Ojemba99:
WHY THIS GENERATION HAS THE WRONG IDEA OF LOVE.


In this generation more than ever, people struggle to find love.  People are tired of meeting the misrepresented form of love, tired of being hopeful, tired of believing in love in it’s raw existence.

¤ Why is that:
This is because some think love should come easily and be easy to maintain. The truth is, is that true love does come easily, however, it takes work, hard-work.  Love isn’t a smooth ride, but the journey is worth it.  Most of us in this age want real love, but some do not want the work that comes with love itself.  We want great relationships, but are quick to quit during the storm.  We don’t care to put effort into fixing anything that goes wrong in relationships, we simply try to replace a relationship, especially when the problem is us, we are quick to replace partners. It’s obvious we live in a microwave society nowadays – an impatient generation. We also do not know the meaning of hard-work.  We are used to looking for other equations without solving the current problem.  That mentality also affects our love-life.

¤ True love is considered old school:
Lovely gestures are considered “kissing butt”, we let our pride stop us from doing the things necessary.  We don’t like expressing our love because we’re afraid of looking weak.  Both males and females of this generation mistake being rude, sarcastic and emotionless for good qualities.  Our fear of being walked on causes us to operate like robots looking for a real experience, instead of human-beings open to real experiences. Even good morals and values became a thing of the past. Therefore, what use to be right and loving becomes stupidity and opinions.

¤ We let fear conquer all instead of love:
Fear keeps us from ever opening our hearts to love.  We let the thought of getting hurt, over-power the possibilities of love. Instead of treating our hurts and healing from them, we cover up the wounds and use the wounds as a reminder to keep our walls up.  Being courageous when it comes to love, its foolishness to us. The quote “Love conquers all” is backwards to us, “all” seems to conquer love in our eyes.


¤ We fall in love with potential not reality:
We love the potentials in our partner, but won’t endure through their mistakes and shortcomings.  The honeymoon stage is all we consider love.  To us the honeymoon stage defines the relationship and we expect things to improve or at least remain the same.  From the experiences in the honeymoon stage, dawn future expectations for our partner and relationship. Unfortunately humans change, they face rough times, they fall short of their potentials, and the relationship may have rough seasons. Yet many of us never see beyond the honeymoon stage, when its done with, so are we.

¤ Lack of self-love:
In this age more and more kids were raised in broken homes,  which has an affect on self-love.  The absence of the father and the mother in the home in a functional relationship has caused both men and women to not know a side of love that is designed to learn from both parents.  Lack of that connection causes many to lack self-love and search for it in relationships.  This often leads to looking for love in the wrong place and operating under a false idea of what love should be.

¤ Lastly:
Lust is confused for love, sex isn’t love.  Emotions from sexual connection have lead many to believe they’re in love when in reality it’s lust.  Love is more than emotion, you can have chemistry and some emotional areas and not be in love.  This generation isn’t very successful on differentiating the two. Sex is a product of love,  but love isn’t a product of sex.

kilokeys:
was the older generation better
?.
we copied something from somebody

Ask him....... We didn't invent these things, did we

BreezyRita:

Ask him....... We didn't invent these things, did we

kilokeys:
was the older generation better
?.
we copied something from somebody

missberrypop5:
Nice post. But love is really dead. It died in the old times.

missberrypop5:
to be frank, yes. The older generation was better when it comes to love and commitment. Lot of people from these generation don't have time to sacrifice for love. We're always looking for who will sacrifice for us. No one wanna sacrifice. I'm guitly of it though.

cupidhero:

i planned bringing it back to life...but i think the cross is not mine to carry. instead of making love music i will make hate music cos this generation does not deserve love,we got it all wrong. glad you back,hope u feeling stronger?

kilokeys:

the mind of man is a tabularaza.. though wickedness is innate.. we learn expression from what we see and learn.. when i started loving.. it was pure.. now it isn't so pure anymore.. why? i have learnt.
how did i learn? from experience, from what i see everyday.
its nt a generational thing alone.. we influenced ourselves back then, we influence ourselves now.

missberrypop5:
bring it back to life? Do you want a zombie love? Well, i think zombie love is better, its contagious and very dangerous. Maybe thats what suits this generation. Everyone deserves love dear, even the wicked deserve it. Don't stop singing about it at least it brings back sweet memories of both love and friendship.

missberrypop5:
Nice post. But love is really dead. It died in the old times.

kilokeys:
was the older generation better
?.
we copied something from somebody

cupidhero:

lol! na because of you o,i 4 just vex now & start spreading hate..but seriously music helps in selling love,at one of ed sheeran's performance 9 couples got engaged and got married weeks later,music has saved lives,saved marriages. i swear we could bring back that good ol love with a few melodies and some good lyrics if only wiz kid and terry G will give us chance. i can't sell the type of music i plan making with nigerians definition of love.

missberrypop5:
lol, abi o. I too believe love can be shared through music. And who told you your music won't sell? As long as you've got good lyrics and nice beats and tunes backing it up it will. And you've got the voice. Try project fame or Nigerian idol, will you?

cupidhero:

project fame? you don't they give me hope now,when i go their and fall hands with ma ordinary voice you go come deny me,those project fame boys and girls get angelic voice,thanks for the advice tho buti will stick with project sing in the shower for now. hope you feeling better?