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A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Cullinane: 3:39pm On Feb 08, 2013
Look, for the record, am not a person who practices tribalism. Neither am I from any one of the 3 major tribes of Nigeria (Igbo, Hausa & Yoruba). I have lots of Igbo and Yoruba friends. There is something I have noticed in Lagos. Lots of Igbo ladies marrying Yoruba guys. I haven't seen a Yoruba lady marrying an Igbo man. If that does happen, I bet its rare. I know there are a lot of hardworking and educated Igbo men in Lagos so I wonder what gives.

Everyone should try to protect his/her culture. Kids these days don't even speak the parent's native language. Disturbing. Just went through facebook and got an invite from my friend, she's Igbo, marrying a Yoruba guy. Oh well. God weaves as he wills I guess. Please your comment will be highly appreciated so as to give me more insight into this. Please no tribalism bull$hit. Not the intention of this thread.

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Nobody: 3:50pm On Feb 08, 2013
so you want them to wait for a man that will not be there
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by victorian(f): 3:53pm On Feb 08, 2013
You want them to grow old with grey hair still waiting?... Some men? You won't marry Her.....and You don't want someonelse to marry her.. angry... It's a bad mindset... Leave the Igbo girls to marry, where they have gotten a home to call theirs.
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Nobody: 4:05pm On Feb 08, 2013
Cullinane: Please no tribalism bull$hit.

I'm sorry but I don't see how you can attempt to take a moral high ground after your OP. you feel Igbo girls have lost their way solely based on the fact that they marry Yoruba guys and in the next breath try to decry tribalism? I don't think they go together.

You say you are not Igbo, then why the focus on Igbo girls and Yoruba guys? What about multiple other intertribal marriages?

Nothing wrong with intertribal marriages as long as they have a solid foundation and a united front in confronting challenges they may face. About the concern with children not speaking the language, it can be done even when both parents don't speak the same language. Effort just has to be put into it. I know a youn child of a Norwegian mother and Spanish dad who understands, speaks both languages as well as English.

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by MrGlobe(m): 4:08pm On Feb 08, 2013
@op, its only natural. Igbo women are beautiful, clean, can cook well and uphold the sanctity of marriage unlike their contemporaries so its only right every one was to marry them. On the other hand, the reason why Yoruba men are running from their women is also the reason why igbos too don't marry them. I really pity them sha.

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by baby124: 4:21pm On Feb 08, 2013
Mr. Globe:
@op, its only natural. Igbo women are beautiful, clean, can cook well and uphold the sanctity of marriage unlike their contemporaries so its only right every one was to marry them. On the other hand, the reason why Yoruba men are running from their women is also the reason why igbos too don't marry them. I really pity them sha.

If your women were all this, you will not feel the need to run around the whole NL shouting the same line. Your post reeks of low self esteem, and trying hard to prove a point that is not true. Now, can we ban these mosquitos and childish element, with small pricks from the family section. undecided. In putting Yoruba women down, has it stopped them from getting married? You need help. Mental one.

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by nobniger: 4:24pm On Feb 08, 2013
One needs to rise above ethnocentrism and state facts irrespectives of whose toes you step into. Not easy to be politically correct here, you're not a tribalist at all(poster}, its an observable fact and I have noticed that too. I think the Igbo culture frown at unmarried woman of age more than the Yoruba culture would and so, to Igbo women,getting married,out ways every other consideration. Again, because of cultural differences, Yoruba men are more likely to marry Igbo women and appreciate them more than Igbo men would to Yoruba women. Remember, we're tlking about marriage, not dating
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by gbanikiti(m): 4:31pm On Feb 08, 2013
Mr. Globe:
@op, its only natural. Igbo women are beautiful, clean, can cook well and uphold the sanctity of marriage unlike their contemporaries so its only right every one was to marry them. On the other hand, the reason why Yoruba men are running from their women is also the reason why igbos too don't marry them. I really pity them sha.
So why do Yoruba men don't marry their women if i may ask?
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Cullinane: 4:43pm On Feb 08, 2013
ileobatojo:

I'm sorry but I don't see how you can attempt to take a moral high ground after your OP. you feel Igbo girls have lost their way solely based on the fact that they marry Yoruba guys and in the next breath try to decry tribalism? I don't think they go together.

You say you are not Igbo, then why the focus on Igbo girls and Yoruba guys? What about multiple other intertribal marriages?

Nothing wrong with intertribal marriages as long as they have a solid foundation and a united front in confronting challenges they may face. About the concern with children not speaking the language, it can be done even when both parents don't speak the same language. Effort just has to be put into it. I know a youn child of a Norwegian mother and Spanish dad who understands, speaks both languages as well as English.
I was referring to the culture thing. Most inter-tribal marriages "in Lagos" are heavily Westernized. In my own opinion I should add.
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Mavor: 4:45pm On Feb 08, 2013
nobniger: One needs to rise above ethnocentrism and state facts irrespectives of whose toes you step into. Not easy to be politically correct here, you're not a tribalist at all(poster}, its an observable fact and I have noticed that too. I think the Igbo culture frown at unmarried woman of age more than the Yoruba culture would and so, to Igbo women,getting married,out ways every other consideration. Again, because of cultural differences, Yoruba men are more likely to marry Igbo women and appreciate them more than Igbo men would to Yoruba women. Remember, we're tlking about marriage, not dating
It's very difficult opening this kind of threads in nairaland without being painted as something you are not. This country is so divided.
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Nobody: 5:01pm On Feb 08, 2013
OP have you ever thought of this?

*Why Yoruba women don't marry Igbo men?
*Why most Igbo damsels end up with Yoruba men and over their dead body marry Emeka from holland? After all he's not bad looking atall.

Hardly you see a Yoruba gal looking desperately and ends up with an Igbo man unless she's over 35 yepa! but it's common Igbo gals run after Yoruba men.

@Globe with diarrhea of the mouth spewing rubbish bout Yoruba girls... we ain't leeches booboo we work hard and have a say , ummm I guess that's the reason Yoruba men run and marry Igbo women they can order around as long as there's money to spoil them with.

Don't get me started okay?... fvcking feigning tribalists !!!

#I'm not gonna pretend diplomacy in this topic!

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by 2mch(m): 5:17pm On Feb 08, 2013
OP,

Why are most ibo/Igbo women into prostitution?

Is it cultural? Why do ibo/Igbo women keep doing runs when married?

Is it cultural?

Why do ibo/igbo women like money so much that they sell themselves in marriage?

Again, is it cultural?

They must have not lost their way.

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Ndata(m): 5:22pm On Feb 08, 2013
Hardly you see a Yoruba gal looking desperately and ends up with an Igbo man unless she's over 35 yepa! but it's common Igbo gals run after Yoruba men

What will an average Igbo man do with a Yoruba lady as a wife?. A culture where married women have no regard for sanctity of marriage.

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by 2mch(m): 5:25pm On Feb 08, 2013
Ndata:

What will an average Igbo man do with a Yoruba lady as a wife?. A culture where married women have no regard for sanctity of marriage.

Like this damsel:

International Energy Insurance big babe, Chinwe Orakwue, has been banished from her matrimonial home of 12 years. Her husband, Azubuike Orakwue, MD/CEo of AZT Furniture Company Limited, humiliated her out of their Wole Ariyo Street, Lekki Phase I, Lagos residence on Friday, January 11, 2013, alongside her mother who had come visiting. Alleging serial adultery and also engaging in fetish practices, neigbours and passersby watched as Chinwe and her mother were marched out what used to be her home by her husband and some of his friends. With her belongings scattered here and there on the street, Chinwe, amidst sobs, managed to get herself composed a little bit before finally convincing a Danfo driver to ferry her and her mother out of the vicinity.

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Nobody: 5:29pm On Feb 08, 2013
Ndata:

What will an average Igbo man do with a Yoruba lady as a wife?. A culture where married women have no regard for sanctity of marriage.

And what's your defination of an 'Average Igbo man' o let me hear... I repeat HARDLY you see a Yoruba gal settle for Igbo man, they rather marry Hausa they don't know from Adam.... or elope with a foreigner cool

Ahhh you crack me up cheesy... sanctity of marriage? where most Igbo married women do runs for money when they're broke? cheesy what a joke!

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by SisiKill1: 5:32pm On Feb 08, 2013
How can you say NO TRIBALISM on a thread titled IGBO GIRLS HAVE LOST THEIR WAYS because they marry Yoruba guys??!!

I tell ya, there are some things you read which just makes a good case for the possibility that people CAN eat their own brains for breakfast. undecided
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Sammiejo: 5:35pm On Feb 08, 2013
I don't think it's about one tribe being better. Let's face it we have more Yoruba men than any other tribes men in Lagos. Ladies are more likely to pick husbands from where they live. So the chances of a proposal from a Yoruba man is higher and consequently lead to more marriages of such. The same would apply if yoruba women were to live in the east, they would like end up with Igbo husbands. It has nothing to do with who supposedly makes a better wife.

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by tpia5: 5:49pm On Feb 08, 2013
reverse psych

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Nobody: 5:59pm On Feb 08, 2013
Sisi_Kill: How can you say NO TRIBALISM on a thread titled IGBO GIRLS HAVE LOST THEIR WAYS because they marry Yoruba guys??!!

I tell ya, there are some things you read which just makes a good case for the possibility that people CAN eat their own brains for breakfast. undecided

My sister, the tin shock me o! The topic is tribalism from head to toe especially because of that title and the fact that it only focuses on 2 specific tribes vs all the multitudes if intertribal marriages in Nigeria. God help us o.
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by nuorlah: 6:18pm On Feb 08, 2013
Yoruba women are very choosy and it appears the Yoruba men generally have the greatest swags.

Igbo girls want them and Yoruba girls want the best of them
The solution would be to have Igbo men step up their games so Yoruba women can be left to gbadun their men.


I am also trying not to be tribalistic grin

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by akintun: 7:09pm On Feb 08, 2013
I know Yoruba girls dat have married Igbo men, d truth is dat majority of people marry women from their tribe.
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Cullinane: 7:31pm On Feb 08, 2013
jidegirl12: OP have you ever thought of this?

*Why Yoruba women don't marry Igbo men?
*Why most Igbo damsels end up with Yoruba men and over their dead body marry Emeka from holland? After all he's not bad looking atall.

Hardly you see a Yoruba gal looking desperately and ends up with an Igbo man unless she's over 35 yepa! but it's common Igbo gals run after Yoruba men.

@Globe with diarrhea of the mouth spewing rubbish bout Yoruba girls... we ain't leeches booboo we work hard and have a say , ummm I guess that's the reason Yoruba men run and marry Igbo women they can order around as long as there's money to spoil them with.

Don't get me started okay?... fvcking feigning tribalists !!!

#I'm not gonna pretend diplomacy in this topic!

2mch: OP,

Why are most ibo women into prostitution?

Is it cultural? Why do they keep doing runs when married?

Is it cultural?

Why do they like money so much that they sell themselves in marriage?

Again, is it cultural?

They must have not lost their way.
You both seem angry. the reason i opened this thread was to know if being in lagos presented a cultural or socio-economic reason for this trend. matured minds please
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Cullinane: 7:34pm On Feb 08, 2013
2mch:

Like this damsel:

One out of a million. every tribe and culture has such tales. c'mon!!!
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by 2mch(m): 7:36pm On Feb 08, 2013
This one nko?

The story that has unfolded in the home of actor, Ruke Amata and the famous Amata clan is the type found in the kind of movies you watch in Nollywood, unbelievable and shocking. Are you married and into runs and have information on your phone that might nail you? Please check your phone and delete before you read further as this could be you!
Pretty Gilda Amata has a can of worms that has been opened, given away by her blackberry phone. According to insiders, ‘Someone got hold of Gilda’s phone and downloaded the content of her black berry chat and the shocking contents were love/sex chats between her and a top politician whose wife she calls ‘Aunty’, a serving Governor and several others. Gilda met the serving Governor through actress, Omoni Oboli and the rest is history’
.

https://www.nairaland.com/1095790/ruke-amatas-wifes-multiple-affairs

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Cullinane: 7:37pm On Feb 08, 2013
jidegirl12:
And what's your defination of an 'Average Igbo man' o let me hear... I repeat HARDLY you see a Yoruba gal settle for Igbo man, they rather marry Hausa they don't know from Adam.... or elope with a foreigner cool

Ahhh you crack me up cheesy... sanctity of marriage? where most Igbo married women do runs for money when they're broke? cheesy what a joke!
As someone who has lived in both Igboland and Yorubaland for years and who is neither from both tribes, I can assure you that the Igbos take marriage and family very seriously compared to the Yorubas due in chief part to the Catholic thing and the fact that wealth is measured in the number of kids and how well an Igbo man takes care of his wife. A lot of Yoruba married men sleep around. Not all though. I especially respect the religious ones
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Cullinane: 7:40pm On Feb 08, 2013
Sisi_Kill: How can you say NO TRIBALISM on a thread titled IGBO GIRLS HAVE LOST THEIR WAYS because they marry Yoruba guys??!!

I tell ya, there are some things you read which just makes a good case for the possibility that people CAN eat their own brains for breakfast. undecided
ileobatojo:

My sister, the tin shock me o! The topic is tribalism from head to toe especially because of that title and the fact that it only focuses on 2 specific tribes vs all the multitudes if intertribal marriages in Nigeria. God help us o.
I meant culture-wise. Apologies. I have re-edited the thread title.
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by MrGlobe(m): 7:51pm On Feb 08, 2013
jidegirl12:

And what's your defination of an 'Average Igbo man' o let me hear... I repeat HARDLY you see a Yoruba gal settle for Igbo man, they rather marry Hausa they don't know from Adam.... or elope with a foreigner cool

Ahhh you crack me up cheesy... sanctity of marriage? where most Igbo married women do runs for money when they're broke? cheesy what a joke!
You think anybody is afraid of you here. How will your men marry you with the way you are acting on this thread. Truth is 98% of igbo guys can't marry a Yoruba women because of the usual truthful stereotypes. The dirtiness, disregard for marriage, COOKING etc. I mean a Yoruba guy can easily empty a plate of oha or nsala soup but same cannot be said for an igbo guy with amala and ewedu. As if igbo guys want to marry Yoruba ladies, they will decline. The reason your men are swooning over igbo girls (fact) is because they found in them what they couldn't find in you.

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Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by MrGlobe(m): 7:54pm On Feb 08, 2013
Cullinane: I meant culture-wise. Apologies. I have re-edited the thread title.
This is why the country is in perpetual shhiit. Why do you apologize for saying the truth. You apologize to people who see everything only from their bigoted lens. If Stephen Keshi backed down to these bigots and used federal character in Super Eagles, do you think we will reach the finals. If we pretend to be a country then some things must be said!!!!
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Nobody: 7:59pm On Feb 08, 2013
Mr. Globe:

This is why the country is in perpetual shhiit. Why do you apologize for saying the truth. You apologize to people who see everything only from their bigoted lens. If Stephen Keshi backed down to these bigots and used federal character in Super Eagles, do you think we will reach the finals. If we pretend to be a country then some things must be said!!!!

Nice signature. What was that you were saying about bigots?
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by 2mch(m): 7:59pm On Feb 08, 2013
Babyosisi/Cullinane/Mr. Globe: What can be more dirty?

Are you that desperate for a Yoruba man. You can have me grin

Lagos celebrity couple Murphy ifeanyichukwu Uzohue and his wife Uju are angry with each other right now. Both of them have packed up their age long marriage and have chosen to fight themselves to finish. The husband who lives in Japan was the first to fire his own salvo accusing his wife of big time adulter
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by Cullinane: 8:10pm On Feb 08, 2013
2mch: Babyosisi/Cullinane/Mr. Globe: What can be more dirty?

Are you that desperate for a Yoruba man. You can have me grin

Sorry dude. Am straight, not gay. grin
Re: A lot of Igbo ladies In Lagos seem to have lost their way culture-wise by 2mch(m): 8:12pm On Feb 08, 2013
Cullinane: Sorry dude. Am straight, not gay. grin

Ok, Uloma wink. At least, finally you got your first Yoruba offer grin grin grin

Praise God! cheesy

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