I am very surprised at the rate in which most Nigerian marriages in America end up in separation and divorce. These are people who got married back in Nigeria and everything seem to be going fine, all for them to win visa lottery and they find themselves in the states. As time goes on the husband/wife notices a difference in the husband/wife which leads to everyday quarrel. The men are like the ladies are moving with people they are not suppose to move around with. At times it is the husband visiting strip clubs and spending money on "Akata". The broken homes among Nigerians is very high. The sad thing is that most of these couples do not consider their children.

I don't think the divorce/separation/abandonment rate here in the States when it comes to Nigerians, is that much different from that obtained with those in Nigeria. The reason I say this is cause, in Nigeria, you do have an equally high rate of abandonment/separation , and maybe to a lesser extent divorce( mostly due to the stigma society still ties to it). There is a high rate of abandonment when it comes to Nigerian marriages. however with the more relaxed view of divorce here in the States, the same Nigerians become more willing to get out of the dead end marriage, than sit tight in the same dead end marriage thinking it helps their image in some way.

sophy09: I am very surprised at the rate in which most Nigerian marriages in America end up in separation and divorce. These are people who got married back in Nigeria and everything seem to be going fine, all for them to win visa lottery and they find themselves in the states. As time goes on the husband/wife notices a difference in the husband/wife which leads to everyday quarrel. The men are like the ladies are moving with people they are not suppose to move around with. At times it is the husband visiting strip clubs and spending money on "Akata". The broken homes among Nigerians is very high. The sad thing is that most of these couples do not consider their children.

nigerian marriages are shyte everywhere these days cos most got married for the wrong reasons and once they have achieved the sole aim of getting what they wanted in the marriage, it becomes tasteless and boring - then they seek pleasure outside the marriage!
it's the effect of civilisation - tomorrow would take care of the affected children - let the adults "play"!!!!

Wow!! Those who are single are running in while the married ones are running out. Crazy world

sophy09: Wow!! Those who are single are running in while the married ones are running out. Crazy world

a lot of people are still happily married - it's just that bad news travels fast!

Its the same everywhere only that those in US realize they have an option and shouldnt be stuck unnecesarily in such marriages

dayokanu: Its the same everywhere only that those in US realize they have an option and shouldnt be stuck unnecesarily in such marriages

what are the options in the states?

coogar:

what are the options in the states?

Maybe in the states, The women are more productive economically and are on the average more financially independent than those in Africa.
They wont take crap in a marriage for too long because they can fend for themselves.

In Nigeria for example when your husband cheats or beat the crap out of you, but you still need him for tomorrows feeding, How would you make a complaint

In Naija some women dont even mind their husband cheating as long as " He comes home to me" or "I am still the legally recognized Mrs"

Also in America maybe divorce is not as demonized as in Naija

They have the option of divorce and child support

sophy09: They have the option of divorce and child support

The minute you provide the same in Nigeria, you would immediately notice a spike in divorce rates there as well. I mean it is getting there as some of the states now have better laws to protect women and children than used to be the case.

Societies around the world are experiencing a change from the old ways of considering women and men as essentially sub-humans to a new way of seeing them as EQUALS in relationships, and so it is to be expected that now(not other time before now) even Nigerians who have previously thought their situation hopeless, now see a way out that seems valid and more accepted than it used to be. And as we expect law enforcement and the justice system to improve in this area, in the coming years, we should also brace for an increase in divorce rate, something that is not happening everywhere, even in the some of the most previously closed-up societies.

sophy09: They have the option of divorce and child support

...and alimony

It just proves that MARRIAGE is a do or die affair in Nigeria and not in the US!
Poverty makes women stay in marriages in Nigeria.
Not so in the USA. Divorce is not a stigma amongst Nigerian or any other group of people in the USA!
We are not forced to stay together like DESPERADOS!