If your wife of more than 6years of marriage is a chronic liar,and nothing you have not done to know if she can change,all to no result.have sat her down severally and talked to her,yet no change.Everybody knows that one of the destructive tools in marriage is telling lies(lack of trust).One of the effect of this on the side of the man is that it has reduced the love he has on her almost to zero level.A wife that has made telling lies as a second nature,she sees it as '"a normal thing",the conscience doesnt blame her. Please is there any solution again to this?

Marrying such a woman is every man's worst nightmare

The solution is to look for marriage expert to counsel u

Divorce her!!!

jascon1:
The solution is to look for marriage expert to counsel u

such steps were taken and yet did not find a lasting solution."very chronic"-refuse to go attitude

Deliverance

Being in a relationship with a lying spouse isn't much fun – and that’s putting it lightly. After a while, mistrust develops, as do other emotions such as bitterness and anger.

It’s hard to understand why your partner lies to you, since this was the person you vowed to love, honor and trust – the same vows your lying spouse made to you at your marriage celebration.

There are ways to deal with a partner who doesn't tell the truth, as well as some things to consider before you get all up in arms about the situation.

“Lying can feel like a serious form of betrayal [but] if you catch your spouse in a lie, it is important to examine your reaction [since] your behaviors may influence the likelihood that your spouse may lie again.

It’s one thing if she’s lying to avoid embarrassment for herself, and it’s quite another if she’s trying to protect you from pain. Knowing her motive is crucial to knowing how to respond – and whether and how to forgive the lies.

Why People Lie:

Before suspecting your spouse is having an affair or hiding something from you, learn the various reasons why people lie so you can analyze the situation from a more objective perspective.

Lying begins early in life. Children as young as two may lie, and the behavior usually begins when children discover that words can do marvelous things. A lie isn't always meant to hurt another person -- we call these “white lies” – but hurt may sometimes be the result.

Some people lie as a form of self-protection. As we grow, we learn that lies can save us from punishment or conflict with others. They also can gain acceptance from a group, and can be used to hide a shameful event or blemish.

Lying can save a friend's feelings, too, or it can be used to hide the secret of a special holiday gift. But what about a lying spouse?

Lying comes naturally to most of us. We says that our friend's favorite shirt looks beautiful, knowing how much the person loves the ugly thing. We lie in job interviews to increase the potential of being hired. We lie to our children, promising ice cream later if they eat their meal first – and then we try to get them to forget our promise, so we can avoid having to drive to the ice cream store.

Drawing the Line:

Your tolerance of certain lies may mean less conflict and more harmony at home, especially if she just wants a " Origin "beer, but is afraid to tell you she’s going to a bar – when she knows you’ll accept it if he’s going to “Grandma’s house to help her and have a beer.”

But when a lying spouse is trying to cover up an affair, that’s a lie of a different level. Once that kind of lie come to light, both people are faced with what to do about the situation.

Will you refute the lying behavior – and possibly end your marriage? Or will you “put up and shut up,” in hopes that the affair will end soon?

Some people who’ve been lied to may feel unable to cope with their reactions or the emotions involved. They can’t get past the feelings of betrayal.

Seeking therapy or counseling to deal with the situation is a very helpful thing to do if lying has caused you to become deeply upset. Therapy does not excuse your partner’s lying behavior. But it does help you work through the emotions and move forward, as you learn how you can best handle the situation.

ALLAHU AFIS

There is no solution.

dasensible1:
Divorce her!!!

moro.n, as if divorce is always the answer

@madridguy, thanks for the advice,although all you mentioned have been applied,honestly its only somebody who wears this kind of shoe in his/her marriage knows how painful it is.It brings down the love to zero level.

@kle4d,i view your point because when a man applied all the necessary tools to know if she can put an end to such attitude and all failed,the person will begin to ask himself,what else can he do to solve this chronic problem?,is it solvable atall- something of more than 6 years?,what else to do that has not been done?,and thats the essence of posting this to get advice from people who have witnessed this or know people that have witnessed such or to offer an advice if any that have not been offered.

God will touch her heart .

farous:
@madridguy, thanks for the advice,although all you mentioned have been applied,honestly its only somebody who wears this kind of shoe in his/her marriage knows how painful it is.It brings down the love to zero level.

@kle4d,i view your point because when a man applied all the necessary tools to know if she can put an end to such attitude and all
failed,the person will begin to ask himself,what else can he do to solve this chronic problem?,is it solvable atall- something of more than 6 years?,what else to do that has not been done?,and thats the essence of posting this to get advice from people who have witnessed this or know people that have witnessed such or to offer an advice if any that have not been offered.

Op how did you convince yourself into believing that you could marry such an individual cos your write up tells me somehow that you might probably be an honest and upright person

No solution besides counselling and you already employed that and no yeilded result.

Your eyes were consciously wide open when you chose her from the crowd of other women.

Carry your cross.

Nawa ooo, Na only prayers fit solve am oooo...

Or you can start your own lying spree. Lie even when the truth is obvious. .tell her that since she wants a home full of lies, you can help her do that.... When she's tired of asking you please tell me the truth bla bla, nobody will tell her to retrace her steps...

You can suggest a marriage counselling class for both of you, don't tell her it's cos of her lying attitude but discuss with the marriage counsellor to stress the need of being truthful to your spouse prior to that..

All the best bro.. God's your strength cos I can imagine the emotional stress you're going through. ..

MarvellousGod:
Nawa ooo, Na only prayers fit solve am oooo...
Or you can start your own lying spree. Lie even when the truth is obvious . .tell her that since she wants a home full of lies, you can help her do that.... When she's tired of asking you please tell me the truth bla bla, nobody will tell her to retrace her steps...
You can suggest a marriage counselling class for both of you, don't tell her it's cos of her lying attitude but discuss with the marriage counsellor to stress the need of being truthful to your spouse prior to that..
All the best bro.. God's your strength cos I can imagine the emotional stress you're going through. ..

I guess we can't do without lying hehe

You funny die

Ewuro4:


I guess we can't do without lying hehe

You funny die

Lol. .. To get a thief you have to act like a thief

MarvellousGod:
Lol. .. To get a thief you have to act like a thief

I guess so , Hehe what's with the face? Hehe

@op, i really sympathise with you because you posted the same thing about this very your wife in 2013, which means she has not changed yet. Well, I don't really know what i can say except that you keep praying for her.

But honestly, she must have been like that before marriage, and what makes me more confused is you going ahead to marry her despite knowing the kind of woman she is.

I wish you well.

greatgod2012:
@op, i really sympathise with you because you posted the same thing about this very your wife in 2013, which means she has not changed yet. Well, I don't really know what i can say except that you keep praying for her.

But honestly, she must have been like that before marriage, and what makes me more confused is you going ahead to marry her despite knowing the kind of woman she is.

I wish you well.

Maybe she's omo pupa.

Ewuro4:


Maybe she's omo pupa.

and what if she's omo pupa
I'm one o, be careful.
We omo pupas aint tempting o........lol

Ewuro4:


I guess so , Hehe what's with the face? Hehe

The emoticon means 'being confused' na abi? Like seeking clarification. ..

greatgod2012:

and what if she's omo pupa
I'm one o, be careful.
We omo pupas aint tempting o ........lol

You are oh you fit make men commit.

Men have been lusting after omo pupa since our granny era.

greatgod2012:



and what if she's omo pupa
I'm one o, be careful.
We omo pupas aint tempting o........lol

what does omo pupa mean?

edwife:


what does omo pupa means?

fair in complexion lady.......
Yellowpawpaw woman....lol
Toyin tomato


pick your choice

@Op....help her build on her self esteem and confidence, study shows that people with low self esteem lie at every chance they get, moreso tell her and make her see reason that she loses nothing if she say the truth all the time, infact its a great relief.
I feel ur pain........all the best!!
#lieingwifeisman'sworstnightmare#

Therapy: Divorce

I am laughing cos each time she says anything, the expression on ur face
Buhahahahaha
In ur mind u will say
She's lied again

greatgod2012:



and what if she's omo pupa
I'm one o, be careful.
We omo pupas aint tempting o........lol

*singing*omo pupa o, omo pupa lemiofe, omo pupa o jowo moferanre o.tinba de London, omo pupa lemiofe, omo pupa o jowo moferanre o

Great god the omo pupa.omo to shan

lying is a special talent in some women they lie about everything.

SAMBARRY:
Great god the omo pupa.omo to shan

See waramean?

Who cares if she's a pathological liar. Omo to Shan.

Oga,
So sorry for what you are going through.
I have a first cousin who.is a chronic liar.
We have tried everything and yet no progress.

So,we have just resigned to our fate..Anything she says is a lie until proven otherwise.
We won't let her kill us with high bp,and the worst part is that she tells lies about things that are so obviously false.

If she restricts the lies to the family,we would have been happy but her lies stretch far and wide..the shame is unbearable and its not like she lacks anything as her family are well off.

There's no cure for this affliction..unless maybe electric shock (ect)by a qualified psychiatrist to reset her brain.I know its impossible but truly we as a family feel like its only stuff like that which can work.

Please if u find a cure,share here.