My hubby decided to watch football knowin fully well dt am strong & nobody @ home wt me.We got married 2 and half yrs ago,no issue yet.He came back sm mins afta 11pm all in d name of UEFA Champions league & he started showing dt he cares abt my health.Please married couples does he care or he prefer football mor dan me?

It doesn't mean he does not care,most men have a selfish streak to their person.Advice him to install a cable,so he caN watch from home next time.Let him know you were upset with his previous action.once its football time,most can't think until the match is over.Don't sweat it,its just a 90mins affair.

byvan: It doesn't mean he does not care,most men have a selfish streak to their person.Advice him to install a cable,so he caN watch from home next time.Let him know you were upset with his previous action.once its football time,most can't think until the match is over.Don't sweat it,its just a 90mins affair.

you are correct, but even, if hes installed cable at home, he would still prefer watching the football outside with his friends, that makes the whole watching more interesting for men, also, the fact that these men are together makes them to be able to analyze the match better, and truthfully, watching football all alone can be boring.


@op, you are strong, abi, thank God for yourself, that its not beyond redemption, and also, thank God your hubby's favourite club won, if not so, he wouldnt have cared to even showed that he cared about your health after his arrival.
My sister, dear op, TOLERANCE is the word, its just 90mins match, and marriage is not supposed to be about your happiness alone, but also about the other's happiness too.
Though, such attitude might somehow be annoying, but since your case wasnt soooo bad, its tolerable, infact, you sould have followed him to go watched the match together, probably, you would have felt better from all the shouting and jumping.....lol.
Its well my sister, sometimes, its like that, love conquers all, overcome bad with good.
May God help us all.

Thanks sis,we av GOTV @ home but he decide to watch d match outside cos we didn't av light.I wldn't av talk dt nite bt wt he did ws very annoying.Besides,this is not his first tym of such behaviour, he shld think more abt me dan football.Men shld tend to forgo smtn for their wives.



you are correct, but even, if hes installed cable at home, he would still prefer watching the football outside with his friends, that makes the whole watching more interesting for men, also, the fact that these men are together makes them to be able to analyze the match better, and truthfully, watching football all alone can be boring.


@op, you are strong, abi, thank God for yourself, that its not beyond redemption, and also, thank God your hubby's favourite club won, if not so, he wouldnt have cared to even showed that he cared about your health after his arrival.
My sister, dear op, TOLERANCE is the word, its just 90mins match, and marriage is not supposed to be about your happiness alone, but also about the other's happiness too.
Though, such attitude might somehow be annoying, but since your case wasnt soooo bad, its tolerable, infact, you sould have followed him to go watched the match together, probably, you would have felt better from all the shouting and jumping.....lol.
Its well my sister, sometimes, its like that, love conquers all, overcome bad with good.
May God help us all.[/quote]

It doesn't mean he does not care,most men have a selfish streak to their person.Advice him to install a cable,so he can watch from home next time.Let him know you were upset with his previous action.once its football time,most can't think until the match is over.Don't sweat it,its just a 90mins affair.

He is not a type of man dt cares,dts y am annoyed wt him.

@,definitely most will prefer to watch with their friends but some do watch any match past 6pm at home.My hubby watch most matches at home and am glad for that because this match thing they cause better quarrel for some homes.I really don't think is proper to be out that late,a little compromise should suffice in this matter.

@op,marriage is all abt compromisn, u bend a little,I bend a little.its not only in futball.some guys don't watch matches eg my hubby but he lv all those davido,wizkid,rick ross stuff and I so much hate them but what did I do,I started likin dem by force,infact these days I will tell him to download for me.gives him news abt hiphop and all those stuff. He does likewise for me so pls get intereted.if u can't watch at least check out news abt them. It helps a lot.

@OP

Pleas refer to the famed advice on this football matter by Ujujoan

Ujujoan: Fist off, if he's in a public bar, the noise will be too much for you guys to have a reasonable conversation. It'll be better if you waited for him to get home.
Secondly, what is so important that you couldn't wait for a 90mins game to be over?
This is one area I don't interfere with in my man's life . .
I used to think football was just a game until I met him . . To these fanatics, it's more than a game. It's like their life!
Every day Chelsea has an important match to play, I pray and fast for them to win cos if they lose, I'll have a lottttt of consoling to do!
I won't lie, it used to be veeeeery annoying, but that's men and football!
Just because he's your fiance doesn't mean his life has to end . .
What will you do when you guys are married with kids crying and running all over the place, and his ignoring you and concentrating on SS because champions league finals is on
Abeg no drink panadol for unnecessary headache!

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byvan: It doesn't mean he does not care,most men have a selfish streak to their person.Advice him to install a cable,so he caN watch from home next time.Let him know you were upset with his previous action.once its football time,most can't think until the match is over.Don't sweat it,its just a 90mins affair.

this level of selfishness and insensitivity in some men always drives me crazy. But if it was a woman that left her ill husband and was watching some nollywood movie or telenovela,you people will be throwing all sorts of missiles.she is irresponsible,she is a bad wife,she is this,she is that.the family sef will add their own.mshewwww.anyway there is a proverb that says do not expect too much from people,not even your spouse so that when you are disapointed or ignored,it will not come as a shock.all this marital yama yama sef don tire me.when you are out of nairaland,you will be hearing by husband did this,he did that,he comes back late from work,he is uncaring,my wife does not respect me,she is too materialistic,come to nairaland same old whinning and complaining.if this is what marriage is all about then i am a single,free,happy,complete and fulfilled woman.too much unnecessary baggages joor.mshewww

@kulyie,Abeg no make me fall where I dey laugh.My dear na so but you will want a legitimate little kulyie,won't you?Some marriages are still good and worth it,You never can tell how lucky you can get until you try.Don't let all these disheartening gists dampen your spirit but those that are married will confront more problems in life,the bible said so.

byvan: @kulyie,Abeg no make me fall where I dey laugh.My dear na so but you will want a legitimate little kulyie,won't you?Some marriages are still good and worth it,You never can tell how lucky you can get until you try.Don't let all these disheartening gists dampen your spirit but those that are married will confront more problems in life,the bible said so.

my sister,any time i open nairaland abi we just come back from family meeting wey we dey settle husband and wife palava,white gown no dey sweet me wear,if for anything,e dey fear me.but sha,like ini edo will say 'i will take my chances' HOWEVER FULLY ARMED SO THAT THE UNEXPECTED WILL NOT HIT ME LIKE A RUDE SHOCK

biolabee: @OP

Pleas refer to the famed advice on this football matter by Ujujoan



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Lol.

Prolly cos I love footy, I don't see a biggie here. Unfortunately, my hubby isn't that much of a football lover, so I don't have such to contend with. But I do miss having someone to argue footy with or someone to update me on the latest.

@ OP,

I agree! Ur hubby needs to be a bit more sensitive, while u need to be more tolerant.

BTW, does he shower u with love and attention when he isn't watching footy?
If yes, then, u have nothing to worry about.

The Only tym he would be going to d extreme is if u are in a critical condition and he still neglects u to go watch footy. Then, wahala dey!

Tgirl4real:

Lol.

Prolly cos I love footy, I don't see a biggie here. Unfortunately, my hubby isn't that much of a football lover, so I don't have such to contend with. But I do miss having someone to argue footy with or someone to update me on the latest.

@ OP,

I agree! Ur hubby needs to be a bit more sensitive, while u need to be more tolerant.

BTW, does he shower u with love and attention when he isn't watching footy?
If yes, then, u have nothing to worry about.

The Only tym he would be going to d extreme is if u are in a critical condition and he still neglects u to go watch footy. Then, wahala dey!

Nice one

@Kulyie,your capitalized sentence is the "KOKO".

Why do people not complain when their husbands leave home for work and stay for hours at work everyday but complain when their husbands watch soccer for 90 mins?


Wait, I know the answer.........