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My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by poundsterling: 12:08am On Mar 18, 2015
We currently have sex once everu 4/5 weeks and its usually after i complain bitterly about it. I love him but I am struggling because I feel neglected and frustrated all the time. To make matters worse i am in love with my husband and totally attracted to him. Most time we will spend an entire weekend house to ourselves watching movies and talking. Is it wrong to want more? Is sex approx 12 times a year normal? My sex drive is very high but i am willing to meet him halfway say once a week. I don't want to cheat...... i need help
Have tried talking to him about it but it ends up in a horrible fight. I have suggested a GP visit in case its medical but he says he is ok makes me feel bad about my own sex drive. Things used to be good before

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Dyt(f): 12:20am On Mar 18, 2015
poundsterling:
Things used to be good before

Explain pls
U mean he used to wash u like every week?

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Dioxidane: 12:21am On Mar 18, 2015
Maybe you don't make yourself enticing as you use to... Try wearing attire that would attract him to you. Men naturally are attracted to what they see. If he is attracted to you, trust me, you would be the one begging for time off. That's one reason though. It could also be stress at work. Bottom line: talk as a couple and you guys should work things out.

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by centmichael101(m): 12:36am On Mar 18, 2015
When a guy get married sex becomes a job!! WHO NO KNOW NO GO KNOW

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by jamex93(m): 12:38am On Mar 18, 2015
talk to him the manner in which a wife talks to her husband.....explain how u feel m sure he will change.....but if him no change, use plan B
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 1:45am On Mar 18, 2015
poundsterling:
We currently have sex once everu 4/5 weeks and its usually after i complain bitterly about it. I love him but I am struggling because I feel neglected and frustrated all the time. To make matters worse i am in love with my husband and totally attracted to him. Most time we will spend an entire weekend house to ourselves watching movies and talking. Is it wrong to want more? Is sex approx 12 times a year normal? My sex drive is very high but i am willing to meet him halfway say once a week. I don't want to cheat...... i need help
Have tried talking to him about it but it ends up in a horrible fight. I have suggested a GP visit in case its medical but he says he is ok makes me feel bad about my own sex drive. Things used to be good before

He is probably having erectile dysfunction and is ashamed to say it
Once every 4-5 weeks is way too little
This is not normal
Encourage him and let him know that you are willing to support him in seeking help
Did he have a healthy sexual appetite before this
Does he have any new health problems
Taking any medications?
How is his performance at that monthly rendezvous?

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by poundsterling: 1:56am On Mar 18, 2015
Sex before was really great used to even hide away from him because it was virtually every day. When it does finally happen its really on point but its just once whether i finish or not thats it for 6 more weeks. I have decided to just keep quiet. I have provided him with medical info with symptoms of thyriod function etc that can cause low sex drive. He only wants it when he has a need any time i try to intiate sex he turns away or starts a fight. I am even scared now to touch him down there. At 34 is erectile disfunction normal?
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 2:00am On Mar 18, 2015
poundsterling:
Sex before was really great used to even hide away from him because it was virtually every day. When it does finally happen its really on point but its just once whether i finish or not thats it for 6 more weeks. I have decided to just keep quiet. I have provided him with medical info with symptoms of thyriod function etc that can cause low sex drive. He only wants it when he has a need any time i try to intiate sex he turns away or starts a fight. I am even scared now to touch him down there. At 34 is erectile disfunction normal?



If you say his performance is good at those times when he is able,it doesn't sound like ED
Is he stressed at work?
Out of work?
Another woman?
There must be a reason his libido appears low
You cannot keep quiet though,this is not normal at all and shouldn't be acceptable to you
You need to bring it up and discuss it

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 5:50am On Mar 18, 2015
I can DEDUCE from your STORY , that u guys possibly lack GOOD COMMUNICATION SKILLS as partners.

QUESTIONS:
Is he an INTROVERT...because He may see you UNAPPEALING and keep mute.. (Such is bad).
Was HE performing better(kick starting U) before now..?

Was his JOB placement good before now..?
Does he have so many DEPENDENT relatives..?

Does any of your RELATIVES reside with u ..?
How CONDUCIVE is your APARTMENT..?

Has he been doing well lately..?
Do U as a wife , have a JOB...?

Are both of U really compatible..?
Did u Date for some quality time..?

Do u have kids..? IF yes, how OLD are they..?
Do these kids BARGE into your LIVING room..?

Do you partners plan LOVE-MAKING ..? Or it just happens ACCIDENTALLY..?
WHEN u guys get aroused for SEXX, does he ENJOY it or complains bitterly....?

Does he achieve TURGID erectiion before sexx...?
How long does he last ..?
What kind of LIFESTYLE does he live..?

Is he really preoccupied..?
is he a FULLTIME BORN AGAIN..?

At least he should be able to KICK START u 2times a week..

IF U can answer these QUESTIONS, then I can Deduce your problems to some extent..

I don't want to CONCLUDE fast, because your story seems shallow...
SO, PLEASE reassess yourself, put up COURAGE and discuss with him.

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by KanwuliaJara: 6:27am On Mar 18, 2015
Mtcheeeeeeeew!!!!

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Dyt(f): 6:29am On Mar 18, 2015
Royalroy is that u?
undecided undecided

Modify?

Pls put it back oooo

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 6:34am On Mar 18, 2015
Dioxidane:
Maybe you don't make yourself enticing as you use to... Try wearing attire that would attract him to you. Men naturally are attracted to what they see. If he is attracted to you, trust me, you would be the one begging for time off. That's one reason though. It could also be stress at work. Bottom line: talk as a couple and you guys should work things out.

Classic!!!

Blame it in her . . . . undecided

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Dyt(f): 7:08am On Mar 18, 2015
Wedon:


Classic!!!

Blame it in her . . . . undecided

cheesy cheesy
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by dinachi(m): 9:40am On Mar 18, 2015
babyosisi:

If you say his performance is good at those times when he is able,it doesn't sound like ED
Is he stressed at work?
Out of work?
Another woman?
There must be a reason his libido appears low
You cannot keep quiet though,this is not normal at all and shouldn't be acceptable to you
You need to bring it up and discuss it
Bia this scammer, what are you doing here? You are back here to sell your fake lifestyle. After Ewuro tore you to shreds in the other thread, you are here again to spread poison. Go back to your hell hole. You have no credibility.

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 9:45am On Mar 18, 2015
KanwuliaJara:
Mtcheeeeeeeew!!!!
Trust me, all these Nairaland guys that brag are like that.


Bunch of weak offsprings hating feminists. grin grin grin

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 9:48am On Mar 18, 2015
OP, why not sample another correct guy?. Probably, white dude or mullatto. grin

Nigerian guys aren't loyal. Only God knows what he's doing at your back. grin

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 9:50am On Mar 18, 2015
Lace his food with viagra lipsrsealed

Just kidding..
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by halldoran: 9:55am On Mar 18, 2015
Vickybee:
OP, why not sample another correct guy?. Probably, white dude or mullatto. grin

Nigerian guys aren't loyal. Only God knows what he's doing at your back. grin

Kid!

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Dyt(f): 9:57am On Mar 18, 2015
Khabuqi:
Lace his food with viagra lipsrsealed
Just kidding..


Very correct one
He must scatter that abuna
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 9:59am On Mar 18, 2015
Dyt:



Very correct one
He must scatter that abuna

Huh undecided

Don't corrupt me please.
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Dyt(f): 10:01am On Mar 18, 2015
Khabuqi:


Huh undecided

Don't corrupt me please.

Yimu
Ashedi agbalagba
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 10:03am On Mar 18, 2015
Dyt:


Yimu
Ashedi agbalagba

Madam; mind yourself o!

I don miss you o kiss
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Dyt(f): 10:04am On Mar 18, 2015
Khabuqi:


Madam; mind yourself o!

I don miss you o kiss

Wetin u miss?
Licks soup fingers, deeping in mouth one by one, making sound
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 10:04am On Mar 18, 2015
Dyt:


Wetin u miss?
Licks soup fingers, deeping in mouth one by one, making sound

Your yansh of course cheesy
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Dyt(f): 10:09am On Mar 18, 2015
Khabuqi:


Your yansh of course cheesy

I wee send u holy slaps
Who's ur mate
No derail the thread abeg

Hit me up on whatsapp
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 10:10am On Mar 18, 2015
Dyt:


I wee send u holy slaps
Who's ur mate
No derail the thread abeg

Hit me up on whatsapp

give me your number then shocked
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Dyt(f): 10:11am On Mar 18, 2015
Khabuqi:


give me your number then shocked

Mtchewwww
I dunno u
angry angry
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 10:14am On Mar 18, 2015
Dyt:


Mtchewwww
I dunno u
angry angry

grin grin
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 2:20am On Mar 20, 2015
Vickybee:
OP, why not sample another correct guy?. Probably, white dude or mullatto. grin

Nigerian guys aren't loyal. Only God knows what he's doing at your back. grin
Are you married?

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 2:27am On Mar 20, 2015
.

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Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 6:30am On Mar 20, 2015
pcguru1:

Are you married?
undecided
Re: My Man Has A Low Sex Drive by Nobody: 7:07am On Mar 20, 2015

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