MeineMutter: 1:27pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Usefulsense: It’s normal to develop cold feet when you are changing environment because of the fear of the unknown and fear of leaving your comfort zone, couple with those thing you would miss seeing or doing, your freedom etc. those shenks 😁😁. That’s if you do sha because you are going into a society where you are not as free as you are in an unregulated Nigeria. Even relocating from Lagos to Kano can make you develop cold feet let alone relocating abroad. With your wife over there, you would quickly settle in, no doubt that. But you could have used your ICAN to take exemptions from some ACCA papers, long ago, and have started writing ACCA, the moment your wife entered Australia since you know you would be relocating. By now, you would have passed ACCA and be ready to use it for conversion to CPA Australia. The kind of private company you work(ed) for in Nigeria matters. If it’s a known multinational company that you worked for and you worked in greater decision-making roles and interact with C-band level executives in your organization, you may be able to have transferable skills that can position you well to get good job quickly. No country recognizes ICAN abroad o. That’s the bitter truth. While learning forklift driving, ask your wife about two most popular ERP software that companies use in Australia and add it to lists of what you will learn. You have to continue learning even when you get there. I may be able to point you in the right direction of some free and paid materials on quality ERP learnings. Also, don’t forget to have knowledge of one two other data analysis skills or software. If after some years, you still don’t like or enjoy the country, wait and get the PR while you save to set up something back home. You can then go home and be visiting Australia as you like. Let me be frank with you: going abroad as an accountant at that age is not good. I am a qualified accountant with ACCA and CPA and I know what it takes to get a great job abroad. Accountant work is not the problem they have abroad. They have automated a lot of things that have to do with accounting, financing, reporting, controlling (including internal control), business analysis etc Assuming you are an IT guy or medical personnel, you can já at any time or at any age and entertain less worries. Be ready to start from lowly-rated job (whether white or blue collar) and start picking the easiest points. 2 Likes |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by Yaks02(m): 1:27pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Usefulsense:You're a strong man, no let cold feet drag u oh. Go ahead with your travelling plans, your kids have a future assured already |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by bejick(m): 1:27pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
bomsilaga: I was a Piping Engineer in the Oil and Gas industry earning better 7 digit, Omo as a cleaner here I earn more than the Oyel and gas money oo . If God come help me now get same Oyel and gas work for this side oboy my balling no go be here. Abeg stay back for Nigeria to do what If you stay complete one year for better abroad come go back Nigeria you will see how chaotic Nigeria is. Omo no go fit stay again. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by 12inchess: 1:28pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Usefulsense: I will certainly travel if the PR is assured. Ofcourse you may face some retrogression in your career and she may be the bread winner for a time or even forever. So you need to prepare for that and be ready to drop your ego aside. Hopefully she is good and understanding woman. On the other hand you may not face any retrogression and things may go up and way better for you. The key is to cooperate among yourself. It will benefit your kids immensley. Exposure is great. 1 Like |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by Nobody: 1:31pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Working for a family company, i will never do that again . Nigerians, We bring down others, so we can grow. Very toxic. |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by chiself: 1:31pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Smartguyboy: That is the thing that the 99.9%ers do not understand. If you are well off in Nigeria, you can afford to send your kids to private primary and secondary school in Nigeria and they can do quite well like Kamsiyochukwu Umeh. If while they are in primary /secondary school you continue to progress in your career, by the time they finish secondary school , you should be able to afford to sponsor their university education abroad. That is how to do it but the 99.9%ers think that coming to UK, Canada, USA automatically mean their kids are getting the best education Then again maybe like parent like children. The 99.9%ers are only looking to survive and not ambitious and so are content to see their kids attend University of Peckham and get their Micky Mouse degrees and get second class administrative job in some council, only to find their manager was the oyinbo girl who used to be in their class in Peckham Hill College but didn't progress to University. (The 99.9%ers will say, "it is still better than Nigeria ) I am on page 4 and everyone is saying age is just a number Why would they want to give a 40+ man a job when there are lots of 20 something also looking for jobs? 2 Likes |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by osothermal(m): 1:36pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Usefulsense:Sir you have nothing to fear about. It will shock you to know that an average cleaner in the UK earns 20 to #25million annually. You think you're earning well in Nigeria until you go out and explore |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by formular2002(m): 1:41pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
I understand that feeling and it's normal. You get energized when going through the process but immediately you get visa, the feeling of doubt and loss starts creeping in. Yes, it happens to people. All you need to overcome it is to convince yourself of the reasons you started the process and look at the bright side. Starting all over may be challenging but you already have a soft landing since your wife is there. So get ready to travel, buy foodstuffs, buy your ticket and have a safe flight. Sure you will miss Nigeria but you can always visit. As for jobs, you will be alright. Start training for special skills and God will go with you All the best bro |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by jrusky(m): 1:41pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
felixzo1: Very correct question. God bless Japa will japa shit on so many lives that lack focus. You send your wife all the way to obodo abroad bro be rest assured your case is 50/50 chance of regretting it at last. |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by EleventhWeirdo: 1:46pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
MeineMutter: I beg to disagree! I've been an audit associate with a big4 for 2 years now. I have former colleagues who got jobs in other big4s in Australia, UK, Canada, USA, and so on with just their ACA. Some even got jobs in industry. Why denigrate our noble institute, ICAN, this much with falsehood? 3 Likes |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by EduTechTainMent: 1:53pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
When it comes to jaapa-ing, Nigerians suddenly become motivational speakers, and become overly optimistic and sentimental. What many fail to realise is that fingers are not equal and destinies differ. What worked for taiye may not work for kehinde. What many also fail to understand is that having money is not the absolute solution to all the problems of life and doesn't guarantee happiness. We all have what makes us tick. Not all millionaires are happy. Happiness and richness comes from contentment of mind. That should not stop one from aspiring and striving to work towards the best People are quick to recommend asking someone to start from the bottom of the ladder forgetting to factor in the mental stress and feeling of failure/depression that may result from that. Not everyone can withstand such. Not everyone can survive that. During such periods, the family you all based your actions on may eventually be lost due ones temperament. There aren't any guarantees in life. Not everyone will make it in Nigeria and definitely not everyone will make it abroad. Globally it's all about huzzling and jama jama. Till death comes knocking, man shall continue huzzling. Everybody dey hussle to make ends meet. Even the natural borns abroad. Yes, as a family man, your family and kids are a top priority. Abroad doesn't automatically guarantee your kids will be successful in life. It also depends on what yardstick we use to measure our success or failure. Bringing up your kids in Nigeria also doesn't guarantee your kids won't be successful in life. Many of those clamoring for jaapa were born and bred in Nigeria, and yet you can say they have a relatively comfortable life. Money is important, very important Infact, but it isn't everything. Those who are pro jaapa are quick to point out the opportunities the kids will get by virtue of staying abroad. What about the inherent risks? LGBTQ, mental health challenges, peer pressure, loss of sense of family and heritage, etc. All these risks are also present in Nigeria but at varying degrees. So one has to be thorough in analysing the pros and cons of his/her japaa and most importantly do not be pressured into following the popular bandwagon effect- many are japaaing, let me do same. There comes a time in a man's life when all he needs is stability - to grow, enjoy life, enjoy the fruits of his labour and dedicate his time to family. For how many decades will a man continue chasing the world. Personally I believe OP has gotten to that stage in his life where stability matters a lot and not uncertainties. What most people will want the OP to do is spend 2/3 of his life chasing the world. When manpikin wan rest. I can understand the Ops dilemma. All I would advice is take your time and read through all the advises gotten from this thread both from the pro japaa and anti japaa gangs. There is lots of wisdom in what has been shared on here by both parties. Then ultimately seek divine guidance and take the leap hoping for the very best. Whatever you do though, have a positive and growth mindset and do not regret your decision. I wish you and your family the very best. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by toxtimmy: 1:54pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Fork lift job pays good and you don't have to be answering sir or ma'am all the tine. It goes ves you time after work to enjoy family, yourself and your city. Usefulsense: |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by int0x80(m): 1:59pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Acidosis: |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by SPAMBOX7: 2:00pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Offpointng:OP Don't take this guy serious he's joking |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by dnawah(m): 2:02pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Usefulsense:make i come take ur place? even if na go there the wash toilet,i go get peace of mind. |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by Bouncing2(m): 2:03pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Offpointng: Egbon U de cchop life aswr |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by Zeewirld: 2:04pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
mokset123:...I know people earning above 800 monthly who have Japa self 1 Like |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by MeineMutter: 2:07pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
EleventhWeirdo: That’s like internal transfer at the Big 4. The chances of others ICAN holders getting such job across other companies of no direct link is less than 1%. Add this to it: I was holding ICAN before. I dumped it at them and renounced my membership. |
Re: Japa: I Am Confused, Please Advise. by VULCAN(m): 2:08pm On Sep 02, 2023 |
Congrats in advance Pls where are you learning the forklift driving? I have someone who has been looking for that for a while now Usefulsense: |
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