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Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Nobody: 6:56am On Aug 02, 2012
Passionate lust as a relationship cement, it builds and supports the relationship. Love in a relationship is just a state of mind, an exaggerated version of care. Why not just enjoy the temptation of the flesh? Love and lust are different in a way that lust is physical, while love is a psychological state of the mind that cannot be physically proven. With time, they both may or may not fade and die.



Would you date such person, knowing that when the time comes, it would be hard for you to convince him/her that you want more?
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by ArQueBusieR(m): 8:44am On Aug 02, 2012
I'm hot! Ladies lust for me. I can't help it.
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Jaykizz(m): 9:54am On Aug 02, 2012
Ileke-Idi...hmmm...smh. What is ur own stand on dis?
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by slimyem: 10:15am On Aug 02, 2012
Dating someone like that is crazily interesting but it never ends well...especially if you want more.
You cannot totally divorce emotions from sexual relationships especially with women.someone is definitely going to get hurt!
I could date someone like that and throw caution to the dogs if my body-needs override common sense but of course i'd know its probably gon have a very bad ending.
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Nobody: 10:21am On Aug 02, 2012
Define your relationship from inception and you wont have such a situation. Know what you want first of all. If it is love you want and your partner is not interested, jump boat!

Why do we create unpleasant scenarios for ourselves and then get heartbroken when the scenario comes to fruition?
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Okijajuju1(m): 10:22am On Aug 02, 2012
Ileke-IdI:
Passionate lust as a relationship cement, it builds and supports the relationship. Love in a relationship is just a state of mind, an exaggerated version of care. Why not just enjoy the temptation of the flesh? Love and lust are different in a way that lust is physical, while love is a psychological state of the mind that cannot be physically proven. With time, they both may or may not fade and die.



Would you date such person, knowing that when the time comes, it would be hard for you to convince him/her that you want more?


Whats the problem here?!

Are you asking if I would date someone who is lusting after me way more than she loves me?!
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Rocktation(f): 12:10pm On Aug 02, 2012
Live for every moment and own everything you want. There are risks involved in both indeed. With the denial and all, you'd think that none of this type ever comes out scathed. You might be shocked indeed.
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by tpia5: 12:17pm On Aug 02, 2012
Too much grammer on the thread.

Can a booty call develop into a serious relationship, or can a guy who only believes in casual s.ex, change his ways, is the question being asked.

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Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Nobody: 12:32pm On Aug 02, 2012
Both exhibit the same enthusiasm, thus to differentiate between them is very very difficult. Better enjoy the "temptation of the flesh" in the knowledge that it's transient than feel you are in love and suddenly wake up to the sad reality that you were wrong afterall.
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Nobody: 10:04pm On Aug 02, 2012
Okija_juju:


Whats the problem here?!

Are you asking if I would date someone who is lusting after me way more than she loves me?!

If you can date a girl who only lusts after you and doesn't believe in love.
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Nobody: 10:05pm On Aug 02, 2012
Jaykizz: Ileke-Idi...hmmm...smh. What is ur own stand on dis?

I'm actually posting from my perspective.

Lust over Love. Lust is more tangible and visible, than the mind game (Love) girls/boys love to play.
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Nobody: 10:07pm On Aug 02, 2012
@Slim/sexkillz

The thing is, most guys/girls think they can change someone with that mindset. But it's not always possible.
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Jaykizz(m): 11:57am On Aug 03, 2012
Ileke-IdI:


I'm actually posting from my perspective.

Lust over Love. Lust is more tangible and visible, than the mind game (Love) girls/boys love to play.
HELL NO DEN!!!
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Okijajuju1(m): 3:38pm On Aug 03, 2012
Ileke-IdI:


If you can date a girl who only lusts after you and doesn't believe in love.



YES!!!

Lust can be way more powerful than love you know.. Infact, the only difference I see between both is Love is calmer as against lust which is wild and raw.

If she really really lusts after me, I will date her. As long as it dosent get posessive.
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Nobody: 3:41pm On Aug 03, 2012
Okija_juju:


YES!!!

Lust can be way more powerful than love you know.. Infact, the only difference I see between both is Love is calmer as against lust which is wild and raw.

If she really really lusts after me, I will date her. As long as it dosent get possessive.

Yepp true. Analogy: Hard/fast s[i]e[/i]x = Lust, Slow and passionate s[i]e[/i]x = Love.

So you don't mind that you might end up falling in love with her, while she may NEVER return your love? Cool cool
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Okijajuju1(m): 3:43pm On Aug 03, 2012
Ileke-IdI:


Yepp true. Analogy: Hard/fast s[i]e[/i]x = Lust, Slow and passionate s[i]e[/i]x = Love.

So you don't mind that you might end up falling in love with her, while she may NEVER return your love? Cool cool

Yup!!

As long as she nevers lusts after another or love another.. cool
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Nobody: 3:44pm On Aug 03, 2012
100% cosign cool
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by LordReed(m): 7:45pm On Aug 05, 2012
Okija_juju:

Yup!!

As long as she nevers lusts after another or love another.. cool

She will.

Okija_juju:


YES!!!

Lust can be way more powerful than love you know.. Infact, the only difference I see between both is Love is calmer as against lust which is wild and raw.

If she really really lusts after me, I will date her. As long as it dosent get posessive.

It will.

Ileke-IdI:


I'm actually posting from my perspective.

Lust over Love. Lust is more tangible and visible, than the mind game (Love) girls/boys love to play.

What drives lust (in all its forms) is a desire to possess. Greed is guaranteed by lust, it is designed to fulfil only the originators goal and doesn't care who is hurt in the process.

Do I want such a thing? No Ms Idi.

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Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by pendo89(f): 8:09pm On Aug 05, 2012
Ileke-IdI:
With time, they both may or may not fade and die.
Would you date such person, knowing that when the time comes, it would be hard for you to convince him/her that you want more?

A good relationship IMO must encompasses both lust and love.
Lust makes you sexually appealing to me.It's more physical than emotional.
Love will make me stick with you when that appeal is lost,In other words it's about an emotional connection.

So,If I want nothing but a fling then lust alone is just fine.
But if am hoping for a lifetime thing,I will look beyond lust and ask myself, what it will take to keep the relationship going on.
That's where love comes into play
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by LordReed(m): 8:51pm On Aug 05, 2012
pendo89:

A good relationship IMO must encompasses both lust and love.
Lust makes you sexually appealing to me.It's more physical than emotional.
Love will make me stick with you when that appeal is lost,In other words it's about an emotional connection.

So,If I want nothing but a fling then lust alone is just fine.
But if am hoping for a lifetime thing,I will look beyond lust and ask myself, what it will take to keep the relationship going on.
That's where love comes into play

Lust and sexual attraction are two different things. Lust is strongly driven desire and it tends to consumption unlike mere sexual attraction. I advise you not to seek lust from anybody, it usually doesn't end well.
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by pendo89(f): 9:05pm On Aug 05, 2012
Lord_Reed:

Lust and sexual attraction are two different things. Lust is strongly driven desire and it tends to consumption unlike mere sexual attraction. I advise you not to seek lust from anybody, it usually doesn't end well.

In this context I refer to sexual lust but I understand you well.
In short a love filled relationship is devoid of sexual lust?
what would u call a strong overwhelming sexual attraction? is it okay to feel it? will you try to suppress it so that it becomes a mere sexual attraction?
Just asking
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by LordReed(m): 9:22pm On Aug 05, 2012
pendo89:

In this context I refer to sexual lust but I understand you well.
In short a love filled relationship is devoid of sexual lust?
what would u call a strong overwhelming sexual attraction? is it okay to feel it? will you try to suppress it so that it becomes a mere sexual attraction?
Just asking




Se[b]x[/b]ual attraction is natural and it's okay to feel it, in fact it is necessary for a successful romantic/marriage relationship. Strong overwhelming se[b]x[/b]ual attraction is the seed for lust and will become lust if unchecked. The key as in all is moderation but lust cannot be moderated.
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Tolaaaaannni(f): 9:42pm On Aug 05, 2012
Nope i wouldn't date such a person, because lust is nothing but attraction. And your attraction to someone can always fade, considering the fact that we get older everyday. I don't see how such a relationship can last. undecided
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Nobody: 4:30am On Aug 06, 2012
Tolaaaaannni: Nope i wouldn't date such a person, because lust is nothing but attraction. And your attraction to someone can always fade, considering the fact that we get older everyday. I don't see how such a relationship can last. undecided

Love also fades. . . .true or fake. They both fade.
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Nobody: 4:37am On Aug 06, 2012
Lord_Reed:

She will.



It will.



What drives lust (in all its forms) is a desire to possess. Greed is guaranteed by lust, it is designed to fulfil only the originators goal and doesn't care who is hurt in the process.

Do I want such a thing? No Ms Idi.

Greed and possession are also guaranteed by Love. The need to possess Person A by Person B both emotionally and physically, and sometimes spiritually.


pendo89:

A good relationship IMO must encompasses both lust and love.
Lust makes you sexually appealing to me.It's more physical than emotional.
Love will make me stick with you when that appeal is lost,In other words it's about an emotional connection.

So,If I want nothing but a fling then lust alone is just fine.
But if am hoping for a lifetime thing,I will look beyond lust and ask myself, what it will take to keep the relationship going on.
That's where love comes into play


"Good relationship" is subjective and often differs from one person to another.

A passionate, mind blowing, explosive sexual relationship with emotional string attached IS good.
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by Nobody: 5:46am On Aug 06, 2012
Ileke-IdI:


Love also fades. . . .true or fake. They both fade.



Yep, Both eventually Burn out. Love does not Last Forever, and Neither does Lust.

I agree with my wife Eke-Id
Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by LordReed(m): 7:08am On Aug 06, 2012
Ileke-IdI:


Greed and possession are also guaranteed by Love. The need to possess Person A by Person B both emotionally and physically, and sometimes spiritually.





"Good relationship" is subjective and often differs from one person to another.

A passionate, mind blowing, explosive sexual relationship with emotional string attached IS good.

I don't know where you get your definition of love from but I know that love can never be greedy. If love ever becomes possessive then it has become corrupted into obsession which is no longer love in any case.

I also don't think Good Relationship is particularly subjective. If someone considers killing his Gfs during sex as good relationship will be acceptable? There are baseline qualities of good relationship.

A passionate, mind blowing, explosive sexual relationship with emotional string attached is not always the same as lust.

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Re: Dating Someone Who Believes That Lust Is More Substantial Than Love. . . . by LordReed(m): 7:12am On Aug 06, 2012
~Royal~:


Yep, Both eventually Burn out. Love does not Last Forever, and Neither does Lust.

I agree with my wife Eke-Id
Ileke-IdI:


Love also fades. . . .true or fake. They both fade.



Trees also die but they usually out last their planters no?

Nurtured properly love can out last a persons lifetime.

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