My parents seperated when i was still a little boy but now I am 19 to be 20 next month, an undergraduate and it baffles me that i dont know my mum. My dad remarried but my mum didnt. I hate my stepmother and her children(funny enough, their son resembles me) with passion and they know it. I'm hungry for my mother and i dont know if i should go and look for her or i'm i too young? Kindly advise, i'll answer any question.

20 is too young?

Just tell us you do not love your mother as much as you claim and be done with it.

and your mum never called to check ?

acidosis™:
and your mum never called to check ?

i wouldn't know because i live and school in lagos but she resides in her home town in abia.

Why not concentrate with ur skoolin 1st,wen ur don u can fully tke up d course of lookin 4her,by den u wld hav added sum years to ur age. But try n ask ur fada of her where about.

delighted10:

i wouldn't know because i live and school in lagos but she resides in her home town in abia.

Knowing she's in Abia is a good start. Where exactly?

delighted10: My parents seperated when i was still a little boy but now I am 19 to be 20 next month, an undergraduate and it baffles me that i dont know my mum. My dad remarried but my mum didnt. I hate my stepmother and her children(funny enough, their son resembles me) with passion and they know it. I'm hungry for my mother and i dont know if i should go and look for her or i'm i too young? Kindly advise, i'll answer any question.

19 to be 20,bro u are not a kid any more,ask ur father the reason he seperated from ur mother,accept his reason,explain how sorry you are
but u will like to speak with her she is ur mother, u know that u may sound wrong or right to him but u will like him to do that as a favour to u
u dont want to ask outside because u love and believe in him

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There is no way this will not definately spring up, blood is thicker than water, and d bond btw mother and child cannot be easily broken. So, just tell your father how you feel not knowing your mum and that its high time you want to know her, let him realise how much u appreciate him for what he has been doing in your life and that u will appreciate him more if he allows u to have contact with your mum, also, let him realise dt if he refuse to let u now, u definately know dt she will look for u and find you and that by then, u could have developed a kind of hatred for him for refusing u at d initial stage. Also, let him realise dt u feel incomplete and embarrassed each time u remember your mum,also, let him realise dt there may be an argument over who fathers a child but there can never be any argument over who mothers a child, d4, if he refuse u getting in contact with your mum,implies that he doesnt really empathise with you. With these few tips, i wish u goodluck in your search. May God grant u favour and direct your path towards success......... Amen.

delighted10: My parents seperated when i was still a little boy but now I am 19 to be 20 next month. An undergraduate and it baffles me that i dont know my mum.

Why are you baffled...you should be glad that you had the opportunity of going to school.

Most kids that had similar experience with you ended up on the streets, some dropped out of high school, others can barely boast of two meals per day.

You are a man..Stop complaining and start looking for ways on how you can make your life a success..

delighted10: My dad remarried but my mum didnt.

Well its his life...and it would be very wrong for you to tell him how to live it...since he felt he should get married, and eventually did...I would suggest that you accept your step mum and respect her like you would have don't to your mum...two wrongs cannot make a right.

delighted10: I hate my stepmother and her children(funny enough, their son resembles me) with passion and they know it.

What's your reason for hating her...you cannot possibly hate someone for no good reason.

She might not be your mum...true, but hating her wouldn't solve whatever problem you find yourself in.

Sit down and think...if your real mum really loved you, why hasn't she come to see you all these years...I would suggest that you begin to show her (your step mum) and your step brothers/sisters love and respect if at all you want to progress in life.

You cannot keep biting the fingers that feed you and expect all to be well with you...life doesn't work that way.

delighted10: I'm hungry for my mother and i dont know if i should go and look for her or i'm i too young?

Hmmm...I wouldn't suggest that you search for her...you are her son.

She carried you for nine months, nursed you, brought you up...if she truly loves you, and you mean a lot to her, she should be the one searching for you and not the other way round.

Her prolonged silence could be translated to mean that she has either moved on (married another man) she might be dead (ruled out cos you said she's in Abia state), or she doesn't really value you that much.

You said she's in Abia state right? Have you asked yourself the kind of job she's been doing all these years in Abia state that she doesn't even have time to put a call across to you, a common phone call to atleast hear your voice.?

delighted10: Kindly advise, i'll answer any question.

Move on with your life...and show some respect to your step mum.

Be serious with your education, and stay away from bad company.

And you would have no regrets in life.

Good luck.