Dear Nairalanders

Please i need your candid opinion on this very sensitive issue.

I am a lady of 27years old. I met this guy about a year ago and we started dating, he is 39years old. We really are in love, he was the one who disvirgined me, but my parents are not in support of our relationship. Their reason for objecting is that the age difference is just too much and that in a couple of years to come our interests will differ and as such the marriage will become very stresfull for me. They also told me including some of my friends that there must be more to it that meets the eyes for a man who is almost 40years not to be married.

Actually i have met most of his friends, parents, siblings, pastors etal and i have not found anything starange about him, he want us to get married anytime soon and he is really willing to talk to my parents but they are not ready to listen to him.

However because of the love i have for him, i suggested to him about 4months ago that i should get pregnant, although it is against the tenets of my religion, but he said he would want us to do it right i.e he does not want me to be pregnant until my parents accepts him and i have told him several times that my parents would not listen unless we did something drastic.

At some point i told him that i was opting out of the relationship because i don't wana waste his time, but he breaks and cry like a baby all the time i tell him this.

My dilema are; He will not agree to impregnate me, neither will my parent listen to him without me doing something drastic. Please what do i do?

hi jemaima,

hw mani tymz u gona post the same thing?

u dnt have to do anything drastic, if God says he is the one for you to marry, then it will happen, if not, dont force it.
Marriage is a serious commitment and getting pregnant willfully out of wedlock might not work for u seeing your fiance's obvious reluctance

@poster
it seems u are new, with ur emotional topic.

this is religious forum, when next u wnt to post. check the forum before posting.
i assure you, u could have got enof advice in romance section if ur thread was posted there.

nevertheless, try sit ur parents down and tell them how u feel about the man.

also if he poses what u desires in a man, wait for, and go for him.

moreover, pray to God for wisdom to discern whether he is ur own man.

goodluck to u.