That woman, pastor's wife ,is not born again, she is proud. Pastor is an office ordained by God, I don't know where daddy has become an ordained office. She needs to re-visit the calvary. I pray she wont scatter her husband's ministry.

I'm sincerely ashamed of dat arrogant 'Satan-natured' passtor's wife and all those that supported her evil anger. Even Jesus is called Jesus. Elijah is called a Prophet not daddy! gods and goddesses of men!

cbrass: From my own part its not even mandatory to call your pastors any special name but courtesy demands that you give honour to whom honor is due.

Assuming the pastor was your own father and you wish to see him what will you say??

But if the pastor was around your age and he still insists you call him dad...then something is wrong with him
However since it was his wife that complained and not him

This was an official visit, so why emphasis on informal "Daddish" accolades?

In Naija, we talk about Jesus in the bible as a character in a movie while we WORSHIP pastors.. What a wasted generation!

Wonders shall never end in 9ja!

tpia@:
find another church to attend if you are annoyed.

and stop generalizing, thanks.

how old is the pastor in question? In some cultures [eg yoruba], you are expected to show respect if people are 30+ years your senior.

In any case, address people the way they want to be addressed.

so because you belong to the school of thought that a pastor should be called to settle marital squabbles, then everyone should act in like manner? I for one, dont believe in third parties in marital issues not even the pastor. Back to topic, @op, ignore the pastors wife from what you've said she sounds like a very proud person, my pastors wife uses the term "ma" when addressing me even though she's well my senior. Thats humility. Jesus washed the feets of his apostles because he wanted them to adopt that virture. My advise, if things continue this way you leave the church. God hates arrogance and pride.

Asabeq: Islam one?? Don't say what you don't know,in as much as I hate the division in christianity,I still prefer it because we only challenge each other with arguments and exchange of words(which is still being stupid)unlike Islam where the sunnis and shias and other sects setttle their differences with bomb!!
Or is there no DSTV in your house or you are too busy with soundcity and africa magic? Pls tune to Aljazeera because the muslims are always quick to tell you CNN and BBC are anti islam.

hey this lady.....I understabd quite well what you meant! I know you are a taraba converted christain! Those you mentioned are not islam but terrorism sect! Which every religion has,

oluwaisaac: I'm sincerely ashamed of dat arrogant 'Satan-natured' passtor's wife and all those that supported her evil anger. Even Jesus is called Jesus. Elijah is called a Prophet not daddy! gods and goddesses of men!

Daddy is simply a term mostly used by Nigerians when referring to Elders. It has nothing to do with the Church hierachy.

Atleast, its better than those tasking their members to call them

The Lord's Bishop
My Lord Bishop
Rev. Profesor
His Lord Eminence
Pirate
Most Pirate
Bishop of the whole world
Reverend Father
Prophet (Dr.)
Reverend Prof. (Ph.D, Texas)


You guys should learn to live with a harmless term used even for your parents...


I can't watch a little girl like Op call my dad by his name (abcd)..
so why should I call my elders by their name? na me arrogant pass?

This things is a higher matter, scripturally is nt biblical, to some He gave apostle teach pastor evangelist 4 d perfecting of d saints. He did nt give mummy and daddy 4 d saint bt said call d older one as mummy and daddy brothers and sisters. If I were u I wud leave dat chrch is a pride, ego and personal interest in dat chrch aparent everybdy shud b identify by names, even his husband preaches he wud nt call paul ,peter john daddy dat woman (pastor wife) lack knowledge of God's word she is just dere 4 nting bt to drive away members of dat assembly away

End of story is:


I (Acidosis) would rather call EVERYONE here - Daddy, than call any human being 'MY LORD BISHOP'

Some of you here do call your Preachers such diety names...but of course 'hypocrisy', you all love to insult pentecostals.. thats where you derive your joy.




smh!

Acidosis:

Sir stop quoting the bible out of context. What do you call your Parents??

and I hope you're not a catholic cos I see some of them laughing on the thread even though they call young boys and elders Reverend Father...more like Reverend Daddy

Double portion

How is this scripture out of context? Lol, It seems you are one of those Pastors they call "Daddy"....well, enjoy na your time !! And FYI I belong to no Church....I'm a follower of Christ, I belong to the TRUE CHURCH which is the body of Christ.... Shikena!

Ephesians 4:11-12 (KJV)

And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers; For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ:

Smdh for Christians rejecting the titles approved by the Bible!!!

Conversation
boy: excuse me ma
woman: yes hw can o help u?
Boy: Daddy said i should u
woman: o u mean ur father
boy: no daddy na
woman: daddy means ur father
boy: our daddy na
woman: who is daddy?
Boy: our pastor

Abeniboy: The OP might be right wit her action, but the truth is @op, you r not yet broken, I mean you have not started the Christian race. If you are, you wouldnt be posting this kind of things of social media to allow people that have made up their minds that they wouldnt make heaven or people the prince of this world has blinds their eyes and sealed their hearts from the truth to be making comments against the Church of God. I will suggest next tym you keep such to urself. Thank you

You are just too correct!
I wonder what she stands to gain by posting it on NL,i guess she is enjoying d attention she is getting...smh.
I will say it again,i don't believe the Op.
Op,when u get married,call ur inlaws by name ok?

oluwaisaac: I'm sincerely ashamed of dat arrogant 'Satan-natured' passtor's wife and all those that supported her evil anger. Even Jesus is called Jesus. Elijah is called a Prophet not daddy! gods and goddesses of men!

Hehehhehe...the fruits d Op has planted is yielding results,heheheheh...calling someone "satan-natured"...heheheh,i hope the Op is happy now!

tpia@:
find another church to attend if you are annoyed.

and stop generalizing, thanks.

how old is the pastor in question? In some cultures [eg yoruba], you are expected to show respect if people are 30+ years your senior.

In any case, address people the way they want to be addressed.

Over sabbie dey worry you.

specialguest: For clarification purpose my pastor and his wife are from the east, I am a northerner and the church I attend is a popular church with branches all over Nigeria however my parish is in Abuja. That said, thank you all for your contributions.
I created this thread yesterday because I wanted to find out if I was wrong by referring to a pastor as pastor-his name, however after going through most of the replies on this thread, it is safe to conclude that it is not compulsory to address our pastors as daddy and mummy. Bearing that in mind, I went to church today, sat on the front row, sang my heart out without allowing yesterday"s drama to interfere with my worship.
I really do feel a lot better now and I pray God puts a sense of Humility in our spiritual leaders, may they walk in the footsteps our Lord and Saviour Jesus christ. Amen

So Op, did you go to church yesterday? What is the conclusion of this pastor daddy gist?

mrvictor:

Must everything be posted on nairaland?
This is really a personal issue and a very trivial one for that matter. Nairaland carry u enter the church or are we your church members? If you have an issue with your church sort it out over there with them or change your church(there are thousands of other churches on the streets) and stop rubbishing them on Nairaland. That is not right! Though, I am not a fan of "daddynization" or "mummynization" of priests, anyway.

Strong point,i am not fan or daddy n mummy too,but d Op is wrong bringing it up here,like someone said,she is not yet broken,a Christlike person will never do that,she needs to be broken...i pray God will help her in her home...smh.

nothing i no go see for this 9ja.

biomedixexcel: @OP I want to tell you that you should ask for forgiveness for coming to public to raise the issue. This is your pastor for God's sake! The woman has said her own and I know she won't harbour any grudges after she had poured out her heart. If you had been in that woman's shoes, u would have done more than that. Going public showed how humbled you are A pastor is not just ordinary person no matter how small he is, you need to honour him in every ramifications. You probably showed how far you're on fellowship with Christ. You are probably seeing the pastor cos of what you want. People older than you in the church might have been calling her daddy but the woman recognised the arrogant in you or quickly find out you behaved like a stranger. YOU ARE A WIFE TO BE AND MY ADVICE FOR YOU IS TO BE HUMBLE SO THAT THIS WILL NOT HAUNT YOU WHEN YOU RELATE WITH YOUR IN-LAWS!
Peace

Heheheheheh...i hope d Op will read this...
Don't worry,someone will tag u as tpia soon.

Mintayo:
You are just too correct!
I wonder what she stands to gain by posting it on NL,i guess she is enjoying d attention she is getting...smh.
I will say it again,i don't believe the Op.
Op,when u get married,call ur inlaws by name ok?

If you were a pastor Mintayo and your full names are Mintayo abc, I see nothing wrong in calling you pastor Mintayo abc.

As for my inlwas, you should know that marriage is the coming together of two families. His family automatically becomes my family and all due respect will be accorded them. The Bible was clear enough on that regarding marriage.
As a christian, you are the body of Christ not and the "body" of your pastor. However if you find it Interesting calling your pastor daddy, to each one his own.

i wonder


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WNrI9iex-Go

specialguest:

I asked myself the same question after I left. In all honesty I could not say much to her out of respect but @least it is expected that people of God should humble themselves so the Lord will lift them up.

An elderly woman that was present there actually reminded the pastor"s wife that our former pastor that just left is usually addressed that way so the congregation are used to saying pastor abc but madam insisted it was still wrong. I had no choice than to tender a "reserved" apology

Ohhh. They are not even d GO and founder of d church. So d GO will b great-grandfather o. Lol ordinary branch pastor. Na wahoo.

oluwaisaac: I'm sincerely ashamed of dat arrogant 'Satan-natured' passtor's wife and all those that supported her evil anger. Even Jesus is called Jesus. Elijah is called a Prophet not daddy! gods and goddesses of men!

I am just "bothered" by the NATURE of most Pastor's wife!

For starters, lets assume the Pastor was "called" by God to "serve Him". That is (or should be) the basis of any religious leadership role.

Now, the Pastor decides he loves a woman and married her. She becomes his wife, just like l marry my own wife.
I know we dont need to argue that if l am say a CEO of a company or say l am a Colonel in the Nigerian Army or Bill Gates, it does not CONFER the same title, rights and privileges on my wife in any way. (except she is Madam Umbrerella sha )

How come that, when a husband is "called" and he becomes a Pastor, the wife simply assumes she is the "Assistant Pastor" (or even a bigger Pastor than the husband himself!) so much so she arrogates and confer authority to herself?
Who called her? God? Her husband or the Devil?

What is wrong with all these silly, pastor's wife sef?

In most cases, the husband (Pastor) who was called and ordained, may be a very meek person but their wives are such terrible, arrogant, vindictive, gossiping and maligning brood of vipers ...............and at times, l begin to wonder if most Pastor's wife are not a punishment to their husbands, .....for their "religious" shenanigans?

I know a Pastor who, for the sake of embarrassment and not to scatter business Ministry, is always moaning to close associates about how his wife slaps him and beat him anytime there is a small misunderstanding between them but since he preaches "no divorce and long-suffering" on the alter, he cannot come out publicly to stand-up for himself and God forbid if it is heard by the congregation that Pastor beats his wife!

In most cases, the Pastor's wife is A NOBODY .....minus the authority wielded by her husband as a Pastor", but she is so power-hungry and attention-seeking that she will openly demand for such authority and servitude.
These silly women just "ride" on their husbands position since people tend to "shake and tremble" for their Pastor ....why not the wife as well?

Just imagine a woman of say thirty five years, because she is a Pastor's wife, she expects a man old enough to be her father to call her Mummy!

Anyway, as for me, whether Pastor himself or his wife, if they dare call-me out on this "Daddy/Mummy issue, l will show them pepper!
In fact, l will ask them that if they are dumb enough not to know the exact number of children they sired by themselves, or do l look stewpid to them, not to know my own parents!

But we must put the blame squarely at the foot of the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Pastor Adeboye (RCCG, l am a member by the way), They started this nonsense of Daddy G.O. and Mummy G.O!

Now it has gotten out of hand, every self-appointed Pastor wants to be worshipped and called daddy!.
Daddy my black arze.......... Even Jesus, despite his awesome power, was not called "Daddy", He was simply called Jesus!

Madt women!

Lastpage!

I pray religion will not finish this country.

I believe so called Men of God should emulate the prophets of the past.

Nigerian pastors have not been successful to bring positive moral change to the country, yet they travel around the world in private jets to where people are morally upright. In my own opinion, they are just enjoying life..

In my own opinion, true religion leaders are humble and not extravagant. All what they have in their mind is heaven and not this is VANITY!!!!!!!!

mrvictor:

Must everything be posted on nairaland?
This is really a personal issue and a very trivial one for that matter. Nairaland carry u enter the church or are we your church members? If you have an issue with your church sort it out over there with them or change your church(there are thousands of other churches on the streets) and stop rubbishing them on Nairaland. That is not right! Though, I am not a fan of "daddynization" or "mummynization" of priests, anyway.

Pastor please,the right word is pastor.The catholic church DO NOT condone such names.Btw,they don't impose the word 'Father'on her members.


Back to topic,The op has all the rights to communicate this immoral vice.HUMILITY should be one of the characters a leader MUST have.Jesus washed his disciples feet to teach us that.The pastor's wife deserves to be lectured intensively on the need to see every other persons as equal,despite her husband's position in the church.


@op,once again I must commend you for you humility cos where she has failed to promote it,you exalted that grace because if na me,after allowing her talk her rubbish finish,then my own advice go start,and if she insists,the next few words that wud come out of my mouth wud be unbelievable!!!!Rubbish!Arant nonsense!

Mscheew and people keep wondering why I find it difficult to go to church.

Seriously the hypocrisy of many so called christians tire me.

specialguest:

If you were a pastor Mintayo and your full names are Mintayo abc, I see nothing wrong in calling you pastor Mintayo abc.

As for my inlwas, you should know that marriage is the coming together of two families. His family automatically becomes my family and all due respect will be accorded them. The Bible was clear enough on that regarding marriage.
As a christian, you are the body of Christ not and the "body" of your pastor. However if you find it Interesting calling your pastor daddy, to each one his own.

1. Your story is incomplete.
2. Its not a matter to be brought to NL,its not edifying,u r causing confusion and seperation,slandering christainity.
3. You r not broken,otherwise,u wld v settled things with ur pastor and his wife.
4. You need to check your humility level.
5. Study the Bible more.

NB...i don't usually call my Pastor Daddy,I call him simple pastor witout even adding his name,sometimes i call him daddy or use sir, without him/his wife asking because he deserves it.

doubleDx:

How is this scripture out of context? Lol, It seems you are one of those Pastors they call "Daddy"....well, enjoy na your time !! And FYI I belong to no Church....I'm a follower of Christ, I belong to the TRUE CHURCH which is the body of Christ.... Shikena!

Ephesians 4:11-12 (KJV)

And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers; For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ:

Smdh for Christians rejecting the tittles approved by the Bible!!!

You don't seem to get my point.

We all know the scripture and the verse you quoted, even though most people on this thread use some non-biblical titles while referring to their preachers.
As you already know, only pentecostals use those titles you listed. Others derived and coined theirs by themselves and for themselves, YET they search for every opportunity to pull down a harmless title.



Why can't OP tell us the age of her Pastor and lets weigh this with maturity and sense.


Where I schooled, we have lecturers with names like (Mr *****), but because of their age, courtesy demands that we show them some level of respect. We mostly call them 'ose' - meaning Daddy, Papa.

You see bro, there is absolutely nothing wrong in calling your Pastor Daddy.

Maybe the wife was only trying to act like a Mother and treat her as though she was a daughter.

There is no gainsaying the fact some people have idolised that word 'papa & daddy' e.g the always trying too hard campus fellowship dunces.
Nevertheless, I still believe there are people who need to be called DADDY, atleast for the AGE & THE SPIRITUAL FATHER-DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP.



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Apologies to OP for attacking her initially.

tpia@:
find another church to attend if you are annoyed.

and stop generalizing, thanks.

how old is the pastor in question? In some cultures [eg yoruba], you are expected to show respect if people are 30+ years your senior.

In any case, address people the way they want to be addressed.

Please help me tell her...

Mintayo:
Strong point,i am not fan or daddy n mummy too,but d Op is wrong bringing it up here,like someone said,she is not yet broken,a Christlike person will never do that,she needs to be broken...i pray God will help her in her home...smh.

How do u mean broken? You wan break her?