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chucksbadt:
I have a friend of mine, who a graduate and currently doing his NYSC service, he's 22 now as we speak, but he's still scared to ask his dad for basic demands like cloths, upkeep money, time to visit friends, or even a car key (his dad has about 5 cars).......His dad in question is quite rich, but i believe strict manner the dad used to raise him still lingers in his head......please any advice for him?

Didn't you feel odd, typing the bolded bit of your sentence?

At 22, your friend is an adult and should grow a hustling backbone. He should also learn to act like one. He's finished uni and is now serving. He is capable of earning his own money. He should be living on his own or making plans to live an independent life and cut the apron strings.

"Clothes, upkeep money, time to visit friends..." like seriously?? Does he think he's in secondary school? Still asking for BASIC stuff at his age??

What is it with you Nigerian youths and your chronic entitlement mentality??

Tell this friend of yours that he needs a hard knock on his head to reset his brain. He's a guy for goodness sake!

I got my first job at 17, shortly after I completed secondary school (in Naija). How much more a guy for that matter?

EfemenaXY:


Didn't you feel odd, typing the bolded bit of your sentence?

At 22, your friend is an adult and should grow a hustling backbone. He should also learn to act like one. He's finished uni and is now serving. He is capable of earning his own money. He should be living on his own or making plans to live an independent life and cut the apron strings.

"Clothes, upkeep money, time to visit friends..." like seriously?? Does he think he's in secondary school? Still asking for BASIC stuff at his age??

What is it with you Nigerian youths and your chronic entitlement mentality??

Tell this friend of yours that he needs a hard knock on his head to reset his brain. He's a guy for goodness sake!

I got my first job at 17, shortly after I completed secondary school (in Naija). How much more a guy for that matter?

Thanks for the tip bro......my friend in question works, he does advanced video editing part time.....he earns some cash from that....

chucksbadt:



Thanks for the tip bro......my friend in question works, he does advanced video editing part time.....he earns some cash from that....

Then advice him to learn to live within his means. i.e: cut his coat according to his size.

At 22, the world is his oyster. The desire for these "basic stuff" should push and motivate him to work harder. He isn't married. Hasn't got kids yet. So there really isn't anything to limit or slow him down.

He is a man and should act accordingly. By doing so, he'll even earn the respect of his dad. Having said that, I won't begrudge him for needing a car. That is essential for his hustling.

However, when (politely) asking his dad for one, he should make it known at that point that he would be responsible for the upkeep and maintenance of that car. Fuel, repairs, etc would & should be his to shoulder if he is serious about his need for one.

Gbam. You have said it all



small time the father will say kneel down raise up your hands and close your eyes they will be complaining that they are big boys.


The day your father will throw his girlfriend pant that resemble something wey them don starch on your head to wash is coming. Don't leave the house and find job. Be waiting for your rich dad to be giving you money

EfemenaXY:


Didn't you feel odd, typing the bolded bit of your sentence?

At 22, your friend is an adult and should grow a hustling backbone. He should also learn to act like one. He's finished uni and is now serving. He is capable of earning his own money. He should be living on his own or making plans to live an independent life and cut the apron strings.

"Clothes, upkeep money, time to visit friends..." like seriously?? Does he think he's in secondary school? Still asking for BASIC stuff at his age??

What is it with you Nigerian youths and your chronic entitlement mentality??

Tell this friend of yours that he needs a hard knock on his head to reset his brain. He's a guy for goodness sake!

I got my first job at 17, shortly after I completed secondary school (in Naija). How much more a guy for that matter?

Gbam.the thing wey dey worry op friend is not sense of entitlement but strong LAZINESS. He no wan work bet he wan dey drive free car wey them don fuel and be collecting free money to do FAWORAJA

EfemenaXY:


Then advice him to learn to live within his means. i.e: cut his coat according to his size.

At 22, the world is his oyster. The desire for these "basic stuff" should push and motivate him to work harder. He isn't married. Hasn't got kids yet. So there really isn't anything to limit or slow him down.

He is a man and should act accordingly. By doing so, he'll even earn the respect of his dad. Having said that, I won't begrudge him for needing a car. That is essential for his hustling.

However, when (politely) asking his dad for one, he should make it known at that point that he would be responsible for the upkeep and maintenance of that car. Fuel, repairs, etc would & should be his to shoulder if he is serious about his need for one.

The day I collected my first allowee in camp was the last day I got my allowance from my parents. My folks weren't wealthy, but they chose to care for their kids until their kids could stand on two legs even of we stood up wobbly and uncertain.

Your friend wants to live the life of a rich boy and his dad would not have it. Guy is lucky. If his father lived in more liberal societies, the man could have done a Bill Gates on him i.e leave his entire fortune to charity!

Tell your friend to get off his droopy arsey and make his own way. I guarantee you that if he went to his dad and asked him to introduce him to a particular acquaintance who is hosting an event needing video coverage, the father would not bat an eyelid. He would even give him the keys to a car to meet that job. But if the dad is anything like I hope he is, and homeboy asks for that car to "visit friends"...... My dad once told me the story of a man who shot his wayward son in the foot and flew him to the US for treatment. Cured the waywardness sharply sharply!

I agree with all that has been said above but the problem here is not even the LAZINESS, but the FEAR!

At 22, a guy should be his dad's buddy, and should not be scared to ask him for time to go visit friends or car keys.

He needs to repair his relationship with his dad, show that you've got the maturity and dad will start seeing you as a big boy.

He cannot be like that forever.

chucksbadt:
I have a friend of mine, who a graduate and currently doing his NYSC service, he's 22 now as we speak, but he's still scared to ask his dad for basic demands like cloths, upkeep money, time to visit friends, or even a car key (his dad has about 5 cars).......His dad in question is quite rich, but i believe strict manner the dad used to raise him still lingers in his head......please any advice for him?

did you just type that,or you exaggerated it?

At 22,a graduate,asking for money,and permission to visit friend,he's damn an immature guy,no wonder the dad sees him as a big baby...

Till he changes his orientation,mentality,and hustling mentality,he will still be treated like a baby,and still have the fear for his dad.