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| Please We Need Your Reader's Advice URGENTLY by jangolo: 8:56pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Hello, I am from Malawi and my best friend who is a mother needs your advice and your reader's advice urgently. She has a 12 year old son who she brought up in the UK and now his behaviour is out of control. He constantly insults his mother, assault and stays out past 10pm on most days. The mother has tried hitting him in the past and got an official warning from the UK police after the child dialled 999. She does not know what to do now and the boy seems to get worse everyday. Please have a look at the video of the boy for yourself and please share with your readers so we can get their advice on what to do before we lose this boy. https://youtu.be/x_NB2pVILNM |
| Re: Please We Need Your Reader's Advice URGENTLY by coogar: 9:09pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
jangolo: oh dear...... this boy is an olympic tantrum thrower. how did they allow him to degenerate into this sack of shyte! his mother should ship him to africa |
| Re: Please We Need Your Reader's Advice URGENTLY by Lovebond34(m): 9:13pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
bring him to naija for two days holiday..nd behold a new being will b created frm him 2 Likes |
| Re: Please We Need Your Reader's Advice URGENTLY by Nobody: 9:13pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
First of all, you should understand that most kids tend to be stubborn at this age-bracket, but when they grow older this character wears off them. But in this kid's case, his is kind of showcasing too much of it for his age. I advise that the parents should try to talk to him more instead of using corporal punishment. They should sit him down and tell him that this isn't how he should be behaving. That this character of his will lead him no where. His parents should also try to show him love. Children respond well to this. They should allow him know that they love him and they care a lot about him Whenever he needs something, depending on how important and affordable it is, I think the parents should do their best to provide it for him Does his family belong to any religion? If yes, then its advisable they pray earnestly about it. Or better still, take him to their religious leader for him to be prayed for. His parents should also endeavor to read their religious book to him. If they are christians they should study the bible with him always. They should also get a bible for him so he can study on his own The same case applies if they are muslims. They should study the quran with him always and teach him what the holy book says. Also, I would advise his parents to make sure they engage him in religious activities. If they are christians, then they should try to make sure he participates in children activities in the church Does he have older siblings? If he does, then the siblings should help in their own way by showing good examples I believe kids like this tend to copy behaviors from their older siblings. There are a lot of habits that my younger brother copied off me and I have seen the same instance in other families so I see no reason why it shouldn't work The friends he keeps also plays another role. The parents should be watchful of the kind of friends he makes because the influence from peers has a lot to do with who a child grows up to become. Thanks. |
| Re: Please We Need Your Reader's Advice URGENTLY by elantraceey(f): 9:15pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
His mother should bring him down to Africa, He's still too young to start portraying such attitude. |
| Re: Please We Need Your Reader's Advice URGENTLY by Deefuray(f): 9:25pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Let her parcel him back to Africa |
| Re: Please We Need Your Reader's Advice URGENTLY by Nobody: 9:36pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
This kid is suffering from self-hate and he's struggling to figure out his identity. Is his father present in his life? I hope they seek professional help where this boy is concerned. I wonder if he is bullied at school and if people make fun of him for being African. 2 Likes |
| Re: Please We Need Your Reader's Advice URGENTLY by Sleekyshuga(f): 9:36pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Kids can be stubborn, no doubt but he is already becoming a wolf at such a tender age  . Sometimes, the failure of the parents leads to some of these sick behaviors portrayed by kids.--- How much love is he shown as a growing child? I mean genuine love from his parents, his teachers at school, his western friends etc. --- How close are his parents to him (this mother-father bond)? Is he bold enough to share his problems with his parents? If he does, how do they handle it? --- Do they (parents) nag, fight, quarrel, etc in front of him? This is a very negative habit, and a child who grows in such environment believes everything can be done or gotten through violence. --- What kind of friends does he keep? Our friends make/mar us. Friends (good or bad) has a way of influencing us greatly. 'Show me your friend, and I will tell you who you are.' --- I will also suggest that another approach should be used in training/building him. For example; When a child gets so used to a rod/stick, he no longer fears it. Rather, his whole body system becomes used to it (the pains, scars etc). She should do more of the 'talking approach.' Kids get sober over spoken words, same applies to adults.. --- Lastly, if they are Christians, he should be prayed for. Yeah! Prayers do work!! I wish them (mother and son) well.. |
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