Please I want this topic to be on front page,should a husband keep quiet when the wife's junior sister is insulting her in his presences and it have happened like three times,please I want only married couples to debate on this issue
Thanks

Younger sister you say Why should her younger sister insult her? How can you even stand and watch your wife's younger sister insult her?? The man should caution the girl, maybe your wife is too soft and reserved.

Younger sister?in my house?---------> village straight.

overdrive: Younger sister?in my house?---------> village straight.

Lol, why village?

Wetin consign the hubby

Let the wife deal with her own sibling
Even If they both decide to evacuate the girl, na the wife go do am

thingn77: Please I want this topic to be on front page,should a husband keep quiet when the wife's junior sister is insulting her in his presences and it have happened like three times,please I want only married couples to debate on this issue
Thanks

As long as its not the husband younger sister insulting his wife,there is very little he can say to the issue. The best he can do is take his wife away from the scene or simply excuse himself,after all before he married her,the sisters know how they settle their differences.

I don't understand what u guys are debating about,it is 100 percentage very very wrong,it shows that the girl doesn't have home training and secondly it is a slap to the man's face and it shows that the girl in question doesn't have an atom of regards for her inlaw ,in his presence if he wasn't there they can kill themselves.
It can also cause problems in that home,such person should leave the house especially if it continue to happen,please let's get real except the man doesn't love his wife

Now this is tricky. Depending on the relationship your wife has with her younger sister, what constitute 'insult' might be hard to define.

The age gab between my sister and I is just a year and half thus we practically grew up as equals. We share friends, clothes, room and almost everything. We are each other's best friend and definitely have our moments of disagreements. In fact, we only stopped the physical fights about a decade ago and still do the other fights People who interfere by taking sides usually get on our bad sides afterwards.

With siblings with wide age difference, the onus is on the older one to ensure she gets the respect she wants from d younger. It should be her prerogative and sorted from within their family.

I would say you shouldn't put yourself between siblings for you might end up being burnt. However, if it bothers you so much call both sisters while they are not in the fight mode and tell them how you feel about the whole thing.

But if your wife fit born this small girl, then by all means move her back to her mother. Geskia

there are many things to be consider befor any step can be takin

1) hw do they grow 2gether?
2) did she(sister-in-law) just develop such habit or she grow wit it
3) has ur wife takin any seriouse action on d matter befor
4) what level of command ve u(man) been able to gain in dat house

what i ll first do as a man is to take my wife away from dat side befor anyth else

next tin i ll do is to let my sister-in-law tender an apology to my wife
after i must ve talk to her(sister-in-law) in a mannerful way

Why do you want it on front page where those kids will batter your wife with words.


The information you gave is limited. We don't know the root cause of the serial quarrels. How does your wife handles her sister to degenerate to name calling? There are ways younger ones are dealt with without becoming provocative. For your sister-in-law to be insulting your wife, it didn't start now but a long time and it will not stop suddenly.

Your wife needs to learn dispute resolution with her sister and others without degenerating into free for all fight and insult. The sister also must learn how to say no to your sister without insulting her.

As the head of the home, you have to play a big role in this situation. Call your wife separately, talk to her and make things straight with her. Let her see her shortcomings in this situation and teach her the right thing to do. In like manner, talk to her sister too to respect her elder and show her disagreement in a respectful way without insult. After doing this, you can call the two sisters together and talk to them.

If the sister is staying with you and she refuses to change, you know what to do.

There are several things you have not said the main things being
1. Where did this happen
2. Age difference between them. Is your SIL also married
3. What caused the quarel
4. What kind of family do they come from

1. If this happened in your house, then she has not right to insult your wife especially if she is dependent on you. You can even send her out back to her parents. Even if she just came visiting, you should reduce or completely cut-off those visits if she is rude.
2. What is the age gap? If it anything more than 5 years, then you should probably get their parents involved and give her a good talking to. I asked if she is also married because you do not want to turn it into a bigger family problem where both husbands are also fighting. You need to thread carefully especially if the age difference is less than three years.
3. You also need to understand what caused the fight. Was your wife originally at fault? Did she do something bad to her sister? The fact that I am older than you does not give you the right to trample on me.
4. The kind of family also matters. Is that how they quarel regularly and resolve it amongst themselves? I know a family like that, someone is always quarelling with another but it never lasts. They always find a way to resolve it amongst themselves especially when their parents get involved.

So you need to give us more detail btu what you should not tolerate is a dependent insulting you or your wife.

Their age difference is 8years,there is a guy between them,she doesn't really stay with them,she came because of the university strike.
I happen to be the man's cousin,the sister is not married and I know my brother's wife,she is not troublesome,inshort she is too nice to a fault,wonderful couple but I know for sure my cousin doesn't joke with his wife,What really happened that day was that she just asked her sister if she have taken her bath and if she have eaten,till before you know it, she started talking to her senior sister anyhow in the presence of her husband and it have happened before,my cousin got angry and told her to keep quiet that he have had enough of her rubbish in his home ,she just went into the room and parked her bags and left the house.Before you know,so many phone calls started in and the inlaws are arguing the issue,people are blaming the husband,some are blaming his wife,....

If what your just described is what happened then both husband and wife have no fault. Infact they should ensure the sister does not step into that house again until she apologises to both of them. What rubbish? Or are the in-laws the ones that own the house they live in? I just cant understand why a young girl will behave like that and her parents will defend her.

Hmmmmmm........
From your second explanation, it shows that the younger sister has no respect for her sister and even for her brother-in-law.
For her to have to have packed her things the first time your brother asked her to stop the nonsense speaks a volume of her.
Anyway, your brother can't really say much because they are sisters and will surely know how to end the rift between them.

Good riddance to rubbish!
They should never allow her in their house again.heediot!
Maybe another hediot is shinin her congo and givin her small small change and her head is swelling.
And she might feel that the d heediot is better than her inlaw, she is better than her sis bla bla bla.
Pple like that don't learn except with pregnancy and its related wahala or stds.

If what you described above is true, the girl has a serious attitudinal issues and needs urgent help. They are the type that misbehave when married and expect not to reap the consequence of their actions.

I hope your brother is not disturbed by whatever the in-laws are saying. He should stand his ground in this situation and take authority over his home as the husband. Whatever the in-law will say, the girl must first apologize and be sober for her misdemeanor.

yellowpawpaw: Good riddance to rubbish!
They should never allow her in their house again.heediot!
Maybe another hediot is shinin her congo and givin her small small change and her head is swelling.
And she might feel that the d heediot is better than her inlaw, she is better than her sis bla bla bla.
Pple like that don't learn except with pregnancy and its related wahala or stds.

The probability is high and can't be far from the truth. I have encountered many of them like this before. She needs proper scolding and character reset via intense pressure..

Mr Bellong,did u say scolding? A big undergrad? By who? Sis that may not hv gone to school or did ttc?
Their parents? One dat don't respect her elder sis,will she respect d parents?

Their only teacher is mistakes either by marriage or the ones I stated above.

not even my wife's parents can insult her in my presence. anyone insulting my wife is indirectly insulting me and he/she would get a dose of my verbal lashings.

if she must insult her sister(my wife), let them do it under secrecy. i must never ever hear about it. no form of abuse shall be tolerated from any in-law. my wife is mine!!!!

coogar: not even my wife's parents can insult her in my presence. anyone insulting my wife is indirectly insulting me and he/she would get a dose of my verbal lashings.

if she must insult her sister(my wife), let them do it under secrecy. i must never ever hear about it. no form of abuse shall be tolerated from any in-law. my wife is mine!!!!

Nice one!

But if am the elder one, I won't allow my husband to come into this, I trash it out myself.

Bringing my husband into this might aggravate the issue. I prefer the wife trash out the issue while the husband stand outside.

The small sister might insult the husband too and being a man, he might react differently.