My genotype is AS.
So, scientifically if i marry a lady who has thesame genotype as me i would eventually bear kids with the sickle cell anemia.
I've had to end three long relatioships because of my genotype.
I'm into another relationship and we've started talking serious but am scared of asking to know her genotype.
It's not funny being a sickle cell trait carrier but i wonder if theres any shortcut to overcoming this nightmare.
I want to go ahead and marry this new lady even if she is a carrier too.
I need assurance!

my guy,i can feel your pain but i will not advise you to do something that you will regret later.it will be better if you can ask her on time before you become so deep into each other and if it's the same,you go ahead with your life.i know there are many ladies out there who are AA genotyped that you can choose from.that's the best for you

eyah, you can always adopt kids, you know.

I agree with ruby, you can always adopt. Otherwise, everytime you meet a new girl, jokingly ask for her genotype so you would know if it is something to proceed with.
Sorry.

Got nuttin realli to say
bhut"sorry" was touched wen i read dis

ijapa888:

My genotype is AS.
So, scientifically if i marry a lady who has thesame genotype as me i would eventually bear kids with the sickle cell anemia.
I've had to end three long relatioships because of my genotype.
I'm into another relationship and we've started talking serious but am scared of asking to know her genotype.
It's not funny being a sickle cell trait carrier but i wonder if theres any shortcut to overcoming this nightmare.
I want to go ahead and marry this new lady even if she is a carrier too.
I need assurance!

The ultimate assurance is not in what cyber-entities tell you here or anywhere else. You need to believe in yourself, and have a full self assurance that all will be well.

If not, you will keep living your life in misery, self pity and sorrow.

Cheers mate.

Am sorry to hear this

@poster
You need assurance?
Oya go ahead! Mumu go marry someone and risk making ids who will just come into the world and suffer.
You will even face the agony of watching them suffer!
AAs full everywhere! You've just not searched enough!

ijapa888:

My genotype is AS.
So, scientifically if i marry a lady who has thesame genotype as me i would eventually bear kids with the sickle cell anemia.
I've had to end three long relatioships because of my genotype.
I'm into another relationship and we've started talking serious but am scared of asking to know her genotype.
It's not funny being a sickle cell trait carrier but i wonder if theres any shortcut to overcoming this nightmare.
I want to go ahead and marry this new lady even if she is a carrier too.
I need assurance!

Have you considered looking for someone outside your region? I've noticed a great many threads concerning sickle cell carriers, and I'm wondering if it can be due to the gene pool of your specific area. I'm going to read more into this, but I think if you will have a better chance of finding someone who is not a carrier if they are not in your area, possibly far enough that the gene pool has more variation (less chance of finding an AS). I know very little about this at the moment, but I have some time to pull some info from the databases at my school.

You don't want to take a chance with your current relationship either. You are going to have to be honest with her and find out her genotype. It's better to know now, and end the relationship, than to knowingly bring a suffering child into the world. There's no 'love' in the world worth that. As good as adopting a child sounds, I'm sure you want your own, and that adoption feels like a cheap compromise, which is completely understandable. If you really want to be with this new girl, It's your choice whether to marry her or not, but it will be foolish on your part to not find out her genotype. If she is a carrier, you have to understand that your options are very limited. Think about this situation logically.

Awwww. . . wow I never thought about this.
I really need to know my genotype

i used to be afraid of this until i SAW someone's testimony.

the Friend and her fiance were AS/AS, bottom line she prayed, and it changed! Explain that!! (3x tested)

So now, i ain't got no fear. No be God?

Look at your topic title. It surely is not optimistic. Mabybe Life is trying to tell you something like "how long will you go like this?"

Dude, there comes a time in everyone's life where you SIMPLY DECIDE THAT THINGS MUST CHANGE!

That's me for you. Believe!

spikedcylinder:

I agree with ruby, you can always adopt. Otherwise, everytime you meet a new girl, [b]jokingly ask for her genotype so you would know if it is something to proceed with.[/b]Sorry.

[size=13pt]Sorry about that. I think you should always find out your friends genotype before going long term[/size]

WebMonk:

i used to be afraid of this until i SAW someone's testimony.

the Friend and her fiance were AS/AS, bottom line she prayed, and it changed! Explain that!! (3x tested)

So now, i ain't got no fear. No be God?

Look at your topic title. It surely is not optimistic. Mabybe Life is trying to tell you something like "how long will you go like this?"

Dude, there comes a time in everyone's life where you SIMPLY DECIDE THAT THINGS MUST CHANGE!

That's me for you. Believe!

No one is doubting God at all, but common sense says you that you can't change your genome. However, what could have happened is that your friend received a false positive the first time. This happens more often than you think.

u beta ask now than knowing after 5 yrs of da relationship. might not be of disadvantage 2 u as much as the lady involved

I have the same problem. It will be better if you asked.

The ultimate assurance is not in what cyber-entities tell you here or anywhere else. You need to believe in yourself, and have a full self assurance that all will be well.

If not, you will keep living your life in misery, self pity and sorrow.

Cheers mate.

Very good point.

DON'T DO IT.  Better safe than sorry, I've had a sickle cell child before.  The two and a half years she lived was the worst experience of my life. i was only 20 at that time, I went to mercy hospital every other night, buy blood from different Chemist of Lagos Island, Traveled all over Lagos trying to find cure. Went to Churches up and down, not to talk about spending all the money I never had. And she died on top of it.  I even took care of a sickle cell patient for three years, and she died at the age of 33 in the US.  There is NO cure for it.  It is too painful to go through, for you, your wife and the child. My suggestion to you is to find out before you go too far in your relationship.its okay to adopt but personaly i don't like it because u have a better choice.  Test more than once, because they have told me I was AA three years after I had a sickle cell child.  You might think it's a big deal now, but it's realy not, it will be a bigger deal after just one SS child, and your wife can't cope with it. You should be glad that you know, because I didn't and It was very costly." not money wise"Good luck.  This is actualy a reminder for me to start talking to my girls about it.

Spike's right!! I guess I learnt my lesson the hard way, after I fell for and dated a guy for some months before realizing we were both AS. Theres no point bringing children into this world to suffer. So I learnt how to systematically ask a guy his genotype on our first date. I could give you some lines to use if you want. I assure you, it'll save you a lot of pain. Dont do it, its not worth the stress. But if you can't let go, there are ways to guard against having SS kids. But you have to be very rich and very modern. Else you could adopt. An adopted kid's just as good as your very own.

But hey, I know a couple, both of them AS, and they have three kids; 2 AS and one AA. Pretty Amazing huh? But I wouldnt take the risk if I were you.

@ poster,

ol boy,
na your cross u dey carry so.
no b only u be man wey get AS.
as u sabi already,the thing dey simple.
either u marry AS come risk sickler pickin,or
u throw bigger net for river catch fish wey be AA come live stress-free life.
the choice is yours.

wer do u stay i have alot of AA freinds,could introduce u
there r more AA people around than any other genotype so u have no excuse
dont be selfish and make ur children suffer.
except u want to adopt but if u can give birth to your own why give up on such a beautiful opportunity,if u r infertile go ahead. infact dont try it unless u get a vasectomy

@ princess k
i no mind make u introduce me to dem also.
wetin u talk?

wer do u reside?
wer do u work?
how much is ur package?

Funny i don't think 'AS' are as many as that, how can u date 3 AS in a row . I'm As too & i've never dated one, not like i'm too careful.

looks like u don't even like urself if this had happened to u once, did u have to wait for it to happen again till u counted three?

Its one of the first things i want to know once i'm liking a guy, once they start saying they don't fall ill easily, i begin to sense he is once of us . But really once i notice he falls sick normally & not look sickly i know he is AA. I've watched & i'm not usually wrong, but that's when i choose not to ask.

Opokonwa, I believe you can do better than that. Why abuse the mister?

@ Poster.

Please, you do not have to put God to test in everything, you may need to look elsewhere for your partner (who is not AS), dem plenty like water!

@ Princess K

Abeg, you fit arrange one wey go dey spend for me.

i have a girl that i love so much, we are both AS I dont give a damn! in the olden days is there anything like GENOTYPE? when our papa born us? NO i dont think so,

If your life is actually ruled by God

you wont be talking about it being ruled by your Genotype

nikekenny:

i have a girl that i love so much, we are both AS I don't give a damn! in the olden days is there anything like GENOTYPE? when our papa born us? NO i don't think so,

. . . probably u might give a damn in future. . . y risk it?

Gamine:

If your life is actually ruled by God

you wont be talking about it being ruled by your Genotype

. . .agree up 2 an extend though. . . still in relationships i believe one's genotype shld b checked out though. . . 4 d sake of d unborn children. . . "y suffer them"?

@ princess
thank you very much.
i dey live for bolton for uk.
na there i dey work.
my package big enough to satisfy the babe.no worry about that one.
i pass abi i fail?which one e bi?

@Chi,

One has to be wise.

Wisdom comes from above

Gamine:

@Chi,

One has to be wise.

Wisdom comes from above

"True"!. . .

Gamine:

If your life is actually ruled by God

you wont be talking about it being ruled by your Genotype

gewd one!