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Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by MORNDEW(m): 11:53am On Jun 06, 2015
Marriage, in God's own intent, was for a complimentary and supportive reasons. Whether such reasons have formed the basis for people getting married is a discuss that should be critically looked at.One of my Uncle who travelled abroad came back to search for a wife after which he took her to settle back in Lagos. He had already planned his marriage right from the onset that he will make-do with four children no matter their gender. Eight years into the marriage they are already done with child bearing.    

Both of us were discussing recently and he brought the issue of his marriage. He told me he is tired of marriage but was not considering divorce. I enquired why he  has suddenly gotten tired of his marriage? He told me he sees no reason for marriage other than to make babies. That he has gained nothing special from the wife since he got married to her other than her boobs which he can't stop sucking, taking her to functions to intmidate other guys with her beauty and enddowments.

The story of my uncle above, sums up the life of some modern women. A situation whereby a young guy struggles through school, or whatever he choses to do, sometimes, no lady will accept him because he has nothing or give him support to get to where he is going. He graduates from school, eventually gets a job, grows his career/profession/business and decides to settle down.He gets married to a woman who had no form of contribution to height he has reached in life, she come into his house start making babies for him, satisfy his sexual urge, cook, take care of the babies and thats it. When the kids grow up and can cater for themselves what next for her in the marriage. When challenges come, maybe at workplace, family or everyday normal challenges, some guys think outside the box and solve their own problem without any meaningful contribution from the wife. That is the emotional support which is another reason why theres marriage but some guys hadly rely on it to continue their life. Financially, some men have designed themselves in a way that the income of their spouse don't count in the marriage(that's when they work).

Many guys have argued that some of the reasons for marriage can be gotten outside even without a wedlock, you can bear children with a lady, fund her to take care of them, get a cook, and even have chance of banging different big backside if you so wish so what then is the need for marriage?

From this foregoing, women should start moulding themselves into relevant, intelligent and would be supportive wife.  Some women should stop waiting for a man to come out of the blues to come and marry them. When a man comes to you for marriage, get to know him better before you say i do that way you can find creative ways of being supportive to him throughout your marriage journey.

Women should not only focus on their own career before their husband comes along or engage in fashionist or fashionmonger way of life but carefully draw a plan of how their family would look like, identify with a man who tends or exhibit such traits of a man you would like to spend the rest of your life with and build up a relationship with him that way he won't see you as just another silverware added to his cabinet.      

Princewill Chimereze.
Writer, Public Affairs Analyst, Relationship Adviser and Social Commentator. 

Source: http://www.enlightennigeria..com/2015/06/have-women-of-today-lost-their.html
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by dharay99: 11:56am On Jun 06, 2015

brb...

Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by GeneralQuamdeen: 12:01pm On Jun 06, 2015
dharay99:

brb...
Where are you qoinq? Abeq lemme taq alonq..
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by danchuzzy(m): 12:06pm On Jun 06, 2015
@op, bros you try jor...
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by mikewonder(m): 12:07pm On Jun 06, 2015
No entiendo nada de lo que está diciendo
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 12:08pm On Jun 06, 2015
First of all it's erroneous to define a gender by the words of some ancient book or doctrines of a religion.
As far as I am concerned, men and women were created to coexist and support each other.
You can't say women were created just to support men. That's bullshit in my opinion.

Now to your question. You asked if women have lost their usefulness. What sort of _stupid question is that?
When you use the word "usefulness", what you are directly implying is that women are some kind of artifacts or objects that just perform some particular purposes and when they are done you men can just dump them in a trash can
That's objectification of the highest form

Women like men are humans, and like all humans, they all perform different functions and obligation. It isn't just restricted to one area, hence my terming your question as _stupid
I would agree with you that women are supposed to get up and make some usefulness of themselves and not rely solely on the opposite gender but I also believe that that is the revolution taking place currently.
The world has more independent, self reliant women than it has ever had.

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Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by MORNDEW(m): 12:10pm On Jun 06, 2015
dharay99:

brb...
meaning?
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jun 06, 2015
dharay99:

brb...
long textbook cheesy
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by dharay99: 12:13pm On Jun 06, 2015
prettythicksme:
long textbook cheesy
yhu garrit dear.
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by dharay99: 12:14pm On Jun 06, 2015
GeneralQuamdeen:
Where are you qoinq? Abeq lemme taq alonq..

I dey go baq to sleep.
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 12:15pm On Jun 06, 2015
okay women una don hear?
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by delishpot: 12:18pm On Jun 06, 2015
We don hear. Now, go and ask your uncles wife, if not for society pressuring her against divorce, if not for saving face, if not for the fact that society will spit on her for sleeping with a man she wasnt married to and having kids outside wedlock, will she still want to be married to him?
Dont worry, the season of baby mama s is here, when it starts happebing and women grant the request of not wanting to be married, its still men that will come here to cry blood about women divorcing and prefering to have babies by men they are not married to.
So to your uncle, looking after the home and raising grown kids is not an impirtant contribution from his wife? Does he have a loving mom at all? Any man with a good mom will know how hard a mothers work can be .
If he married a bad woman I will understand. What exactly did he say she did to him? Cos I dont see any genuine reason for his complain
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by MORNDEW(m): 12:23pm On Jun 06, 2015
misssclassy:
First of all it's erroneous to define a gender by the words of some ancient book or doctrines of a religion.
As far as I am concerned, men and women were created to coexist and support each other.
You can't say women were created just to support men. That's bullshit in my opinion.

Now to your question. You asked if women have lost their usefulness. What sort of _stupid question is that?
When you use the word "usefulness", what you are directly implying is that women are some kind of artifacts of objects that just perform some particular purposes and when they are done you men can just dump them in a trash can
That's objectification of the highest form

Women like men are humans, and like all humans, they all perform different functions and obligation. It isn't just restricted to one area, hence my terming your question as _stupid
I would agree with you that women are supposed to get up and make some usefulness of themselves and not rely solely on the opposite gender but I also believe that that is the revolution taking place currently.
The world has more independent, self reliant women than it has ever had.

feminism, one of the reasons for high rate of divorce this days. You sound like women are suppose to be the head of the house or have equal roles in a relationship/ marriage. The holy books have this roles clearly stated. Am sure u believe in a deity if you do, don't you think u ar going against the principles of ur deity? So tone down ur feminism nd women fight. If u don't, u still need to know that men shud be atleast slightly above women.
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by MORNDEW(m): 12:23pm On Jun 06, 2015
mikewonder:
No entiendo nada de lo que está diciendo
meaning?
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 12:35pm On Jun 06, 2015
MORNDEW:

feminism, one of the reasons for high rate of divorce this days. You sound like women are suppose to be the head of the house or have equal roles in a relationship/ marriage. The holy books have this roles clearly stated. Am sure u believe in a deity if you do, don't you think u ar going against the principles of ur deity? So tone down ur feminism nd women fight. If u don't, u still need to know that men shud be atleast slightly above women.

Fvck the holy books and what they have to say.
What people don't realize is that those so called books where written long ago by men. Yes I said it. They were written by men and they were written in times and cultures where the female gender was treated with disregard.
Those books degraded the feminine and placed them below their male counterparts through their laws and doctrines
But times have changed.

Men are not slightly above women. We were all created equal, and equal we all are.

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Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by angelTI(f): 12:40pm On Jun 06, 2015
This post would have made sense without the first paragraph
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 12:45pm On Jun 06, 2015
prettythicksme:
long textbook cheesy

Perhaps it's just above your level of comprehension and scope, hence your calling it a "long textbook"

If you don't understand intelligent topics such as this or you are not basically interested as always, please just ignore, instead of coming to showcase immaturity.

So much for being a grown woman
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by MORNDEW(m): 12:47pm On Jun 06, 2015
misssclassy:


Fvck the holy books and what they have to say.
What people don't realize is that those so called books where written long ago by men. Yes I said it. They were written by men and they were written in times and cultures where the female gender was treated with disregard.
Those books degraded the feminine and placed them below their male counterparts through their laws and doctrines
But times have changed.

Men are not slightly above women. We were all created equal, and equal we all are.
U don't believe in any of them?
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 12:49pm On Jun 06, 2015
MORNDEW:
U don't believe in any of them?
I don't do religion.

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Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 12:49pm On Jun 06, 2015
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 12:54pm On Jun 06, 2015
misssclassy:


Perhaps it's just above your comprehension and scope, hence your calling it a "long textbook"

If you don't understand intelligent topics such as this or you are not basically interested as always, please just ignore, instead of coming to showcase immaturity.

So much for being a grown woman
hey dumbtard,what da hell is ur problem with my comment?i am actually kidding with dharay99 cos he always typed that to every long post on threads.So mind ur bis and dont ever in ur miserable life mention me again**spits on her face undecided

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Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by MORNDEW(m): 12:56pm On Jun 06, 2015
misssclassy:


Perhaps it's just above your comprehension and scope, hence your calling it a "long textbook"

If you don't understand intelligent topics such as this or you are not basically interested as always, please just ignore, instead of coming to showcase immaturity.

So much for being a grown woman
Don't mind them Nairaland have really made them so ignorant that all they want is Tonto Dike buys new pant or 5 reasons women take their bath that will not add any thing to their life or boost their knowledge.
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by agarawu23(m): 12:58pm On Jun 06, 2015
misssclassy:


I don't do religion.
I thought as much
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 12:58pm On Jun 06, 2015
dharay99:

yhu garrit dear.
look at what dat stuupid misclassy or mistrashy typed to me cos i mentioned u with long text book,is she mad or something?
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by dharay99: 12:58pm On Jun 06, 2015
prettythicksme:
hey dumbtard,what da hell is ur problem with my comment?i am actually kidding with dharay9 9 cos he always typed that to every long post on threads.So mind ur bis and dont ever in ur miserable life mention me again**spits on her face undecided
dear, plz ignore dat iconic daftard who
has been tagged "madness" ryt from child birth.
Plz jez ignore d lame goat.
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by MORNDEW(m): 12:59pm On Jun 06, 2015
misssclassy:


I don't do religion.
OK but just know that according men their manly respect at least for peace to reign and for relationship to work.
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by dharay99: 1:00pm On Jun 06, 2015
prettythicksme:
look at what dat stuupid misclassy or mistrashy typed to me cos i mentioned u with long text book,is she mad or something?
d ßitch needs attention in anoda format.
Plz stay away from her profound display of stewpeedity.
#cheers# smiley
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 1:02pm On Jun 06, 2015
MORNDEW:

Don't mind them Nairaland have really made them so ignorant that all they want is Tonto Dike buys new pant or 5 reasons women take their bath that will not add any thing to their life or boost their knowledge.
Shut ur stinking mouth up!!i was only kidding with dharay and ur immature minds think something else(u and missclassy)fools!!
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 1:03pm On Jun 06, 2015
prettythicksme:
hey dumbtard,what da hell is ur problem with my comment?i am actually kidding with dharay99 cos he always typed that to every long post on threads.So mind ur bis and dont ever in ur miserable life mention me again**spits on her face undecided

I have made my opinion known. Take it or leave it. That's your fvcking business.
Try and contribute meaningfully instead of going around this section perpetuating childish attitude with people that you are old enough to give birth to.

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Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 1:04pm On Jun 06, 2015
dharay99:

d ßitch needs attention in anoda format.
Plz stay away from her profound display of stewpeedity.
#cheers# smiley
If she dey do see me stuffs to some pple on nl,make she no run mad come my side oo.
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Nobody: 1:06pm On Jun 06, 2015
MORNDEW:

OK but just know that according men their manly respect at least for peace to reign and for relationship to work.

Men should also do the same to women and not see themselves as a superior class.
Re: Have Women Of Today Lost Their Usefulness? by Adaeze003(f): 1:06pm On Jun 06, 2015
I'm pretty sure you can find baby mamas to give you kids... if you truly feel this way, don't get married. It's really that simple...

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