This is how I feel and I don't want to feel this way anymore....

All this when ur girl dey here?
#gives her a big hug

Actually, your life is a lot more easier right now. All those things you think you lack are just things that society make important

cdamsel: All this when ur girl dey here?
#gives her a big hug

Mynd_44: Actually, your life is a lot more easier right now. All those things you think you lack are just things that society make important

I really don't understand...

DutchesSsS:


I really don't understand...

that you are actually more or less better off

from this thing u'v written upthere you must be single..... Abeg no vex
















I love you

Dutchess you worry me

OP, there is no perfect combination of events in life that would make you happy. You have to create hapiness by yourself, from within. Do not delegate that responsibility to someone else or events around you. You will end up disappointed as you are, now.
The points you raised:
I don't believe in "Love" anymore...

Love is real. It exists, but not as those butterflies ish which is being overhyped. God is Love and so, only a godly person can give the true kind of love which is selfless because the mortal man is naturally self-seeking.

I love Being Alone
Loving your own company isnt a problem. I love being alone also, but it becomes an issue of concern if it robs you of healthy relationships with your family and friends.

I Dont believe in Family
This reminds me of my facebook signature: 'Family is everything'. My background negates this statement but I so much believe in family. There is so much love to give and share and life is sooo beautiful. This world is a beautiful place when you transform the lemon it throws @ you into a nice, sizzling, refreshing lemonade drink.

I dont Believe in Marriage
I dont belive in the marriage institution myself but I belive in the God who instituted it. Therefore, I'll do whatever it takes to make it work. Same goes for you too OP. Just as you do not believe in the devil but it doesnt change the fact that it/he exists. Likewise, Lack of belief in the marriage institution doesnt imply that good marriages dont exist. They do, but very few people are willing to work @ it and so, only few marriages work eventually. A good marriage is golden but it doesnt come on a platter of gold.

I Hate People
Hate is a very stong word. You can't hate when you have the love of Christ in you. You just can't.

I've Been Broken
It takes brokenness to receive wholesomeness. Everyone wants to be whole but nobody wants to go through the prelimnary stage of being broken. OP, you will be whole again and you'll never remember this pain again. God will give your heart the healing it needs to be whole again. All you need to do is ASK

I Dont believe in Friends
As per the friends ish. Me sef I dont believe in friends but I believe in friendship, that is, regardless of how much they disappoint you or let you down, you would still be there for them. Now that is friendship. It gives and expects nothing in return.


@OP life is beautiful o. It depends on your outlook. You can either see the glass as half full or half empty. The choice is yours

Its good u snapped right now Dutchess cos this has been building up a long time ago.
I even send u mail that wasn't replied last year.
Go c a psychologist.
I presumed u r d withdrawn type so it will be good if u don't spill everything here bc of d future. Nairaland can be messy at times.
If u can't c a psychologist then I suggest u choose somebody u know will respect ur privacy and u always lv his or her inputs here and TALK to d person.
These r things I will want u to talk about.
Ur childhood
Ur parents
Ur siblings
Ur sex life.(Year and how)
Ur relationships.
This will enable d person know where d root is and to know how to counsel u.

Its even a lot easier, tell d person how God disappointed u.
We all had that moment.

All d best.
Its well.

Mynd_44: Actually, your life is a lot more easier right now. All those things you think you lack are just things that society make important

This is soooo true. Sometimes, life becomes so smooth and easy that we actually bother ourselves with 'petty' challenges. Only to realise that those things that were actually bothering us are nothing when we face the REAL big stuff.

Nice one ypp...

4tunebest: OP, there is no perfect combination of events in life that would make you happy. You have to create hapiness by yourself, from within. Do not delegate that responsibility to someone else or events around you. You will end up disappointed as you are, now.
The points you raised:
I don't believe in "Love" anymore...

Love is real. It exists, but not as those butterflies ish which is being overhyped. God is Love and so, only a godly person can give the true kind of love which is selfless because the mortal man is naturally self-seeking.

I love Being Alone
Loving your own company isnt a problem. I love being alone also, but it becomes an issue of concern if it robs you of healthy relationships with your family and friends.

I Dont believe in Family
This reminds me of my facebook signature: 'Family is everything'. My background negates this statement but I so much believe in family. There is so much love to give and share and life is sooo beautiful. This world is a beautiful place when you transform the lemon it throws @ you into a nice, sizzling, refreshing lemonade drink.

I dont Believe in Marriage
I dont belive in the marriage institution myself but I belive in the God who instituted it. Therefore, I'll do whatever it takes to make it work. Same goes for you too OP. Just as you do not believe in the devil but it doesnt change the fact that it/he exists. Likewise, Lack of belief in the marriage institution doesnt imply that good marriages dont exist. They do, but very few people are willing to work @ it and so, only few marriages work eventually. A good marriage is golden but it doesnt come on a platter of gold.

I Hate People
Hate is a very stong word. You can't hate when you have the love of Christ in you. You just can't.

I've Been Broken
It takes brokenness to receive wholesomeness. Everyone wants to be whole but nobody wants to go through the prelimnary stage of being broken. OP, you will be whole again and you'll never remember this pain again. God will give your heart the healing it needs to be whole again. All you need to do is ASK

I Dont believe in Friends
As per the friends ish. Me sef I dont believe in friends but I believe in friendship, that is, regardless of how much they disappoint you or let you down, you would still be there for them. Now that is friendship. It gives and expects nothing in return.


@OP life is beautiful o. It depends on your outlook. You can either see the glass as half full or half empty. The choice is yours

I was the one that liked this post. OP try and read it a few more times. I did, thrice.

Hmmm!

@op, can I send you a mail, please allow me and reply. I sincrely love you and I will like to be your friend. I promise to respect your privacy..........pleeeeeeaaaaseee

Awww sweetie, I wish I'm around to lend a shoulder. We all have our down times please don't be deceived.

@4tunebest post made a lot of sense , please bookmark that post.

I know talk is cheap but Dutchesss dear please learn to love yourself first, prioritize yourself so others will treat you the same.

I've been very down lately too but I thank God for the gift of life.
I don't want to say much . like YPP pointed but in my own words ; this place is filled with wicked minds. Please return & YPP's emails and if you don't mind, please don't hesitate to contact me via NL and I'll promptly respond.

It is well.

Mynd_44: Actually, your life is a lot more easier right now. All those things you think you lack are just things that society make important

Strongly disagree!!

Everyone needs somebody to love,lean on ,in order to be well and to thrive. You cannot trade the positive effects of relationships be in family/friends for anything.
Loneliness is cruel and its fruits are unpleasant.
Op's life will not get easier if she listens to you.

slimyem: Strongly disagree!!

Everyone needs somebody to love,lean on ,in order to be well and to thrive. You cannot trade the positive effects of relationships be in family/friends for anything.
Loneliness is cruel and its fruits are unpleasant.
Op's life will not get easier if she listens to you.

I know mine will to an extent.

You push people and everything away, when there is so much to life, you can't just sit down there and feel like a boss. Because you think you made the right decision of not believing in those stuff. There is no time to wait or waste, you need all that

Honey,if we shud push pple away weneva things go wrong,bliv me dis world wud b filled with robbots,things are goin bad at d moment,dis is wen u shud b very happy,u knw why,cos things can't get any worse,u r a strong girl nd sumtimes,family,friends nd even strangers kill our heart buh its not enuff reason for u to become dis way,nd as greatgod012 said,mail me if u need a friend,dis world is way too small for u to start carving a niche for urself dear

Mynd_44: Actually, your life is a lot more easier right now. All those things you think you lack are just things that society make important

Dnt tell her dat,if her life was "a lot more easier" she wudnt b here,if being a loner suits u,it obviously doesn't suit her,don't give ppl advice based on how it works for u,she said she doesn't wnt to b like dat,I dnt knw why u telling her dat dats hw she shud b

Justeenaleo:
Dnt tell her dat,if her life was "a lot more easier" she wudnt b here,if being a loner suits u,it obviously doesn't suit her,don't give ppl advice based on how it works for u,she said she doesn't wnt to b like dat,I dnt knw why u telling her dat dats hw she shud b

I am just telling her that there is actually more hurt in hanging her happiness on others