isika82:

I am dating this Nigerian guy and I really really care about him, but he is always talking about respect, drowning it into my ears like it's the only English word that exists in the dictionary. And so I pose the question today, what is it about respect with Nigerian men. He insists that he doesn't want any miss independent and I must admit that I can be a little stubborn and yes, I have been doing things for myself before he came into my life. I care about him and YES i do respect him. But I wanted to ask you good folks if it's just a Nigeria thing, this deep fascination with respect.

p.s He got mad one day when i stated that that African men want to be respected always, am I wrong?

isika82:

No not all, just want to understand where Nigerian men are coming from. Like I said earlier I care about him, but the talk on respect just had me thinking a bit. Would a Nigerian guy respect his woman equally? I guess that's the main point of my argument. Or better yet, what does respect entail? Cos lord knows I'm not too cut out for the domestic roles.

~Sauron~:

If you are not cut for the domestic roles, don't marry a Nigerian man.

Treetop20:

[i]no yelling that is a violent behavior
or walk out when they get upset

Treetop20:

no yelling that is a violent behavior
and i run and keep away from such
also girls who tend to bang doors
or walk out when they get upset
that is a no no

onyinye2:

Sounds like PMS to me. . . . . .

KarmaMod:

Pick one. Isnt it better to walk out and calm down if you dont want to hear any yelling?

isika82:

No not all, just want to understand where Nigerian men are coming from. Like I said earlier I care about him, but the talk on respect just had me thinking a bit. Would a Nigerian guy respect his woman equally? I guess that's the main point of my argument. Or better yet, what does respect entail? Cos lord knows I'm not too cut out for the domestic roles.

isika82:

I am dating this Nigerian guy and I really really care about him, but he is always talking about respect, drowning it into my ears like it's the only English word that exists in the dictionary. And so I pose the question today, what is it about respect with Nigerian men. He insists that he doesn't want any miss independent and I must admit that I can be a little stubborn and yes, I have been doing things for myself before he came into my life. I care about him and YES i do respect him. But I wanted to ask you good folks if it's just a Nigeria thing, this deep fascination with respect.

p.s He got mad one day when i stated that that African men want to be respected always, am I wrong?

Treetop20:

you'd be surprised at how many
girls do this

tope2000:

if a man want respect, i'll give him but he has to respect me 2. chikena

isika82:

I am dating this Nigerian guy and I really really care about him, but he is always talking about respect, drowning it into my ears like it's the only English word that exists in the dictionary. And so I pose the question today, what is it about respect with Nigerian men. He insists that he doesn't want any miss independent and I must admit that I can be a little stubborn and yes, I have been doing things for myself before he came into my life. I care about him and YES i do respect him. But I wanted to ask you good folks if it's just a Nigeria thing, this deep fascination with respect.

p.s He got mad one day when i stated that that African men want to be respected always, am I wrong?

you can walk out after we are done with the argument

~Sauron~:

U will get your maximum respect. . . . .and that is the fear of you catching me pants down on our matrimonial bed with a Jamaican model.
No sassy text messages or all that rubbish lying around you. All those are ways of me giving u your respect.

No violence, no yelling, no threats, happy now??

Well, your own part of the deal is cooking, washing, breakfast in bed(weekends), scrubbing ma behind in bed.
Nice arrangement, innit??

~Sauron~:

Well, your own part of the deal is cooking, washing, breakfast in bed(weekends), scrubbing ma behind in bed.
Nice arrangement, innit??
Don't pay attention to em man eaters(Stillwater n co.) They worship their partners but come online to beat their chests and spue: TUFIAKWU!!!!

stillwater:

Look at who's talking, we all know you are a sexist.

tope2000:

OMG!!!!! i have suffered
Sauron, Do i have tribal marks??
If i should dare sense that nonsense . . . . .my! my!! u will surely regret the day u were born

Happy with that  

And you are?
Me - scrub ur behind?? r u serious
I dnt mind the brekkie in bed but not always or we take turns in doing that

isika82:

It's funny you say Nigerians raised abroad. He came here as a child and when i met him he seemed more American than Nigerian. It's as if his Nigerian side sprung up after fully being comfortable in our relationship. Now there is talks of respect, and traditional roles, especially talks of traditional religion and not even Christianity as he opposes White man's religion. Is this common?

~Sauron~:

Tribal marks?? I am not sure if u do.
Can i see your pic?? No photoshop plzzzzz.

I said weekends ONLY.

isika82:

It's funny you say Nigerians raised abroad. He came here as a child and when i met him he seemed more American than Nigerian. It's as if his Nigerian side sprung up after fully being comfortable in our relationship. Now there is talks of respect, and traditional roles, especially talks of traditional religion and not even Christianity as he opposes White man's religion. Is this common?

tope2000:

I dont do fraud, all my pics r un-retouched
but u aint seeing it

It doesnt matter
You can always surprise me in bed too with breakfast

~Sauron~:

U have showed me before jor!!!
Besides, it's on specsavers' billboard @ Stockwell with you in glasses.
Are they paying you for that??

I will do that every Feb 29th.

isika82:

you can walk out after we are done with the argument

I don't walk out, i get very very very quite, with nothing to say and he is always like say something, I say say nothing. I know he hates that, I'm just not used to saying things when mad. Being quite works for me as I am processing it all. But he keeps sayings, say something,