Hello House, got a slight problem and don't know how to handle it. Got married years back and my in laws comes in at least 3 of them at a time, and they can spend like 3months then go back and they are back after few months. The issue is: they came around and my wallet got missing after they left, 2 months after they are back and I saw my wallet with one of them. Didn't complain but pointed it to hubby.

Then, when they left, one of them went to my room, picked a very expensive gold chain, and a very expensive top I just bought. Meanwhile, at the same period, I gave the guy a phone I bought for 62k when he kept begging me for the phone daily. Then 2 months after, the guy wants to be back and I told hubby am not accommodating him ever again.

Suddenly, the guy came to my house unannounced and has been around for over 2 weeks, then I asked hubby how long he is going to stay, the fight started. Honestly, I cant tolerate the guy around me. Really don't know what to do.

When living with a thief you know you can't get rid of easily, lock your things that you know will attract his attention and if he's someone that has no respect for privacy, leave important things in the office. When he doesn't see anything attractive to steal thenvhe will go or number 2 set trap for him, fill your husband in, when he's caught, leave it to your husband to take care of it but for now keep your money, phones and jewellery out of his reach since you know he can come at any time. It isn't a fighting or argument matter . more over there are non verbal ways of communicating to a thief . For example when he comes and you left your phone or wallet around quickly pick it and leave

@ sambarry, thanks I think that's the best I can do. Its just so annoying having him around me and am expected to be nice to him. I feel very terrible and hurt especially when hubby sees nothing bad in his brother stealing from his wife.

This marriage of a thing sef
thunder faya anybody that mentions marriage in my ears again

you don't need advice, what you need is common sense.

adl: @ sambarry, thanks I think that's the best I can do. Its just so annoying having him around me and am expected to be nice to him. I feel very terrible and hurt especially when hubby sees nothing bad in his brother stealing from his wife.

let him know that you don't like him with your character and body language


only be nice to him (fake nice o) when your husband is there. Walahi no man or woman will ever feel comfortable in an environment where he knows he isn't liked or welcomed.on his own he won't come again. In fact as you are packing your stuffs just do as if you are talking to yourself but whoever understands the message will know its for him.e.g as you are standing up just say let me even carry my phone because I don't know what will disappear when they leave.



Subtle messages work better than direct confrontations

Kuylie kuylie I swear no one can make you uncomfy in your own house oh
Op that ur inlaw is very comfy that is why he is always coming around
Make him a little uncomfy not in a rude way oh
But while ur inlaw is at ur place what does he do all day?
Just sits idle all day watching dstv
This kind pple nai Efemena dey call FREE LOADERS lol

Honestly, they all come in watches TV all day long. Am sure with sambarry advise, he should feel a little uncomfortable around me.

Since you have spoken to you husband about it and he refuses to call his siblings to order the next step is to tell him to reimburse for anything they take. Soon he'll start feeling the pinch and then he'll be forced to call them out.

alutacontinua: This marriage of a thing sef
thunder faya anybody that mentions marriage in my ears again

Whispers in her ears: Marriage

@OP,follow Sambarry's advice.Just b very careful.

SAMBARRY: let him know that you don't like him with your character and body language


only be nice to him (fake nice o) when your husband is there. Walahi no man or woman will ever feel comfortable in an environment where he knows he isn't liked or welcomed.on his own he won't come again. In fact as you are packing your stuffs just do as if you are talking to yourself but whoever understands the message will know its for him.e.g as you are standing up just say let me even carry my phone because I don't know what will disappear when they leave.



Subtle messages work better than direct confrontations

LWKMD

Op do u live in a one room apartment? For cryn out loud lock ur room while dey r arnd. Ur room is suposd not to be for visitors abeg.

Of course no one can or should make me feel uncomfortable in my own home because I will literally put fire up his a33 that to sit down will be problem. My body language of hissing, snide remarks etc will do the magic. If he wants to watch t.v that's when I will take the remote control and say there's a program that I want to watch, even if i don't have any to watch, if he ask for food i will say it is finished but there's rice I kept in the fridge. It's kind of spoilt though but shey you will manage it like that. ..ni hiw no how he will think twice before coming to the house

rolled: Kuylie kuylie I swear no one can make you uncomfy in your own house oh
Op that ur inlaw is very comfy that is why he is always coming around
Make him a little uncomfy not in a rude way oh
But while ur inlaw is at ur place what does he do all day?
Just sits idle all day watching dstv
This kind pple nai Efemena dey call FREE LOADERS lol

Your husband is the only problem here...why can't he be a man even when everything is crystal clear??

If you know how you can get your husband to listen to you, pls do..maybe after having a nice time with him

For the mean time, keep your valuables out of reach...

SAMBARRY, u are a serious case i swear. lmao at d comments. @OP-you can only steal my things once and after that na judgement o. No eye service kankan.

@ angie, we stay in a 2 bedroom flat, we don't share room with them. And that's one of the annoying thing about the whole scenerio. Guess the fault is that, we normally don't lock the door to our room. And it's basically hubby's fault cos he had the opportunity to call the guy to order after he took my wallet but he never did.

Guess I have learnt how to handle the guy a little today. Thanks a lot all.