My name is Dayo. I’m a typical Nigerian guy and I cherish my Fridays a lot; I get to hang out with the sickest guys every Friday night and secondly, It’s another escape from my nagging and boring wife. I get confused sometimes on whether she’s my mother or my wife. Don’t get it twisted; I love her pieces. It just gets complicated; like I wish we never got married…marriage has turned her into something that doesn’t amuse me. I wish she was still the adventurous, charming, high spirited lady I dated for five years.

A lot of people say its unethical for married guys to be found in a club, but I wish everyone won’t be too quick to judge and understand that people look for fun to run away from their problems; they just want to breathe, like me.

I forgot to say that I work in Guarantee Trust Bank along Lekki, I love my job and my job loves me, maybe its because I’m the senior banking officer. Lol. This particular morning, a lady breezed into my office. My heart raced faster because I had not sighted anything this beautiful in a long while. She wasn’t the typical slender Barbie, in fact, she was a bit chubby but her smile, cuteness and…I was tripped.

“Hi Good morning! Your ATM has swallowed my card!” She laughed, unlike a typical customer that would ram you.

I just tried to form Boss laughter…

“Good morning, You know what? I’d personally make sure they get it out for you, but not today. Can you wait till Monday?” I smiled

“GTB shaaa! OK, can I just drop my number so you could call me up or just text when its ready so I don’t come twice? Please? My name is Nancy” She blinked her eyes in a funny way.

“Sure” I smiled

We exchanged numbers. What a lucky Friday!

So it was 10:00pm and I headed to the club…as usual my friends were chilling for me. My wife had called a couple of times, I just ignored it. She knows I’m never home Friday nights.

“Look at you!” I heard someone say. I raised my head and it was the ATM lady-Nancy.

“Wow, look at you too!” I was surprised to see her but I was happy I didn’t have to wait till Monday to see her again.

“Happy Friday!” She screamed because of the noise, “Wanna dance?”

I didn’t even have the chance to answer, she already pulled me to dance floor. I really suck at dancing but she helped me; she was a great dancer! I had fun! At some point we decided to go to a private area and we talked, ranging from work, business to personal life. I tried to hide my ring as much as possible, I certainly didn’t want this to end now.

“You are a really wonderful lady. You are so interesting…any guy would want to be with you all day” I said.

“I wasn’t always like this but I have learned the hard way that life is just too short to be sad” she sang

Then her phone rang…

“Hey baby! Yeah I’m at the private lounge, I’d like you to meet someone…alright boo” she talked excitedly as usual.

I was in shock until this tall handsome man walks up to her and kisses her.

“You were late. Meet Dayo; I met him this morning, he’s helping with your ATM I told you got swallowed and Dayo this is my B to the O-O,” she laughed “Meet my husband Kolade, we only come here to dance every fortnight Friday; away from work, stress and kids.”

“Wow, a pleasure” I managed to shake him

Then she stood now excitedly holding her husband’s arms.

“Why don’t we invite Dayo for Mimi’s 16th birthday tomorrow?” Her husband said

They have kids too? How long have they been married and they look like a couple just dating!

“Silly me, please come for my second daughter’s 16th tomorrow. It would be an honor” She brought out an I.V from her purse.

I began to feel so ashamed of myself…this was another guy like me, getting it right with one woman.

I collected the I.V and promised to be there.

“See you tomorrow! Have you had something to eat Kolade?” she talked and dragged her husband along.

They left and I kept staring at the thin air like I had seen a ghost. They come just to dance together every fortnight Fridays? Why didn’t I think of that! Temi loves to dance…she also likes long walks, she loves to talk…she loves jazz music, there’s this vivid picture I have of me putting her hand on my chest when we danced at a jazz club on our first year anniversary…I found myself typing all the things I knew Temi loved to do on my Ipad and I realized I had denied her of all…I had made her the old woman she acts.

What the hell was I doing here! I didn’t even tell my friends goodbye, I walked out of the club into my Jaguar. Temi’s call came through and I picked at first ring.

“Temi?” My heart raced

“I know you are not coming home…”

“I am, stay up so we can gist. Been a while” I decided to do everything on that list and to even add many more for the rest of my lifetime with her.

“Are you alright?” She was shocked I suppose

“And I’d like us to go for a birthday party tomorrow. I want you to meet this amazing couple”

“You sound different Dayo”

“Maybe I’m different”

“Don’t say it! don’t say it! when you come we will gist very well” she laughed

She laughed!!! In just that laughter that I hadn’t heard in a while, she sounded like the lady I married six years ago…

Dear reader,

I wrote this natural piece just to remind us that creating memorable moments with our partner matters. Do you know that little things are the sweetest things? Just creating time to gist and laugh with your partner, having a day in the week that’s exclusively for you both-No friends or kids allowed.

Lady, when last have you told your partner he is so darn hot? Guy! When last have you told your lady she is the sweetest thing? When last have you whispered ‘Thank you’? When last have you been quick to say ‘I’m sorry’?

Do you even have a clue on what your partner loves to do?

When you ignore little things, they are the little pieces of rocks that build up to become a mountain you can’t easily break down.

Pay attention to little things, believe that they
work and experience new bliss!

Hmmmmm
This is so so emotional..
I can't hold back my tears..
Thanks for sharing!

Adegeorge the writer engaging in "W4C"- Writing 4 Change. I don't do clubs but I hope to be a sweet husband.

Nice one, loved every bit.

maclatunji: Adegeorge the writer engaging in "W4C"- Writing 4 Change. I don't do clubs but I hope to be a sweet husband.

In all honesty, i dont understand what you mean by W4C??/

sucezTP: Hmmmmm
This is so so emotional..
I can't hold back my tears..
Thanks for sharing!

Tears common girl...its not meant to be emotional...its only a way of telling us (men) to see through and respect what we have (our better halves).
Anyway thanks for liking.

As for the tears...ok lemmee cheer you up...Read on...

A MUST READ: THE SORRY BUT FUNNY STORY OF TWO FLIRTS ON A PLANE

There was an attractive female flight attendant who was being hounded by two flirts; one at the front of the plane and the other at the back. She was obviously put off by the very forward & aggressive advances being made by these two men, but she kept right on doing her job. Near the end of the flight, one of the men became particularly bold. As the plane was about to land, he handed her a key to his apartment with a note containing his house address written on it and said, “See you tonight”. The flight attendant took it & walked directly to the back of the plane. She handed the key and the note to the other flirt, winked and said, “Don’t be late”. I’ll bet that there were two confused men at the apartment that evening.

Friends, when your life lack self control, then shame, confusion and dishonor become your end product. So seriously, if you were one of those two men, what would be your reaction?

adegeorge:

Its only a way of telling us (men) to see through and respect what we have (our better halves).
Anyway thanks for liking.

You see something you feel isn't it right: Men don't respect their wives(women) enough (in your opinion)and you are trying to change that by putting-up what you "wrote" in your opening post. This my brother is an example of "Writing 4 Change" W4C. You get it now?

[quote author=maclatunji]

You see something you feel isn't it right: Men don't respect their wives(women) enough (in your opinion)and you are trying to change that by putting-up what you "wrote" in your opening post. This my brother is an example of "Writing 4 Change" W4C. You get it now?[/quote

yep...i got ya now

I imagined what that woman went through in the hands of her husband, that prompted her to nag and what the husband was thinking when he left for club without taking his wife along..

On the other hand, what if that lady didn't introduce her husband to dayo in that manner, and he took that advantage to cheat on his wife rather than proffering solutions to those happenings!

A man knows how to treat a woman right but, he's only careful with doing the right thing, so that she wouldn't take him for granted and vice visa.
Now, no one to break the jinx and everyone keeps doing the wrong thing like nagging...

If that event at the club that night was enough to chase dayo back to his wife and if it was good enough to stop his wife from nagging, i see no reason why men should cheat....

sucezTP: I imagined what that woman went through in the hands of her husband, that prompted her to nag and what the husband was thinking when he left for club without taking his wife along..

On the other hand, what if that lady didn't introduce her husband to dayo in that manner, and he took that advantage to cheat on his wife rather than proffering solutions to those happenings!

A man knows how to treat a woman right but, he's only careful with doing the right thing, so that she wouldn't take him for granted and vice visa.
Now, no one to break the jinx and everyone keeps doing the wrong thing like nagging...

If that event at the club that night was enough to chase dayo back to his wife and if it was good enough to stop his wife from nagging, i see no reason why men should cheat....

Men cheat because we are polygamous by nature. It would only take a disciplined and mature man to be faithful to his wife till the end.

Old story!

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Men cheat because we are polygamous by nature.

The last tym someone made that statement, i became curious as to why everyone keeps saying same thing!
Now, what are the criteria that make men to be polygamous by nature?!

now see what u made do,......kudos. Really nice piece

[quote author=sucezTP][/quote]

I don't know. It's not something you can explain. It might be something genetic. It's just there, that's the way we are and as I've said in my previous comment, only a disciplined man and a matured man at mind would be faithful to his wife till the end.

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^^Well, u made a point!
But! I don't think all men are polygamous by nature. I beg you, not to generalise. I will assume there are some with outstanding features out there...

sucezTP: ^^Well, u made a point!
But! I don't think all men are polygamous by nature. I beg you, not to generalise. I will assume there are some with outstanding features out there...

Ok!, good luck searching.

Searching?! Gone are those days!

sucezTP: Searching?! Gone are those days!

You're no more searching? How do you mean? Are you currently in a relationship or do you support my thesis that all men are thesame and we are polygamous by nature?.

druid06:

You're no more searching? How do you mean? Are you currently in a relationship or do you support my thesis that all men are thesame and we are polygamous by nature?.

firstly, i'm into a relationship, and that was why i said, gone are those days!

I'm not supporting your thesis. You should have deduced from my last comment, when i said i'll assume that, there are still some with outstanding features.

Although, assumptions are not always wrong but they shouldn't be relied on...

sucezTP:

firstly, i'm into a relationship, and that was why i said, gone are those days!

I'm not supporting your thesis. You should have deduced from my last comment, when i said i'll assume that, there are still some with outstanding features.

Although, assumptions are not always wrong but they shouldn't be relied on...

Hmm, ok.