I have this problem and i will like Nigerians to comment on it,I was once a drug addict,I was on coke and in the process used to steal from my dad,but four years ago,I went to rehab,thanks to a good man I met and has since taken me as his son,thriugh this same man,my dad got a job overseas with the United Nations.My probelm now is that despite it's been four years since all those things,my dad still does not trust me.I am the first born son of my dad and I feel i have some rights that should exclusively be mine,but he does not give me those rights.There was a time that he shipped a car to Nigeria and he asked my younger brotherr to leave his school and go take delivery of the car,when he asked our dad why I can't go collect the car,since I work in Lagos,our dad said "I cannot trust that boy with even my shoelace".Those words hurt me alot and now am thinking of just letting him be.But someone told me that for me to be a success,I need my dad.
   Nigerians what do you think?should I leave him or just continue to "hope" that he will come to his senses someday?

I would say your dad is still nursing his wound. One that was sustained on account of his failed expectation from UTime like they say heals all wounds. don't reopen his wound by showing defiance or hostility. Breaking communication with your dad is an act of defiance if not hostility. Let him heal. You try and set goals for yourself and make him proud through your accomplishments. Confidence, respect and a father's love will return naturally. Good luck.

PENNYWISE IS RIGHT THERE. YOU SHOULD LET THE WOUND HEAL COS YOU DISGRACED YOUR FAMILY(SOUNDS HARSH BUT IT IS WHAT IT IS)
TRY AND SET GOALS THAT YOU HAVE TO ACHIEVE FOR YOURSELF AND NOT FOR THE PURPOSE OF PROVING A POINT TO YOUR DAD. ALL YOU DID WAS IN THE PAST AND I AM HAPPY YOU HAVE PUT YOUR ACT TOGETHER. LIKE ONE OF THE SIGNATURE QUOTES OF A NAIRALANDER SAY: "EVERYTIME YOU FALL BE SURE TO PICK SOMETHING UP" WISH YOU ALL THE BEST.

Pwnnywise is correct, keep up your rehab, show him that you are indeed different. However, do not be hard on him, he is trying to heal. You need to do all it takes for him to trust you again. Once you have broken that trust, you have to work extra hard to gain it back. If he can see improvment in you, then the easier it will be for you. You have to prove to him that you are responsible and you are no longer an addict. Good luck hun, and always take steps forward, learn from your mistakes and never take any steps backward.

you hav to work hard to earn his trust again. . . see it as ur penance for all the wrong u did

Although you're clean now but you have to understand it'll take time for the trust to return, his statement hurt you, but just take a minute to think about how much hurt he must have felt then.