What do you think to this? 
My Husband was meant to be working last night, he get home this morning everything is fine.  I look in his phone and he has been texting a girl (don't know name) saying whats your address sexy i will be there at 1am.  So, i confront him! giving him the benefit of doubt, stupid me! He says he met 2 girls with his mate and was tempted to meet them later after he had been to the pub, but he never did anything and never went to the address!
Well why ask for the address if he didn't intend on going! Does he think i was born yesterday?!
It wasn't long ago i found other messages on his phone to another girl, which i forgave him for as i am 6 months pregnant and was thinking of the baby! Why do some men do this? I have never cheated always been honest! I feel like he has abused my trust and love i have for him. 

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Leyla Na so us men be. Just because we marry it dosen't mean we go change. I know plenty of married guys like that. Where u base 4 U K?

leyla:

What do you think to this? 
My Husband was meant to be working last night, he get home this morning everything is fine.  I look in his phone and he has been texting a girl (don't know name) saying whats your address sexy i will be there at 1am.  So, i confront him! giving him the benefit of doubt, stupid me! He says he met 2 girls with his mate and was tempted to meet them later after he had been to the pub, but he never did anything and never went to the address!
Well why ask for the address if he didn't intend on going! Does he think i was born yesterday?!
It wasn't long ago i found other messages on his phone to another girl, which i forgave him for as i am 6 months pregnant and was thinking of the baby! Why do some men do this? I have never cheated always been honest! I feel like he has abused my trust and love i have for him. 

Most women are more honest than their husband,but don`t let this incident ruin your marriage and your home.Concentrate on the God gift that is on the way.
Try and discuss with your man and let him know how you feel being let down.I am not sure he is a smart cheater by living traces of evidence on his phone(peer group influence might be the cause)He may change for good.Drive his bad friends away.
On the other hand check your side if there is anything missing in the marriage.
Wish you the best

thank you for your comments, but he has finally said he slept with a women last night. Once a cheat always a cheat. This man doesn't deserve me I'm far too good for him, to me hes a idiot! I will have plenty of support from my family, I cant ever be with hI'm. What comes around goes around, im sure he will get his come uppance!
I finally know how it feels to have your heart broken, at least a blessing has come out of this i will have a wonderful son.

leyla:

thank you for your comments, but he has finally said he slept with a women last night. Once a cheat always a cheat. This man doesn't deserve me I'm far too good for him, to me hes a idiot! I will have plenty of support from my family, I can't ever be with hI'm. What comes around goes around, I'm sure he will get his come uppance!
I finally know how it feels to have your heart broken, at least a blessing has come out of this i will have a wonderful son.

Eyaaa. My dear nobody knows what it feels like until it happens to them. Look up to God and good thing you have a family that cares about you. Stay strong.

leyla:

thank you for your comments, but he has finally said he slept with a women last night. Once a cheat always a cheat. This man doesn't deserve me I'm far too good for him, to me hes a idiot! I will have plenty of support from my family, I can't ever be with hI'm. What comes around goes around, I'm sure he will get his come uppance!
I finally know how it feels to have your heart broken, at least a blessing has come out of this i will have a wonderful son.

I'm so sorry. . . it must be difficult for u being pregnant and all. . . u hav to be absolutely sure u want this tho and that ur decision isnt entirely based on anger

Yes i am angry and confused. To be honest i don't know what to do for the best, but at this moment in time it is best i am on my own. If i wasn't pregnant my decision would be very easy but i don't want the baby to be without a male role model in his life, although plenty of women raise children on the own. See confusion sets in! Maybe i should become a nun.
Its very hard for me to accept him back after forgiving him only 3 weeks ago for the same thing. Life is too short and i don't want to be miserable for all of it.
Has anyone been in the same situation??

all marriages have there own problem, even if you leave him, your next marriage will still have one problem or the other, so look well b4 you leap

hey sorry to hear,
but have u tried talking to him to find out why he is doing this,
3weeks and present sure means something is wrong. \was he like this when u where not heavy?
have u ever had problems concerning im cheating b4 u marriage and even during marriage but b4 pregnancy?
i suggest u talk to him.
have u totally stopped having sex with him cos of ur state?
it might also be a reason.
and hey having sex during pregnancy can also help during delivery.

pele,
Try and talk things over with him.
Let him know how much it pains to see him cheat on u but don't leave him.It happens always but the unlucky one gets caught,

igwe 1:

pele,
Try and talk things over with him.
Let him know how much it pains to see him cheat on u but don't leave him.It happens always but the unlucky one gets caught,

You better go and re-think your marriage plans.

chika98:

You better go and re-think your marriage plans.

sorry!!!!!!!!!! i didn't mean everyman but her own case isn't the first either.

You can not be kinding me that the responses of the males is that she should stay with a lying, cheating no good man.

Here she is carrying this mans child and all yall can say is maybe she stopped having sex with this useless little boy and that is an excuse for him cheating on her.

Sweetie I am so sorry for insulting your husband but please there is no reason to cheat on your wife, let alone your prego wife.  She is carrying your seed can you show just a little bit more respect for her.

sistawoman:

You can not be kinding me that the responses of the males is that she should stay with a lying, cheating no good man.

Here she is carrying this mans child and all yall can say is maybe she stopped having sex with this useless little boy and that is an excuse for him cheating on her.

Sweetie I am so sorry for insulting your husband but please there is no reason to cheat on your wife, let alone your prego wife.  She is carrying your seed can you show just a little bit more respect for her.

what do U want her to do?
To fight the husband, leave her marital home with pregnancy or to cry day and night.

igwe 1:

what do U want her to do?
To fight the husband, leave her maternal home with pregnancy or to cry day and night.

Leave him.

Twice in 3 weeks time she has caught him. Come on now, not in this day and age do women have to put up with this shit.

Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!

As much as i would die for mr. sistawoman I would not tolerate him cheating on me.

sistawoman:


Leave him.

Twice in 3 weeks time she has caught him. Come on now, not in this day and age do women have to put up with this shit.

Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!

As much as i would die for mr. sistawoman I would not tolerate him cheating on me.

Preach, sista, preach!
I'm sorry but if he would cheat on you while you were PREGNANT with his KID shows how much of a man he really is. I don't even care if I swole up to a whale's proportions and we can't get busy - you still should not step out on me. I didn't get that way by myself!

Its very hard for me to accept him back after forgiving him only 3 weeks ago for the same thing

When it comes to forgiveness of adultery, There's always two ways about it

1. He'll take the forgiveness, be ashamed and never do it again

2. he'll take ADVANTAGE of the forgiveness, see you as weak and do it again

Your husband did the latter, therefore has NO respect for you. The pregnancy makes it worse.

Have you spoken to his family?

igwe 1:

what do U want her to do?

Get Aids and let the men of NairaLand pay for her medication.

what else?

ibeere oshi

My dear it happened to me too

I was very hearvy, at 7months i almost miscarriage my Preg. cos of same thing within 3weeks i catch him with 2 different girls same text Message, telling a lady that he is dying for her and he is seriiously in love with her

pls don't let it bother u so that u can hv ur baby safely dear

i know is hard to live with especially for  faithful wives, but it all depends on the husband's ability to turn over a new leaf.If he seems unrepentant, she can then bid fare well to her marital home.

There is no excuse for cheating on your pregnant wife.

igwe 1:

i know is hard to live with especially for faithful wives, but it all depends on the husband's ability to turn over a new leaf.If he seems unrepentant, she can then bid fare well to her marital home.

I would say cheating on your pregnant wife w/in three weeks of each affair is as unrepentant as one can get.

sistawoman:


Leave him.

Twice in 3 weeks time she has caught him. Come on now, not in this day and age do women have to put up with this shit.

Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!

As much as i would die for mr. sistawoman I would not tolerate him cheating on me.

Leave her husband cos he cheated??
So she leaves her husband and marries the next one and he cheats. . . .
What happens?? Leave him again and move to the next one??
When would women realise knee-jerk reaction is folly?

True she shouldn't leave him,afterall shez pregnant but. . .why cheat on her twice in three weeks?? Shez pregnant!!! That's most insensitive. Has he got no control?? Jeez.

But didn't she know this man well enough b/4 marriage b/c i know if hes so bad like this,it can't  just be b/c of the wife's condition.

Cristalz:

True she shouldn't leave him,afterall shez pregnant but. . .why cheat on her twice in three weeks?? Shez pregnant!!! That's most insensitive. Has he got no control?? Jeez.

The man might have found her unattractive. . . .U can't blame him.
Protruding belly, spitting wife, swollen face and limbs. . . .
Jeez, it ain't easy.

~Sauron~:

The man might have found her unattractive. . . .U can't blame him.
Protruding belly, spitting wife, swollen face and limbs. . . .
Jeez, it ain't easy.

For the love of babies dude!! That's a harsh thing to say.

She didn't make herself that way. Besides its not like shez gon' permanently remain that way. When he married her did he think she would remain slim and sexy during pregnancy? Come on.

Wherez the love here? So the wife too should cheat when her hubby loses his six-pack and gets a huge pouch??

Cristalz:

For the love of babies dude!! That's a harsh thing to say.

Did she make herself that way? Besides its not like shez gon' permanently remain that way. When he married her did he think she would remain slim and sexy during pregnancy? Come on.

Wherez the love here? So the wife too should cheat when her hubby loses his six-pack and gets a huge pouch??

Before u crucify me. . . . .I was only speculating on what might have driven her husband to cheat. . . . .I ain't the husband.

I agree, she didn't make herself that way but a man has to be mentally ready for these things to cope.
Little boys get married these days as soon as they get money and a woman. . . . .but it's more than that.
What do u really expect a wimp to do if he finds out the hour-glass shaped woman he married some months back has changed in size n weight?
Be sincere. . . . .I don't support him cheating on his wife but i can understand why he did.

Stop thinkng with your eyes and dick. Be realistic!

She is having YOUR child. It's not about you, right now.

Man up and deal with it. People change all the time.

~Sauron~:

What do u really expect a wimp to do if he finds out the hour-glass shaped woman he married some months back has changed in size n weight?
Be sincere. . . . .I don't support him cheating on his wife but i can understand why he did.

I disagree there o. Even a wimp knows the size and weight change isn't permanent. Its just for nine months, and they can still have sex for a good part of those nine months. So what's with the impatience to rush out and bump the first curvy lady he sees?