I was dating a Yoruba guy (22 yrs old) who recently broke up with me (24 yrs old) because his family disapproved of the relationship. He said they disapproved of the relationship because our cultures were too different. Apparently he's been dealing with this for months and I didn't know about it until the day he broke up with me. I love him dearly, we've been through so much together. I've known him for 3 years and it was an immediate attraction like no other. Eventhough we are from different cultures,believe it or not we have so much in common. It's just so hurtful and it's unfair because I have no control over where and how I was born, that was God's choice. I just feel that they judged me based on that without even getting to know me as a person.

I've done things to help him as well as his parents without them even knowing, but yet I still seemed to get punished. I am very open minded to their culture in fact I'm always asking him why do they do things or how, and I'm even willing to engage in it. They are Muslims and I am also a recent convert. I want to sit down and talk to his mother about how I feel about this situation but I am afraid to do so. I also want to show them that my intentions is not to change anything about his culture and that I care deeply about their son. I also want them to see me as a human being and see me as a person and not simply judge me on where I was raised. I also want to show him that I am willing to fight for us just as much as he has for me and that he was never in this alone. Do you think I should talk to her? If so, any suggestions on how to spproach her without being disrespectful? I feel that God didn't put us together for this long only for it to disappear just like that when two people still have strong feelings for each other.

period, point, blank!

if he is not willing to fight for YOU and your relationship he is not worth it.
It's a hard pill to swallow I know..but any man who hides behind culture, religion, or their parents as excuse/s not to be with you is not a man you need to be with.

Time heals all wounds. In time you will get over him.
Focus on you, mama.

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the truth is made obvious in the first response to this post .. move on you are young and have a whole life ahead of you.. if your man is not ready to fight for the relationship you both had then it is not worth fighting for

free2ryhme: the truth is made obvious in the first response to this post .. move on you are young and have a whole life ahead of you.. if your man is not ready to fight for the relationship you both had then it is not worth fighting for

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[quote author=MsDarkSkin]period, point, blank!

if he is not willing to fight for YOU and your relationship he is not worth it.
It's a hard pill to swallow I know..but any man who hides behind culture, religion, or their parents as excuse/s not to be with you is not a man you need to be with.

Time heals all wounds. In time you will get over him.
Focus on you, mama.

He did fight for the relationship but I guess it became over whelming. However, I would still like to talk to his mom. I have some things that I would like for her to know in general.

godspurpose: He did fight for the relationship but I
guess it became over whelming.
However, I would still like to talk to his
mom. I have some things that I would
like for her to know in general.

What could you possibly say that'd change her mind about you?You have done enough already-i'm assuming you became a muslim cuz of him(wrong move anyways)
I don't think the culture is the only problem though.Your man is young and you seem to be coming on too strong so his family is probably just being protective so he doesn't make wrong choices.
Stop trying.Let him fight for you if he truly wants you and if he doesn't ,move on and live your life.enough body of water..enough fishes!!

slimyem: What could you possibly say that'd change her mind about you?You have done enough already-i'm assuming you became a muslim cuz of him(wrong move anyways)
I don't think the culture is the only problem though.Your man is young and you seem to be coming on too strong so his family is probably just being protective so he doesn't make wrong choices.
Stop trying.Let him fight for you if he truly wants you and if he doesn't ,move on and live your life.enough body of water..enough fishes!!

Thanks for your input, but to clarify your assumption no I did not convert to Islam because of him or anyone else of that sake. I made my decision on my own.

godspurpose:


Thanks for your input, but to clarify your assumption no I did not convert to Islam because of him or anyone else of that sake. I made my decision on my own.

sweety the first poster has summarised everything,i think you need to listen to him.good luck

lol, Yoruba guys sha

Na so dem sweet

baby_123: lol, Yoruba guys sha

Na so dem sweet

Won ko wa je bi indomie

Dem dey rush us like Dollars

slimyem: What could you possibly say that'd change her mind about you?You have done enough already-i'm assuming you became a muslim cuz of him (wrong move anyways)
I don't think the culture is the only problem though.Your man is young and you seem to be coming on too strong so his family is probably just being protective so he doesn't make wrong choices.

Stop trying.

Let him fight for you if he truly wants you and if he doesn't ,move on and live your life.enough body of water..enough fishes!!

Nothing but the truth!!!

kulyie: sweety the first poster has summarised everything,i think you need to listen to him.good luck

HEY! im a girl!!

godspurpose:


Thanks for your input, but to clarify your assumption no I did not convert to Islam because of him or anyone else of that sake. I made my decision on my own.

phew!! Thankfully.
anyway which ever decision you make I wish you the best and happiness.

MsDarkSkin:

Nothing but the truth!!!



HEY! im a girl!!



phew!! Thankfully.
anyway which ever decision you make I wish you the best and happiness.

lol! Thank you, I appreciate your kind words

if he cannot convince his parents to have you, then he's not a good husband material. i hate grown men with baby brains.

coogar: if he cannot convince his parents to have you, then he's not a good husband material. i hate grown men with baby brains.

A part of me feels that way, but I always try to be kind and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. At the end of the day, even that's not enough though. Thank you.

The first response answers u question! He is not that into u! U r still young just pray for God to give a good husband!

dayokanu:

Won ko wa je bi indomie

Dem dey rush us like Dollars

I now understand you perfectly. No be small thing o. Orisirisi ti en gbe! Oluwa lo ma ko yin yo!

Yes disappear, your own word. Everything is wrong with the so call marriage lady. The young man should be bulding a career at this time, not marriage,ok. Look at the age,no wonder the parents still dictating what he should/shouln't do and rightly so too. Come back in 5yrs, he'll be ready,I think