HERE IS HOW IT GOES- I met this beautiful Nigerian Queen who I happen to LIKE sooooo much (don’t want to call it in-love yet). She is very smart, have her own voice (opinionative) and most importantly she can hold a very good and mature conversation. She is the kind of girl I like compared to my ex who just wants to listen and follow everything I say or ask her to do without Questioning. Don’t get me wrong, I love respect and some sense of submission, but when a woman starts doing it too much we men happens to take advantage of her and look at it as a weakness on her part that when she finally stands for herself we can't accept it because we are already used to the old ways. 

Honestly speaking, I don’t want to rush in a relationship because I don’t want to break someone’s heart or be heart broken myself. But I also think I have come of age to know what I want in a girl and when I find that right person, I would make sure I sustain the relationship to the next level(proposal/marriage).  To me, she is GOD SENT, I go to bed everyday thinking of her, I wake up in the morning with her on my mind-I even dream of this girl sometimes. She is not yet my girl but I am already telling my families and my ex about her and asking them to pray for me so things can work out for me.

HERE ARE THE DOWN SIDE- Our first agreement was that we should just be friends because she thinks guys are stupid and don’t know what they want and I was not ready for a relationship too. But as we start getting to know each other (we talk everything-relations, polities, marriage, economy and even kids), I began to respect her values and this respect I have for her has grown to likeness and admiration. Now I am crazy about her and she is not in the same page with me, I also think part of the reason is that her friends (male & female) are not the favorite people I would like to make friends with. Moreover she knows my ex because some of her friends are close to my ex. The face that she has given up on guys kind of scares me, she would not dear tell me about her past.   

IN CONCLUSION- My fellow county people, make unu help me tell me what to do to win her heart. Also her birthday is on November and I want to make it special for her so I am open for advice on that too.

Bia PCMadu, I know a real life P.C Madu from Imo who lives in America, is that u by any chance?? or perhaps your dad?