cooldude62:

hi all, i want to know what you all feel about girls who say guys must marry them because they are above 30 years old and thereby should not be heart broken in a relationship.
Please,are we not supposed to take into cognizance the behavior or health status of the lady before we go ahead to marry her?

read my own story,
i met a girl where i was working before,we started a relationship and i was determined to have it good for both of us,
i discovered however that whenever we made love, she released a colored substance which i found not usual, i was worried and i told her to go for a test, in fact,i took her down for the test,
the test revealed she had a chronic Pelvic Inflammatory Disease!!!
I goggled that and i wasn't happy with what i discovered, We went for the treatment and the stuff still persisted!
i also noticed that before then,we had sex without condom almost all the time but she never got pregnant!
I honestly wanted a baby and might have used her getting pregnant as a pre-requisite to our tieing the knot.
After what i discovered,i decided to dump her,although with style. I traveled to another state and we stopped communicating.
she got the message anyway,

Now my question is, should i have stayed with her because she was 30something after knowing she might not be able to conceive?
Most people who don't know why i dumped her (i kept it secret for her sake) kept saying i was unfair to her!
What do you all feel? Was i unfair?

tRoOE:

This is what happens when women wait still their late twenties and early thirty before thinking about settling down or planning to have a baby.

adeboo:

But sometimes its not her fault now that she is still single at that age - different issues affect us in life now.

almondjoy:

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!

Na wo oh, Aj i know you want to say something

fatty27:

It depends. You are right however to dump and unproductive lady before marriage. That is if she had tried getting pregnant and failed.

Most of 30plus ladies are not ready to settle down anyway. Check their past before you dive.

4 Play:

Even if na livestock we dey talk of.

tRoOE:

Na wo oh, Aj i know you want to say something

tRoOE:

This is what happens when women wait still their late twenties and early thirty before thinking about settling down or planning to have a baby.


We women have to pay close attention to our body and health, maybe if she has seen her gynecologist early, they would have been able to help her and who knows what she has done in the past , i won't be surprise if she has been around the whole block

spoilt:

where does one even start to enlighten you? I'll just save saliva. this is an ignorant post.

cute-ass:

@ ifyalways

Thats a funny one you had up there, but sha i'm not thanking anybody for him to be honest Cos if she had turned out to be HIV+ he would habve had himself (and himself alone) to blame. Who goes having sex with a stranger once not to talk of million times without a blood test??


@ poster

This is not the right time for you to say she isnt or wasnt a stranger . . as long as both of you have never been to a blood test, shes's a complete stranger to your sexual system

Now lets talk about your crimes . .

No 1) If you really had a wish/plan/hope of marrying this girl or having a baby with her without going for an all-through test?? My guy, are you sure you're of this millenium or you're a number of "my case is different"?? And no its not just about the sexually transmitted diseases or the internal body diseases which could prevent one party from concieving but its also about being sexually compartible.

No 2) Leaving the age thingy aside, how much did you love this girl?? Not that much i'm guessing. If her disease wasn't an incurrable one, how much did you fight to make her whole and hearty?? If you really had this big dream of having her as a partner, to what extent did you fight to show her what unconditional love is all about?? Did the doctor ever tell you the sickness affects her in anyway??

No 3) How would you feel if a girl moved to another city because you accidentally broke your nose? I can't mandate you stuck with her but my dear after the long time u guys spent together and the level of intimacy you shared, don't you think she deserve(d) more than just a "lost communication"

I personally do not think you love this girl beyond doubts, so yes, you did the right thing by her!

Islander:

LOL, Missy I am not going to contribute anymore, since You have beaten me to it, ( how u dey?
I must say I agree with you 101%, Education is the best and ONLY way to deal with ignorant posts, Then sometimes it is too late to even administer such,

cute-ass:

Hey hey, how are you love?? W[b]ell i'm expecting your call like TRoOE said oo, don't forget or the New-York dogs will be out for you [/b]@ TRoOE

I salute

cute-ass:


@ TRoOE

I salute

I salute you back sweetie

Islander:

LOL, so i see.hmmmmmmm she has passed ma message on, great, I will be back by weekend, so rest assured I am calling your Cute ass when I do ,

Salute who? that crazed one?

Come one am not that craze jare , sorry was suppose to IM you after the movie but damn i slept up in the process, and just waking up sef because E was the one that woke me oh, i guess we talk tomm then. good luck with your exam