A friend confided in me thus;

I have always had this problem right from my secondary school days,and I thought as I grow older I'd get over it, but alas! It was not to be.

The issue is, I have a very loving and caring family, a dream job, faithful friends and a girl friend that can even catch a grenade for me, but the truth the truth is, (I have never told them anyways) I feel empty, sad and lonely even amidst them.

I have tried been engrossed with my favourite hobbies (football and scrable) but afterwards emptiness and sadness envelop me.

I've sort spiritual councelling sessions, but all to no avail but the truth is I have never given suicide a thought, coz this planet is the only beautiful place I know.

Pls psychologists in the house what could be the solution.
Pls help a sad souled brother.

Please don't take this as an insult but you haven't tried a psychiatrist. The problem is that we take things like this in Africa like an abomination and not my portion kind of thing. I think it's depression but you need to see a psychiatrist.

sweettease:
Please don't take this as an insult but you haven't tried a psychiatrist. The problem is that we take things like this in Africa like an abomination and not my portion kind of thing. I think it's depression but you need to see a psychiatrist.

Psychiatrist? I don't remember sayin am retarded or insane. Its just an emotional thing and to the best of my knowledge, psychiatrists hav no say in this.

bros just change your thoughts...take out time and listen or observe the thoughts in your head you will discover that they are depressing thoughts and its the cause of your sadness, hence change your thought pattern or better yet concentrate on things that make you happy....just put your mind on things that are of good report says the bible

Op d lord is ur strght, occupy ur heart wit positive thought, no matter how hard tins were, tmoro is anthr opportunity in life

auntymi:
Op d lord is ur strght, occupy ur heart wit positive tiNz

nice one aunty mi

Bro its depression you need to see a specialist cos u need to manage this before it gets outta hand.....u really need to talk to someone

cescky:
bros just change your thoughts...take out time and listen or observe the thoughts in your head you will discover that they are depressing thoughts and its the cause of your sadness, hence change your thought pattern or better yet concentrate on things that make you happy....just put your mind on things that are of good report says the bible

I thought sad memories and past disapointments or maladies are the root causes of depression, not to sound boastful; I have had a fairly good life while growing up and till date. Thanks anyways

auntymi:
Op d lord is ur strght, occupy ur heart wit positive tiNz

Thanks bro, those words are golden!

kallmemrB:
Bro its depression you need to see a specialist cos u need to manage this before it gets outta hand.....u really need to talk to someone

That's why am here, coz y'all are that "someone" I needed to talk to.

You have successfully transformed into a psycho my brother,the last stage eventually involves suicide,since u aint happy being alive and thank God almighty,then u have serious issues..just change your character and orientation towards life,get religious,and learn to say your feelings and emotions to people in the real world and not on nairaland.

mdokaba1:



Psychiatrist? I don't remain sayin am retarded or insane. Its just an emotional thing and to the best of my knowledge, psychiatrists hav no say in this.

Its depression and depression is a psychological thing.
Please take your time to read this article
Mood Disorder
You can quote me and ask if you don't understand any medical term or pm me if you are more comfortable with that.

sweettease:

Its depression and depression is a psychological thing.
Please take your time to read this article
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Major_depressive_disorder
You can quote me and ask if you don't understand any medical term or pm me if you are more comfortable with that.

Thanks sweet, pray it helps

Justdulla:
You have successfully transformed into a psycho my brother,the last stage eventually involves suicide,since u aint happy being alive and thank God almighty,then u have serious issues..just change your character and orientation towards life,get religious,and learn to say your feelings and emotions to people in the real world and not on nairaland.

That's mean. Bro

mdokaba1:

Thanks bro, pray it helps

Please I just edited the link
Try the new link and I do hope same.
Btw I'm not a guy

cescky:


nice one aunty mi

When u're feeling extremely depressed, d problems don’t seem
temporary—they seem overwhelming and
permanent. But with time, you will feel
better, especially if you reach out for
help. If you are feeling depressed alwayz, know that
there are many people who want to
support you during this difficult time, so
please reach out for help

auntymi:
When u're feeling extremely depressed, d problems don’t seem
temporary—they seem overwhelming and
permanent. But with time, you will feel
better, especially if you reach out for
help. If you are feeling depressed alwayz, know that
there are many people who want to
support you during this difficult time, so
please reach out for help

Thanks dear, ur words are so lifting. I'd do that dear, I have actually been keepin it away from family and frendz coz I wudint want them to start fearing that I might harm myself somday.

I think this is more specific to what you are feeling
Depressive Personality Disorder

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Thanks dear, ur words are so lifting. I'd do that dear, I have actually been keepin it away from family and frendz coz I wudint want them to start fearing that I might harm myself somday.[/quote

mdokaba1:


Thanks dear, ur words are so lifting. I'd do that dear, I have actually been keepin it away from family and frendz coz I wudint want them to start fearing that I might harm myself somday.

kk, nd lastly pray over it, d lord is uR strenght

I went through this a feW years back, feeling lonely in the midst of family and frienDs it was just too much to bear

Thank God for the kind of friends I had, one of them who read counseling psychology,really helped

I haD to search deep within me, do more often things that make me happy, build my confidence and self esteem and of course with prayers

Right now I'm a happy girl!

I am not a psychologist actually, but I have some points to chip in which might be of help.
You are actually depressed. But I'm surprised given that you don't have traumatic stress experience.

How you are feeling is a function of your temperament. My guess is that you could be a CHRONIC MELANCHOLY. You will be surprised how temperament affect our lives.

Lets start from there,what temperament are you?

Ebiz12:
I've went through this a feW years back, feeling lonely in the midst of family and frienDs it was just too much to bear

Thank God for the kind of friends I had, one of them who read counseling psychology,really helped

I haD to search deep within me, do more often things that make me happy, build my confidence and self esteem and of course with prayers

Right now I'm a happy girl!

Am glad af found someone dat once wore this shoe. Needin ir prays pls

Babe2sure:
I am not a psychologist actually, but I have some points to chirp in which might be of help.
You are actually depressed. But I'm surprised given that you don't have traumatic stress experience.

How you are feeling is a function of your temperament. My guess is that you could be a CHRONIC MELANCHOLY. You will be surprised how temperament affect our lives.

Lets start from there,what temperament are you?

A blend of melancholy and sanguin

mdokaba1:


That's why am here, coz y'all are that "someone" I needed to talk to.

we ain't no specialist

kallmemrB:
we ain't no specialist

O! Pls, I made it clears that only those who are psychologically inclined shud make contributions, DEAL WIT DAT PLS!!!

mdokaba1:


O! Pls, I made it clears that only those who are psychologically inclined shud make contributions, DEAL WIT DAT PLS!!!

with an attitude like that,no wonder ur depressed

mdokaba1:


A blend of melancholy and sanguin

Okay. You have a sanguine temperament but I don't think it is much, probably 10%.

You did not mention seeing a psychologist, you still need to visit one. They will have drugs they will recommend that will help solve melancholic depression, at least to an extent. As well as tips to follow to get over your emptiness.

Eventhough, you said you don't have suicidal thoughts, it progresses to that stage gradually if not treated. I don't pray that for you.

Eventhough you are not contented with life, accept that there is nothing you can do to change it. So make the best use of it.

-Pray to God about it. Prayer works!
-Open up to your parents, so that they will support you in their own little way.
-Try and be cheerful, hang out more with extroverts, it helps.

kallmemrB:
with an attitude like that,no wonder ur depressed

Every beat of u smells rudeness, right from ur fost post. Get some attitude councelor pls.
Am nat here for ur likes.

Babe2sure:


Okay. You have a sanguine temperament but I don't think it is much, probably 10%.

You did not mention seeing a psychologist, you still need to visit one. They will have drugs they will recommend that will help solve melancholic depression, at least to an extent. As well as tips to follow to get over your emptiness.

Even though, you said you don't have suicidal thoughts, it progresses to that stage gradually if not treated. I don't pray that for you.

Even though you are not contented about life, accept that there is nothing you can do to change it. So make the best use of it.

-Pray to God about it. Prayer works!
-Open up to your parents, so that they will support you in their own little way.
-Try and be cheerful, hang out more with extroverts, it helps.

I'd go see an expert, Ur words are therapeutical. Appreciate!!!

mdokaba1:


Every beat of u smells rudeness, right from ur fost post. Get some attitude councelor pls.
Am nat here for ur likes.

it ain't rudeness but ur first quote is sickening