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A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Enegod(m): 8:26pm On Aug 18, 2013
1.Warn your girl child never
to sit on anyone's laps no
matter the situation
including uncles.
2.Avoid getting dressed in
front of your child once he/
she is 2years old. Learn
to excuse yourself.
3.If you have to hire a
house-help please kindly
take them for HIV
screening to determine
their HIV status, properly
interview them and make
up your mind to treat them
well.
4.Never allow any adult
refer to your new born as
'my wife' or 'my husband'.
5.Never tempt your
husband with your
younger sister. (Else he'd
say its hers and the devil's
fault).
6.Avoid unnecessary
familiarity and make sure
you take care of your
husband by
yourself lest you lead him
into
temptation.
7.Whenever your child goes
out to play with friends
make sure you look for a
way to find
out what kind of play they
played together because
young people now sexually
abuse themselves.
8.Never force your child to
visit any adult he or she is
not comfortable with and
also be observant if your
child becomes too fond of
a particular adult. Once a
very lively child suddenly
becomes
withdrawn you might need
to patiently ask alot of
questions from your child.
9.If you don't teach your
children about sex, the
society will teach them the
wrong values.
10.It is always advisable you
go through any new
material like cartoons you
just bought
for them before they start
seeing it themselves.
11.Teach your 3year olds
how to wash their private
parts properly and warn
them never to allow
anyone touch those areas
and that includes you.
(remember, charity begins
at home and with you)
12.Blacklist some materials
you think could threaten
the sanity of your child
(that
includes music, movies and
musicians).They let them
understand the value of
standing out of the crowd.
13.Once your child complains
about a particular person,
don't keep quiet about it.
Take up the case and show
them you can defend them
always!

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Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by mascot87(m): 8:44pm On Aug 18, 2013
one more thing,when your girl child attains the age of 7-8,carryout virginity test on her every six month and let her know how disappointed you will be if she losses her virginity for any reason other than marriage.
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by ogunteluwo(m): 8:47pm On Aug 18, 2013
Hmmmm.... Interesting.
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Nobody: 8:56pm On Aug 18, 2013
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by mascot87(m): 8:59pm On Aug 18, 2013
chaircover:

please tell me that this ia a joke undecided
This is not a joke angry
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Nobody: 9:01pm On Aug 18, 2013
Intriguing
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Enegod(m): 10:16pm On Aug 18, 2013
mascot87: one more thing,when your girl child attains the age of 7-8,carryout virginity test on her every six month and let her know how disappointed you will be if she losses her virginity for any reason other than marriage.
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Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by taryour(f): 10:22pm On Aug 18, 2013
mascot87: one more thing,when your girl child attains the age of 7-8,carryout virginity test on her every six month and let her know how disappointed you will be if she losses her virginity for any reason other than marriage.


You just joking right
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by mascot87(m): 10:24pm On Aug 18, 2013
taryour:

You just joking right
I am not joking please,I mean it. angry
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Nobody: 10:30pm On Aug 18, 2013
mascot87 go hear wen on this thread. grin grin

So how is this virginity test done if I may ask??
** thinking**
Gettout of my head jor cheesy

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Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by mascot87(m): 10:38pm On Aug 18, 2013
jidegirl12: mascot87 go hear wen on this thread. grin grin

So how is this virginity test done if I may ask??
** thinking**
Gettout of my head jor cheesy
Very simple,you take her to a female medical doctor to check her virginity. Let her get used to it while she is still young and while she is growing up, she will not see anything wrong in it.It is very important,if many parents can be doing this for there children,immorality would reduce in our society. The fear of her parents checking her virginity every six months to confirm her status is the fear of her having s3x angry
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Nobody: 10:53pm On Aug 18, 2013
I honestly thought you're kidding before I checked it out, but see....


Virginity testing has become a relatively new trend in many countries, especially those that are highly concerned with women's honor or serious diseases such as AIDS. Virginity testing is seen as a way to curb women's sexual activity before marriage and keeping them "pure" until then. There is much controversy and debate as to whether or not this infringes upon women's human rights, even if they are willing participants.
Virginity testing is done is different ways, depending upon the country. Primarily, the vagina is examined to see whether or not the girl's hymen is intact. The hymen is defined as "the thin membrane of skin that may stretch across part of the vaginal opening". An opening in the hymen allows the menstrual flow to pass out of the body. Most girls are born with a hymen, although some are born without it.

There are many doctors who say that the hymen is not a good indicator of sexual virginity for several reasons:


*a girl may have been born without a hymen
*the hymen can easily be ruptured during normal physical activities and sport
*the hymen can be stretched open by the use of tampons




In some countries, people do a visual check of girls to see if their hymen is still intact. If it is, then it's pretty much guaranteed that she is still a virgin. However, if her hymen is damaged, it's not an indication that she's had sexual intercourse.

Most girls do not reach adulthood with intact hymens, regardless of their sexual activity. The hymen is a very fragile membrane, and can easily become damaged in childhood. A girl may or may not notice if she's torn her hymen by accident. Some girls are even born without a hymen! This is the main reason why no legitimate doctor will offer you a "virginity test" - the lack of a hymen is not an indication of intercourse. In countries where such "virginity tests" are practiced, thousands of innocent girls are mistakenly branded as sexually active, even when they are still virgins.

There is absolutely no physical or medical test which can determine virginity. The only way to find out whether someone has had intercourse is to ask them.

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Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Nobody: 10:53pm On Aug 18, 2013
mascot87: one more thing,when your girl child attains the age of 7-8,carryout virginity test on her every six month and let her know how disappointed you will be if she losses her virginity for any reason other than marriage.

Gross. . . angry
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Nobody: 11:02pm On Aug 18, 2013
Higher % of girls use Tampons during their monthly cycle.... Tampon stretch the hymen. So should we now stop them from using Tampons??

A Gymnast , Dancers ( esp Ballet & Hip hop) has high possibility to break her Hymen with the vigorous exercise and jumps they usually do... So should we stop them from doing what they love because of Hymen?? grin

I could go on with many daily physical routine most girls do ... What happened to one word calked TRUST?? smiley

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Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by mascot87(m): 11:14pm On Aug 18, 2013
Phema:

Gross. . . angry
Adjective,verb, noun or verb phrase angry
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by mascot87(m): 11:22pm On Aug 18, 2013
jidegirl12: Higher % of girls use Tampons during their monthly cycle.... Tampon stretch the hymen. So should we now stop them from using Tampons??

A Gymnast , Dancers ( esp Ballet & Hip hop) has high possibility to break her Hymen with the vigorous exercise and jumps they usually do... So should we stop them from doing what they love because of Hymen?? grin

I could go on with many daily physical routine most girls do ... What happened to one word calked TRUST?? smiley
I feel like sleeping now, we will talk on this tomorrow. Cheers cheesy
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by armyofone(m): 11:25pm On Aug 18, 2013
damn it shocked.

mascot87: one more thing,when your girl child attains the age of 7-8,carryout virginity test on her every six month and let her know how disappointed you will be if she losses her virginity for any reason other than marriage.

in some part of the north, I heard they use something on baby girl's lipsrsealed to widen it for potential suitor.
Life of a gal is uphill battle.
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by mascot87(m): 11:39pm On Aug 18, 2013
Aiit,let me put it like this.I av this gf that told me her parents av been carrying out virginity test on her & her sis since age 12.she did d recent one two months ago and she is stil a virgin.she is now 21.The mother also talks to her frequently on s3x education and why she should wait until she gets married before intimacy. I can tell you the words of her mum combined with d virginity test always done on her are deeply rooted in her. I asked her how d virginity test is done and she told me, there are no instrument used at all by the female doctor and I concluded that all that is done is just to scare her but it really works. That fear in her is still the reason why she is still a virgin till date
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by mascot87(m): 11:53pm On Aug 18, 2013
armyofone: damn it shocked.



in some part of the north, I heard they use something on baby girl's lipsrsealed to widen it for potential suitor.
Life of a gal is uphill battle.
angry
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Nobody: 1:47am On Aug 19, 2013
mascot87: Aiit,let me put it like this.I av this gf that told me her parents av been carrying out virginity test on her & her sis since age 12.she did d recent one two months ago and she is stil a virgin.she is now 21.The mother also talks to her frequently on s3x education and why she should wait until she gets married before intimacy. I can tell you the words of her mum combined with d virginity test always done on her are deeply rooted in her. I asked her how d virginity test is done and she told me, there are no instrument used at all by the female doctor and I concluded that all that is done is just to scare her but it really works. That fear in her is still the reason why she is still a virgin till date

There is no point keeping the hymen because of some st*pid bullshit fear. The girl could be doing numerous things, probably even nastier than penetrating that hymen, anywayz. At 21, she should know if she wants to keep her hymen or not, not being co-erced into keeping it. This is just sooooooooo annoying, virginity test kor, purity investigation nih.













DISCLAIMER: I'm nt usually this rude, i just lost it. That concept of virginity test every 6 months is totally annoying. I'm sorry, dear mascot.

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Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Nobody: 1:47am On Aug 19, 2013
mascot87: Aiit,let me put it like this.I av this gf that told me her parents av been carrying out virginity test on her & her sis since age 12.she did d recent one two months ago and she is stil a virgin.she is now 21.The mother also talks to her frequently on s3x education and why she should wait until she gets married before intimacy. I can tell you the words of her mum combined with d virginity test always done on her are deeply rooted in her. I asked her how d virginity test is done and she told me, there are no instrument used at all by the female doctor and I concluded that all that is done is just to scare her but it really works. That fear in her is still the reason why she is still a virgin till date

There is no point keeping the hymen because of some st*pid bullshit fear. The girl could be doing numerous things, probably even nastier than penetrating that hymen, anywayz. At 21, she should know if she wants to keep her hymen or not, not being co-erced into keeping it. This is just sooooooooo annoying, virginity test kor, purity investigation nih.













DISCLAIMER: I'm nt usually this rude, i just lost it. That concept of virginity test every 6 months is totally annoying. I'm sorry, dear mascot.
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Nobody: 2:48am On Aug 19, 2013
alutacontinua:

There is no point keeping the hymen because of some st*pid bullshit fear. The girl could be doing numerous things, probably even nastier than penetrating that hymen, anywayz. At 21, she should know if she wants to keep her hymen or not, not being co-erced into keeping it. This is just sooooooooo annoying, virginity test kor, purity investigation nih.

DISCLAIMER: I'm nt usually this rude, i just lost it. That concept of virginity test every 6 months is totally annoying. I'm sorry, dear mascot.

cheesy cheesy

Virginity test. That's one today!



At Post,

Nice one!
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Nobody: 2:59am On Aug 19, 2013
Chillisauce:

cheesy cheesy

Virginity test. That's one today!



At Post,

Nice one!

THANKS! smiley smiley cool
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by mascot87(m): 3:36am On Aug 19, 2013
alutacontinua:

There is no point keeping the hymen because of some st*pid bullshit fear. The girl could be doing numerous things, probably even nastier than penetrating that hymen, anywayz. At 21, she should know if she wants to keep her hymen or not, not being co-erced into keeping it. This is just sooooooooo annoying, virginity test kor, purity investigation nih.













DISCLAIMER: I'm nt usually this rude, i just lost it. That concept of virginity test every 6 months is totally annoying. I'm sorry, dear mascot.
Well you are entitled to your opinion.But you might have a contrary opinion if you find yourself in her own shoes, now what do I mean? Remember your parents are your first teacher and if what your parents discuss with you most of the time s3x education and you started receiving this lecture from them while you are still very young (for her around 11-12 years of age) and they keep hammering on "do not have s3x before marriage" and also telling you of so many dangers of not listening to them and most especially backing there claims with biblical verse of "do not fornicate for your body is the temple of the holy spirit"what do you want to do? and if your parents continue to tell you that anybody that tells you anything contrary to that is lying and you should stay away from them.I could remember she one said her mum cursed that if she ever get defiled before her wedding so many evil thing would happen to her and she would never forgive her for life. Some people still carry this thing on there head as life and death. I don't think it would be easy for you to make this statement you made if you are in her shoes
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by armyofone(m): 4:52am On Aug 19, 2013
that wasn't your initial reply grin
anyway make I go hit my sack bo.

mascot87:
angry
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by PassingShot(m): 6:24am On Aug 19, 2013
Nice one OP. Copied for record and reference in guiding my 3 year old queen. grin grin grin
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by mascot87(m): 7:07am On Aug 19, 2013
armyofone: that wasn't your initial reply grin
anyway make I go hit my sack bo.

angry undecided grin cheesy
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Nobody: 7:31am On Aug 19, 2013

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Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by mysticgal(f): 8:42am On Aug 19, 2013
unfortunately the people replying this thread are mostly not married nor thinking of getting married now,and the virginity stuff is just too overhyped
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Monicasque(f): 8:50am On Aug 19, 2013
i love most of the things stated here but i am just worried about the house help being tested for HIV? I just wana ask. So what if the person is HIV , does that mean they do not get the job? if your answer is yes. I disagree with u
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Tejufemi(f): 9:37am On Aug 19, 2013
Monicasque: i love most of the things stated here but i am just worried about the house help being tested for HIV? I just wana ask. So what if the person is HIV , does that mean they do not get the job? if your answer is yes. I disagree with u
me i agree 100 times,because if d person is cut by the general knife d whole house use,what's d assurance that d virus won't b contracted if d househelp has d virus undecided
Re: A Must Read For The Married Couples And Those Who Will Marry Soon by Monicasque(f): 9:54am On Aug 19, 2013
Tejufemi:
me i agree 100 times,because if d person is cut by the general knife d whole house use,what's d assurance that d virus won't b contracted if d househelp has d virus undecided


wow. SO there are people who still think like this. Tell me when last did u check your hiv status? You brother? sister? cousin? uncle? or your lover? Let me ask u, what would happen if your cousin contracted the deases? would u never allow them in your house? Would u never eat their food? undecided What if by some mistake u end up in hospital and they accidentally inject you with the wrong needle and gues wat u contract the deases? would u resign, kick yourself out of your home and never eat your own food?

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