"And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in peace and tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): Verily in that are signs for those who reflect" (Quran 30:21).

"O Humans revere your Guardian Lord, Who created you from a single person created of like nature its mate, and from this scattered (like seeds) countless men and women. Reverence Allah through Whom you claim your mutual rights" (Quran 4:1).

The above verses of the Quran lay out the framework as to what are the basis, the objectives and the goal of marriage in Islam. In the ultimate Wisdom of Allah we are first told that both partners man and woman are created from the same source. That this should be paid attention to as it is one of His signs.

Marital love in Islam inculcates the following:

Faith: The love Muslim spouses have for each other is for the sake of Allah that is to gain His pleasure. It is from Allah that we claim our mutual rights (Quran 4:1) and it is to Allah that we are accountable for our behavior as husbands and wives.

It sustains: Love is not to consume but to sustain. Allah expresses His love for us by providing sustenance. To love in Islam is to sustain our loved one physically, emotionally, spiritually and intellectually, to the best of our ability (to sustain materially is the husbands duty, however if the wife wishes she can also contribute)

Accepts: To love someone is to accept them for who they are. It is selfishness to try and mould someone as we wish them to be. True love does not attempt to crush individuality or control personal differences, but is magnanimous and secure to accommodate differences.

Challenges: Love challenges us to be all we can, it encourages us to tap into our talents and takes pride in our achievements. To enable our loved one to realize their potential is the most rewarding experience.

Merciful: Mercy compels us to love and love compels us to have mercy. In the Islamic context the two are synonymous. The attribute Allah chose to be the supreme for Himself is that He is the most Merciful. This attribute of Rehman (the Merciful) is mentioned 170 times in the Quran, bringing home the significance for believers to be merciful. Mercy in practical application means to have and show compassion and to be charitable.

Forgiving: Love is never too proud to seek forgiveness or too stingy to forgive. It is willing to let go of hurt and letdowns. Forgiveness allows us the opportunity to improve and correct our selves.

Respect: To love is to respect and value the person their contributions and their opinions. Respect does not allow us to take for granted our loved ones or to ignore their input. How we interact with our spouses reflects whether we respect them or not.

Confidentiality: Trust is the most essential ingredient of love. When trust is betrayed and confidentiality compromised, love loses its soul.

Caring: Love fosters a deep fondness that dictates caring and sharing in all that we do. The needs of our loved ones take precedence over our own.

Kindness: The Seerah (biography) of our beloved Prophet is rich with examples of acts of kindness, he showed towards his family and particularly his wives. Even when his patience was tried, he was never unkind in word or deed. To love is to be kind.

Grows: Marital love is not static it grows and flourishes with each day of marital life. It requires work and commitment, and is nourished through faith when we are thankful and appreciative of Allah blessings.

Enhances: Love enhances our image and beautifies our world. It provides emotional security and physical well being.

Selflessness: Love gives unconditionally and protects dutifully.

Truthful: Love is honesty without cruelty and loyalty without compromise.

Religion is a scam. You don't need it to become a better person.

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Alhamdulilah

Thats your opinion and you got no business in the religion section since you dont believe in it

wiringdpt:
Religion is a scam. You don't need it to become a better person.

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Jazaka Allah khayran.

Jumah Mubarak to all NL Muslims!

There's no other love greater than 'love for the sake of Allah.. the earlier we inculcate this, the better for us all

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nice points.. may Allah increase us in knowledge. .. Ameen

Jazakallahu kheir.
May Allah increase the love between spouses and protect them against whispers from the shayateens to break apart the sacred union. Ameen

Jazakum lahu khairan

Jazakalahu Khairan

That's what's giving me a sleepless night. To see that virtuous woman that will help buid your Iman are very scarce. May Allah lead us all to our dreams. Jumuat Mubarak

Nice piece OP! Jumah Mubarak.

fagbalex:
That's what's giving me a sleepless night. To see that virtuous woman that will help buid your Iman are very scarce. May Allah lead us all to our dreams. Jumuat Mubarak

You should ask yourself :*Are you ready to help her build her dreams as well

Jumah Mubarak!

Allahu akbar

I love quran so much because it explain to us all we need in life to be successeful ... Alhamdulillah and jumaat kareem

Jazak Allahu khayran... Alhamdulillah nimatil Islam.

"Zuyyina linnasi sha'awati minal nisa'i"

Jzk

Wa Alhmdllh.
Jumu'at Blessings to my fellow brothers and sisters.

Allahu Akbar

More of an igredients of marital "rights" not love.
If spouses only "love" themselves because Allah says so,
then it is not love but "rights" bound by the constitution(quran).
Just because a Traffic warden is doing his job doesn't mean he
loves drivers.

Jazakallahu khairan