Will you like to marry someone who loves you more than you love him/her or someone whom you love more than he/she loves you? Why?

Someone who loves me more if i had to choose

this really has a tough side,because u might marry a guy that loves u more but during the whole thing u might find out that d love has increased in your side

In every relationship one always loves more than the other. One gives more than the other. there is nothing like a perfect 50-50. So make we nor dey find person who love us pass us. As long as he loves us and we love him, it's ok!

I think it is impossible to know how much a person loves you only the amount of love that you have for someone. The reason i beleive it is impossible to measure this love in others is because men and women are from two different plants, men are from mars women are from venus, and we speak two different languages. So testing someone can never really prove how much they love you and because you would react or do a certain thing and they dont do the same does not mean that they dont love you like you love them just that they react differently from you.

this really has a tough side,because u might marry a guy that loves u more but during the whole thing u might find out that d love has increased in your side

What about trying guys that loves you more? If a man has shaky love for you from the get go, there is a high probability that the shaky love will reduce to zero during the marriage but a woman has a higher chance of increasing her love when the man's game is tight and of course tighter in my own case.

sistawoman:

I think it is impossible to know how much a person loves you only the amount of love that you have for someone.  The reason i beleive it is impossible to measure this love in others is because men and women are from two different plants, men are from mars women are from venus, and we speak two different languages.  So testing someone can never really prove how much they love you and because you would react or do a certain thing and they don't do the same does not mean that they don't love you like you love them just that they react differently from you.

I think it is impossible to know how much a person loves you only the amount of love that you have for someone. The reason i beleive it is impossible to measure this love in others is because men and women are from two different plants, men are from mars women are from venus, and we speak two different languages. So testing someone can never really prove how much they love you and because you would react or do a certain thing and they don't do the same does not mean that they don't love you like you love them just that they react differently from you.

You are right, it cannot be quantified but it can be felt. You'll know a man that drools at your sight(not sexual drooling) and the more that is indifferent to love.

jekad:

You dont get it?


Here it is the long and short:

I cant say that my partner has more or less love for me then I have for him because I am not him.

No matter what I do or say there is no way for me to measure his love for me w/o me being him.

In every relationship one always loves more than the other. One gives more than the other. there is nothing like a perfect 50-50. So make we nor dey find person who love us pass us. As long as he loves us and we love him, it's ok!

Good scary one. The truth is who'll love to be the person that will love more? will you like that scenario especially when the love can make you a fool?

RedHotChic:

What about trying guys that loves you more? If a man has shaky love for you from the get go, there is a high probability that the shaky love will reduce to zero during the marriage but a woman has a higher chance of increasing her love when the man's game is tight and of course tighter in my own case.

because every girl wants guys that love them more,but like i said sometimes there is a turn in event and d love will be more on d girls side


so to cut d long story short,as long as u guys both love each other well,then its ok,u canever measure and know someones love for u,it cannot be done

Here it is the long and short:

I can't say that my partner has more or less love for me then I have for him because I am not him.

No matter what I do or say there is no way for me to measure his love for me w/o me being him.

Good logic but inasmuch as we cannot quantify love, we can [b]estimate [/b]it.

RedHotChic:

Good logic but inasmuch as we can't quantify love, we can [b]estimate [/b]it.

Estimate it how?

because every girl wants guys that love them more,but like i said sometimes there is a turn in event and d love will be more on d girls side

You think so? I want me a man I love more than he loves me so i can tolerate his male bullshit during my mood swings and hormonal changes.

RedHotChic:

You think so? I want me a man I love more than he loves me so i can tolerate his male bullshit during my mood swings and hormonal changes.

then pray d man is understanding,cos some men might take ur love for granted

RedHotChic:

You think so? I want me a man I love more than he loves me so i can tolerate his male bullshit during my mood swings and hormonal changes.

But tell me how you know that you love him more?  How do you measure this?

Estimate it how?

Do i need to develop a test statistic so we can estimate love here? Common, we have intuition for a reason and yes, love can be estimated by the 2nd party.

luv me more than i luv you

RedHotChic:

Do i need to develop a test statistic so we can estimate love here? Common, we have intuition for a reason and yes, love can be estimated by the 2nd party.

yeah right,u seem to have forgotten dat some estimations might be wrong

anyways wat will a partner have to do for d other to know how much he/she loves him/her so much?

then pray d man is understanding,because some men might take your love for granted

Well, one way or the other we must trust somebody someday whether we like it or not. Love makes the world go round and not money, that being said, the magnitude of love I have for him will be the yardstick for forgiveness and the lower the love goes, the more likely he'll find himself living under the bridge one winter night.

love me more than i love you

Why are most men selfish? Jackal included.

Is it something like

Woman:  I love you more
Man:        No i love you more
Woman:  I love you from the moon and back
Man:       I love you from the moon and back times 10

It is impossible to KNOW what is in anothers heart unless you are God.

RedHotChic:

Well, one way or the other we must trust somebody someday whether we like it or not. Love makes the world go round and not money, that being said, the magnitude of love I have for him will be the yardstick for forgiveness and the lower the love goes, t[b]he more likely he'll find himself living  under the bridge one winter night.
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but it all depends on if u r d bread winner,cos if u r not,the reverse will be d case

anyways what will a partner have to do for d other to know how much he/she loves him/her so much?

Love is like mathematical induction, you always find a probable cause to arrive at a conclusion which may not necessarily be beyond reasonable doubt.
That being said, by his fruits, i shall know him.

but it all depends on if you're d bread winner,because if you're not,the reverse will be d case

Don't worry, my game is tight.

Is it something like

Woman: I love you more
Man: No i love you more
Woman: I love you from the moon and back
Man: I love you from the moon and back times 10

It is impossible to KNOW what is in anothers heart unless you are God.

Lets put it this way, you know the extent at which you can go for your significant other and you can guess the extent at which he/she can go for you. It's not a black and white thing, you preety much rely on your intuition to make a judgment.

RedHotChic:

Love is like mathematical induction, you always find a probable cause to arrive at a conclusion which may not necessarily be beyond reasonable doubt.
That being said, by his fruits, i shall know him.

have u forgotten that some guys are good pretenders(so also them babes) and what u think about them might not be true?especially if they want sthg,they can do anything to deceive and confuse you to proove dat they really love u,while its all lies


no matter what we can never know how much our partners love us or know who loves more,its sthg we can never know

dreeldee:

love me more than i love you

Yup

jekad:

have u forgotten that some guys are good pretenders(so also them babes) and what u think about them might not be true?especially if they want sthg,they can do anything to deceive and confuse you to proove that they really love u,while its all lies


no matter what we can never know how much our partners love us or know who loves more,its sthg we can never know

I agree!!!!

RedHotChic:

Lets put it this way, you know the extent at which you can go for your significant other and you can guess the extent at which he/she can go for you. It's not a black and white thing, you preety much rely on your intuition to make a judgment.

And because I would react differently to something means that i might love him less? For instance both my husband I have children, for me nothing comes before my children, not him, not my parents nothing. but for him I might come first (not that i do) so does that mean that he loves me more? I would say no that means that he puts a different value on his love for me vs his love for his children and same for me.

have u forgotten that some guys are good pretenders(so also them babes) and what u think about them might not be true?especially if they want sthg,they can do anything to deceive and confuse you to proove that they really love u,while its all lies


no matter what we can never know how much our partners love us or know who loves more,its sthg we can never know

That falls in the category of risk involved in marriages. We cannot stop marrying men and resort to marrying each other or male monkeys because most men are liars and pretenders, should we?

And because I would react differently to something means that i might love him less? For instance both my husband I have children, for me [b]nothing comes before my children, not him, not my parents nothing[/b]. but for him I might come first (not that i do) so does that mean that he loves me more? I would say no that means that he puts a different value on his love for me vs his love for his children and same for me.

One quick question, will you quit your marriage because your children do not just feel comfortable with their step dad(not that he's a bad person) but your children's wish is that they stay alone with their mama, will you grant their wish putting into consideration the volume of love you have for them?

RedHotChic:

That falls in the category of risk involved in marriages. We cannot stop marrying men and  resort to marrying each other or  male monkeys  because most men are liars and pretenders,  should we?

and dat is why its beta we dont  stress ourselves to know things like who loves more and stuffs like dat,as long as both parties love each other ,then they should take it like dat