Hello nairaland. i met a girl 4years and we started dating and seeing each other and it happen she became pregnant but as a responsible dude i think i was i told her to do whatever she like with it that i shall answer yes to any response she has to it. to cut it all short she told me she was going to have the baby and i answered Yes. after she gave birth to a girl few months later i see some behavior of her cheating but i never cut her red handed i stood focus but she keeps up with the art and i become so bother n thinking is this the woman im going to spend the rest of my life with, i try not to put that in mind i take it off at times. she was using a blackberry phone around this time and we were living together as a couple evendo yet we are not married, the first scene she traveled home to spend time with her mom and my daughter which i love so much, so i decided to visit her there and see her well being but when i got there she was at the next neighbours compound, she was called and came at me we sat together and a message came in from a guy though i didnt take it to heart at that point it was a normal thing for guy to woo your lady but i did complain and was really mad at her but she beg me and i listened, but i started having doubts about her. so i called on a friend of her started talking to the friend until she was loose and started telling me who she was dating...A Member of her church.....OMG i called on her and say to her why is she doing it but the friend told me they both went there together just once and they only went to greet the guy and they came back. Oh friends of the same feathers. i never said anything but she started begging me again, i answered but she lost my trust she never knew. so i came back home and they also came back...so it was another morning my kid was about to start going to school so i call on her to go to the school of her choice and feed me back with the processing it would take, she went but before i was less busy so i decided to start rearranging the house unfortunately i found a phone hidden in my daughter wardrobe, she came in and i asked her who own this phone she said it was a neighbour living at the front of our house. i waited the so called person is back and ask her but she said Yes but i already knew it was for her because i have tried to access the phone my self and found out that last year ilaye she text a guy to come and meet her at my own father's house OMG she started begging and telling me she only meet the guy but they were only a friend and nothing more, as a fool i accepted but i never trusted her. three days later a woman at that so called neighbors house called me back to told me that she always come to their house and make phone call to guy that there is another phone hidden at there house. i surprise again and call her friend there, with command i told her. GO AND BRING THE PHONE THAT MY WIFE KEEPS WITH YOU NOW I DNT WANT TO HERE WHICH PHONE she went in and bring the phone to my surprise again it was the phone i gave to her mom but i think she was the one that kept it and using it. She started begging and her mom was begging me as well so i accepted. so i now started watching her so much now, i got her facebook password and change it, then i met someone on facebook who she dated 7months after she gave birth i was omg i showed her she tried to denied it but the guy was just typing like someone who won a lottery...how it happened between them...she could not denied again but she went out to call the guy the next morning i dont know what they might have say to each other, for this i try to send her away but her mom, pleaded her brother alot that i accepted being a simple someone but i always make a statement to her that being a fool wont make me a fool for life. We cont. our life together i have being watching her since and i hear story like this one say he is dating me and i want to meet him at home but he was not there so i met my friend there and ask her where is he but he was not around, stories like he was just my friend and calling me to greet me, i nudge my head and say alright But honestly i Love so much i got no reason. few months back, she said she wants to start going to church so i told her no problem but after a month of going to church she said they had a night vigil but i thought it to be true because it was a new month and i think it always happen that way so she went and she told me it was for three night so she went with a small girl age of 12years she knows in the street. They went to the night vigil and i never questioned her but after the first week she came to me again and say there is another night vigil this week i was like wtf, So i sent her on an errand and i immediately went for the small girl that goes with her. So i talk to her girl and promise her that i wont fight with her that unless she tells me the truth about the whole stuff. they the went to the night vigil but on the 2nd night the branch at a guys house but later went to the vigil i was very angry and she came in then i started asking her and she was saying different thing but i told her to move out of my house around 11pm in the night then she started packing i was like whoa it seems she already have somewhere and someone to go to. She wants to start move out and i told her to hold on to morning that if she should leave now people would see me as a bad person. but she insisted she was leaving. The First night i called her mom and she talk to her mom before leaving....So the next morning her mom and brother came and i told them to hold onto my daughter for the time being i get my self around but i never said anything to my mom, 2 day 3 rd i told my mom and she started shouting and calling everyone to talk to me that i must find her i would never leave her like that i dont know why mom insisted so i did as she said i went to her church and told them the whole story about the guy sh met in church unlucky they found out who the guy was and called in and i told him everything also she went directly to one of her friends house and brought her i saw her and called her mom with her brother and i called my mom also and they saw her they started begging for her, i was like wtf. someone went for almost 4days and was at a friend's house, how was she surviving but everything was said and i accepted but now she is not with me, she is with her mom in her own town and i have been thinking on what to do about this, honestly i lover her but i dont think it can work out between us but also my mom and her parent will beg me with anything they could. right now and they keep using my daughter to beg me, i think im losing out please advice me on what to do. I want to come out of this. PLEASE ADVICE ME

dis one na epistle na

What's ds one saying?

Ok I took my time to read ur story.



File for custody of ur daughter, she is in no good position to take care of her...

Its a good tin u guys aren't even married yet

I can feel you pouring your heart out here.. you made a real mistake by dating one you can't trust..
Privacy invasion is another thing that sets relationships backward.
You've been through a lot and I see its for the sake of your daughter.. you won't want your broken relationship affect your daughter's upbringing.
Draw your wife closer, you seem too faraway from her. You seem not to know what she wants.

Your daughter needs you both together.

seriously I read 60percent of the story and I felt headache so I had to stop.


I reckon she is a cheating freak!!

√

cutesmilez:
dis one na epistle na

dapsoneh:
What's ds one saying?

HAHAHAHAHA

somebody call the police,this guy must be a fraudster!!!! pls don't ask me why...meanwhile see my signature for your data bundles

Op I take God beg u,go church cos u nid deliverance abeg

op send d hoe away!!they aint loyal

Are sure she loves U?u can't control any woman that is not in love with u...no matter ur wealth,kids or anything....that's y people still divorce without thinking of kids...
love doesn't keep secret..ur problem is u are d one in love...u are not a guy....

In summary,she is cheating.no big deal.you cheat also and send her out of your house...but your story long sha

I took my time to read ur story carefully. My guy make I just advice u honestly. That's not ur future wife, she is just a baby mama to u. Call it off now before u will regret ur life later and when ur child is up to 4 years, take ur child away from her. Do it wisely but if she refuse to give u ur child, always make sure u check on her to see if she is raising ur child properly. My reason is because from everything u have shared, her mother didn't raise her well and u better avoid dat fot ur child as well. period!

Ur in love with a cheat.




Dunno, but I feel she is just trying to feel wanted. When women give birth, they start to feel "unbeautiful" and all, and so whatever attention they get from the opposite sex is something the get high off. She's definitely cheating on u, she has someone to go to. But if u want good advice, nobody can give it to u here.

This is obviously a red flag op, you are lucky you have not married her yet. If this woman really loves you, she will not accommodate other men into her heart. The gravity of her offenses is not the kind that can be overlooked.

I dey Pray... Baba God gimme my own Wife See as one Girl Complicate this Op life

Yippy...

For the first time i was able to read a novel from start to end within a week.

Cutehector:
Ok I took my time to read ur story.



File for custody of ur daughter, she is in no good position to take care of her...

Its a good tin u guys aren't even married yet

Some days, I will just feel like slapping u non-stop (for silly comments).

Some other days, I feel like dashing u olosho to lash for @least 3days free (for nice comments).




And today is one of the days I feel like dashing u oloshos, so choose any 3 NL olosho dat u wan lash, and I will pay.





Btw, nice comments bro.

chigoizie7:




Some days, I will just feel like slapping u non-stop (for silly comments).

Some other days, I feel like dashing u olosho to lash for @least 3days free (for nice comments).




And today is one of the days I feel like dashing u oloshos, so choose any 3 NL olosho dat u wan lash, and I will pay.





Btw, nice comments bro.

lol i want lash real olosho jor

Lord. God bless punctuation marks!

OYO

Op next time construct your story well for easy reading and assimilation.........

Back to the issue*

Please and please, how sure are you that the girl child is your daughter , try your best to find out so you wont be wasting your time taking care of another mans child. Eventually if she is your daughter please get custody. That lady is not fit to be a mother yet. And find your way sir, forget her. No lady that loves you, I repeat No lady that loves you will ever cheat on you . Its very simple, take your daughter and leave that woman. Period

bqlekan:
I can feel you pouring your heart out here.. you made a real mistake by dating one you can't trust..
Privacy invasion is another thing that sets relationships backward.
You've been through a lot and I see its for the sake of your daughter.. you won't want your broken relationship affect your daughter's upbringing.
Draw your wife closer, you seem too faraway from her. You seem not to know what she wants.

Your daughter needs you both together.

The woman won't change even if he draws her closer. It seems she is just addicted to cheating dats all I can say . Op thank God u aren't married yet cos it would be a lifetime of misery wen u finally accept her after her pple has finished convincing you by using your daughter as an excuse. You have to be happy for that marriage to flourish and I know for sure that since you've found out about your wife's escapades, the marriage will be filled with distrust and quarrels which you don't want your daughter to see while growing up. Its difficult I know but u just have have to file for custody of your daughter cos if she stays with her mum, she might end up living her lifestyle cos children are quick learners and they learn from environmental experiences.

this is d same reason y "summary" is taught in skuls.u brought a complete text book here , yet u dnt want to b insulted abi? try am again , I don mark u.

Op please stay with ur child leave her alone i can feel u wrote ur heart out

Trust me she myt have even given birth to ur child not cos she loves u bt for d fear of her life nd abortion wiv it risk

Let her go if she doesnt want u
free her *u cant fix a square shape into a circle hole*

Anoda girl will love u nd ur child ok
takin her bck is like huggin trouble
She cant love if she never did d moment she had ur baby

God sees ur heart he wud giv u d best ok

Godhand1:
Hello nairaland. i met a girl 4years and we started dating and seeing each other and it happen she became pregnant but as a responsible dude i think i was i told her to do whatever she like with it that i shall answer yes to any response she has to it. to cut it all short she told me she was going to have the baby and i answered Yes. after she gave birth to a girl few months later i see some behavior of her cheating but i never cut her red handed i stood focus but she keeps up with the art and i become so bother n thinking is this the woman im going to spend the rest of my life with, i try not to put that in mind i take it off at times. she was using a blackberry phone around this time and we were living together as a couple evendo yet we are not married, the first scene she traveled home to spend time with her mom and my daughter which i love so much, so i decided to visit her there and see her well being but when i got there she was at the next neighbours compound, she was called and came at me we sat together and a message came in from a guy though i didnt take it to heart at that point it was a normal thing for guy to woo your lady but i did complain and was really mad at her but she beg me and i listened, but i started having doubts about her. so i called on a friend of her started talking to the friend until she was loose and started telling me who she was dating...A Member of her church.....OMG i called on her and say to her why is she doing it but the friend told me they both went there together just once and they only went to greet the guy and they came back. Oh friends of the same feathers. i never said anything but she started begging me again, i answered but she lost my trust she never knew. so i came back home and they also came back...so it was another morning my kid was about to start going to school so i call on her to go to the school of her choice and feed me back with the processing it would take, she went but before i was less busy so i decided to start rearranging the house unfortunately i found a phone hidden in my daughter wardrobe, she came in and i asked her who own this phone she said it was a neighbour living at the front of our house. i waited the so called person is back and ask her but she said Yes but i already knew it was for her because i have tried to access the phone my self and found out that last year ilaye she text a guy to come and meet her at my own father's house OMG she started begging and telling me she only meet the guy but they were only a friend and nothing more, as a fool i accepted but i never trusted her. three days later a woman at that so called neighbors house called me back to told me that she always come to their house and make phone call to guy that there is another phone hidden at there house. i surprise again and call her friend there, with command i told her. GO AND BRING THE PHONE THAT MY WIFE KEEPS WITH YOU NOW I DNT WANT TO HERE WHICH PHONE she went in and bring the phone to my surprise again it was the phone i gave to her mom but i think she was the one that kept it and using it. She started begging and her mom was begging me as well so i accepted. so i now started watching her so much now, i got her facebook password and change it, then i met someone on facebook who she dated 7months after she gave birth i was omg i showed her she tried to denied it but the guy was just typing like someone who won a lottery...how it happened between them...she could not denied again but she went out to call the guy the next morning i dont know what they might have say to each other, for this i try to send her away but her mom, pleaded her brother alot that i accepted being a simple someone but i always make a statement to her that being a fool wont make me a fool for life. We cont. our life together i have being watching her since and i hear story like this one say he is dating me and i want to meet him at home but he was not there so i met my friend there and ask her where is he but he was not around, stories like he was just my friend and calling me to greet me, i nudge my head and say alright But honestly i Love so much i got no reason. few months back, she said she wants to start going to church so i told her no problem but after a month of going to church she said they had a night vigil but i thought it to be true because it was a new month and i think it always happen that way so she went and she told me it was for three night so she went with a small girl age of 12years she knows in the street. They went to the night vigil and i never questioned her but after the first week she came to me again and say there is another night vigil this week i was like wtf, So i sent her on an errand and i immediately went for the small girl that goes with her. So i talk to her girl and promise her that i wont fight with her that unless she tells me the truth about the whole stuff. they the went to the night vigil but on the 2nd night the branch at a guys house but later went to the vigil i was very angry and she came in then i started asking her and she was saying different thing but i told her to move out of my house around 11pm in the night then she started packing i was like whoa it seems she already have somewhere and someone to go to. She wants to start move out and i told her to hold on to morning that if she should leave now people would see me as a bad person. but she insisted she was leaving. The First night i called her mom and she talk to her mom before leaving....So the next morning her mom and brother came and i told them to hold onto my daughter for the time being i get my self around but i never said anything to my mom, 2 day 3 rd i told my mom and she started shouting and calling everyone to talk to me that i must find her i would never leave her like that i dont know why mom insisted so i did as she said i went to her church and told them the whole story about the guy sh met in church unlucky they found out who the guy was and called in and i told him everything also she went directly to one of her friends house and brought her i saw her and called her mom with her brother and i called my mom also and they saw her they started begging for her, i was like wtf. someone went for almost 4days and was at a friend's house, how was she surviving but everything was said and i accepted but now she is not with me, she is with her mom in her own town and i have been thinking on what to do about this, honestly i lover her but i dont think it can work out between us but also my mom and her parent will beg me with anything they could. right now and they keep using my daughter to beg me, i think im losing out please advice me on what to do. I want to come out of this. PLEASE ADVICE ME

"MAGA" Even if she pass hiv to you, and she begg you you will accept too.
Issoraot

Godhand1:
Hello nairaland. i met a girl 4years and we started dating and seeing each other and it happen she became pregnant but as a responsible dude i think i was i told her to do whatever she like with it that i shall answer yes to any response she has to it. to cut it all short she told me she was going to have the baby and i answered Yes. after she gave birth to a girl few months later i see some behavior of her cheating but i never cut her red handed i stood focus but she keeps up with the art and i become so bother n thinking is this the woman im going to spend the rest of my life with, i try not to put that in mind i take it off at times. she was using a blackberry phone around this time and we were living together as a couple evendo yet we are not married, the first scene she traveled home to spend time with her mom and my daughter which i love so much, so i decided to visit her there and see her well being but when i got there she was at the next neighbours compound, she was called and came at me we sat together and a message came in from a guy though i didnt take it to heart at that point it was a normal thing for guy to woo your lady but i did complain and was really mad at her but she beg me and i listened, but i started having doubts about her. so i called on a friend of her started talking to the friend until she was loose and started telling me who she was dating...A Member of her church.....OMG i called on her and say to her why is she doing it but the friend told me they both went there together just once and they only went to greet the guy and they came back. Oh friends of the same feathers. i never said anything but she started begging me again, i answered but she lost my trust she never knew. so i came back home and they also came back...so it was another morning my kid was about to start going to school so i call on her to go to the school of her choice and feed me back with the processing it would take, she went but before i was less busy so i decided to start rearranging the house unfortunately i found a phone hidden in my daughter wardrobe, she came in and i asked her who own this phone she said it was a neighbour living at the front of our house. i waited the so called person is back and ask her but she said Yes but i already knew it was for her because i have tried to access the phone my self and found out that last year ilaye she text a guy to come and meet her at my own father's house OMG she started begging and telling me she only meet the guy but they were only a friend and nothing more, as a fool i accepted but i never trusted her. three days later a woman at that so called neighbors house called me back to told me that she always come to their house and make phone call to guy that there is another phone hidden at there house. i surprise again and call her friend there, with command i told her. GO AND BRING THE PHONE THAT MY WIFE KEEPS WITH YOU NOW I DNT WANT TO HERE WHICH PHONE she went in and bring the phone to my surprise again it was the phone i gave to her mom but i think she was the one that kept it and using it. She started begging and her mom was begging me as well so i accepted. so i now started watching her so much now, i got her facebook password and change it, then i met someone on facebook who she dated 7months after she gave birth i was omg i showed her she tried to denied it but the guy was just typing like someone who won a lottery...how it happened between them...she could not denied again but she went out to call the guy the next morning i dont know what they might have say to each other, for this i try to send her away but her mom, pleaded her brother alot that i accepted being a simple someone but i always make a statement to her that being a fool wont make me a fool for life. We cont. our life together i have being watching her since and i hear story like this one say he is dating me and i want to meet him at home but he was not there so i met my friend there and ask her where is he but he was not around, stories like he was just my friend and calling me to greet me, i nudge my head and say alright But honestly i Love so much i got no reason. few months back, she said she wants to start going to church so i told her no problem but after a month of going to church she said they had a night vigil but i thought it to be true because it was a new month and i think it always happen that way so she went and she told me it was for three night so she went with a small girl age of 12years she knows in the street. They went to the night vigil and i never questioned her but after the first week she came to me again and say there is another night vigil this week i was like wtf, So i sent her on an errand and i immediately went for the small girl that goes with her. So i talk to her girl and promise her that i wont fight with her that unless she tells me the truth about the whole stuff. they the went to the night vigil but on the 2nd night the branch at a guys house but later went to the vigil i was very angry and she came in then i started asking her and she was saying different thing but i told her to move out of my house around 11pm in the night then she started packing i was like whoa it seems she already have somewhere and someone to go to. She wants to start move out and i told her to hold on to morning that if she should leave now people would see me as a bad person. but she insisted she was leaving. The First night i called her mom and she talk to her mom before leaving....So the next morning her mom and brother came and i told them to hold onto my daughter for the time being i get my self around but i never said anything to my mom, 2 day 3 rd i told my mom and she started shouting and calling everyone to talk to me that i must find her i would never leave her like that i dont know why mom insisted so i did as she said i went to her church and told them the whole story about the guy sh met in church unlucky they found out who the guy was and called in and i told him everything also she went directly to one of her friends house and brought her i saw her and called her mom with her brother and i called my mom also and they saw her they started begging for her, i was like wtf. someone went for almost 4days and was at a friend's house, how was she surviving but everything was said and i accepted but now she is not with me, she is with her mom in her own town and i have been thinking on what to do about this, honestly i lover her but i dont think it can work out between us but also my mom and her parent will beg me with anything they could. right now and they keep using my daughter to beg me, i think im losing out please advice me on what to do. I want to come out of this. PLEASE ADVICE ME

"MAGA" Even if she pass hiv to you, and she begg you you will accept too.
Issorait

Godhand1:
Hello nairaland. i met a girl 4years and we started dating and seeing each other and it happen she became pregnant but as a responsible dude i think i was i told her to do whatever she like with it that i shall answer yes to any response she has to it. to cut it all short she told me she was going to have the baby and i answered Yes. after she gave birth to a girl few months later i see some behavior of her cheating but i never cut her red handed i stood focus but she keeps up with the art and i become so bother n thinking is this the woman im going to spend the rest of my life with, i try not to put that in mind i take it off at times. she was using a blackberry phone around this time and we were living together as a couple evendo yet we are not married, the first scene she traveled home to spend time with her mom and my daughter which i love so much, so i decided to visit her there and see her well being but when i got there she was at the next neighbours compound, she was called and came at me we sat together and a message came in from a guy though i didnt take it to heart at that point it was a normal thing for guy to woo your lady but i did complain and was really mad at her but she beg me and i listened, but i started having doubts about her. so i called on a friend of her started talking to the friend until she was loose and started telling me who she was dating...A Member of her church.....OMG i called on her and say to her why is she doing it but the friend told me they both went there together just once and they only went to greet the guy and they came back. Oh friends of the same feathers. i never said anything but she started begging me again, i answered but she lost my trust she never knew. so i came back home and they also came back...so it was another morning my kid was about to start going to school so i call on her to go to the school of her choice and feed me back with the processing it would take, she went but before i was less busy so i decided to start rearranging the house unfortunately i found a phone hidden in my daughter wardrobe, she came in and i asked her who own this phone she said it was a neighbour living at the front of our house. i waited the so called person is back and ask her but she said Yes but i already knew it was for her because i have tried to access the phone my self and found out that last year ilaye she text a guy to come and meet her at my own father's house OMG she started begging and telling me she only meet the guy but they were only a friend and nothing more, as a fool i accepted but i never trusted her. three days later a woman at that so called neighbors house called me back to told me that she always come to their house and make phone call to guy that there is another phone hidden at there house. i surprise again and call her friend there, with command i told her. GO AND BRING THE PHONE THAT MY WIFE KEEPS WITH YOU NOW I DNT WANT TO HERE WHICH PHONE she went in and bring the phone to my surprise again it was the phone i gave to her mom but i think she was the one that kept it and using it. She started begging and her mom was begging me as well so i accepted. so i now started watching her so much now, i got her facebook password and change it, then i met someone on facebook who she dated 7months after she gave birth i was omg i showed her she tried to denied it but the guy was just typing like someone who won a lottery...how it happened between them...she could not denied again but she went out to call the guy the next morning i dont know what they might have say to each other, for this i try to send her away but her mom, pleaded her brother alot that i accepted being a simple someone but i always make a statement to her that being a fool wont make me a fool for life. We cont. our life together i have being watching her since and i hear story like this one say he is dating me and i want to meet him at home but he was not there so i met my friend there and ask her where is he but he was not around, stories like he was just my friend and calling me to greet me, i nudge my head and say alright But honestly i Love so much i got no reason. few months back, she said she wants to start going to church so i told her no problem but after a month of going to church she said they had a night vigil but i thought it to be true because it was a new month and i think it always happen that way so she went and she told me it was for three night so she went with a small girl age of 12years she knows in the street. They went to the night vigil and i never questioned her but after the first week she came to me again and say there is another night vigil this week i was like wtf, So i sent her on an errand and i immediately went for the small girl that goes with her. So i talk to her girl and promise her that i wont fight with her that unless she tells me the truth about the whole stuff. they the went to the night vigil but on the 2nd night the branch at a guys house but later went to the vigil i was very angry and she came in then i started asking her and she was saying different thing but i told her to move out of my house around 11pm in the night then she started packing i was like whoa it seems she already have somewhere and someone to go to. She wants to start move out and i told her to hold on to morning that if she should leave now people would see me as a bad person. but she insisted she was leaving. The First night i called her mom and she talk to her mom before leaving....So the next morning her mom and brother came and i told them to hold onto my daughter for the time being i get my self around but i never said anything to my mom, 2 day 3 rd i told my mom and she started shouting and calling everyone to talk to me that i must find her i would never leave her like that i dont know why mom insisted so i did as she said i went to her church and told them the whole story about the guy sh met in church unlucky they found out who the guy was and called in and i told him everything also she went directly to one of her friends house and brought her i saw her and called her mom with her brother and i called my mom also and they saw her they started begging for her, i was like wtf. someone went for almost 4days and was at a friend's house, how was she surviving but everything was said and i accepted but now she is not with me, she is with her mom in her own town and i have been thinking on what to do about this, honestly i lover her but i dont think it can work out between us but also my mom and her parent will beg me with anything they could. right now and they keep using my daughter to beg me, i think im losing out please advice me on what to do. I want to come out of this. PLEASE ADVICE ME

I really feel sorry for you, my advice is this,marry another lady if you want a long life for yourself, if you can afford to rent her own apartment for her and ur child,do it. And don't even think of having sex with her again. She's dangerous. Let her be,no man can be happy with her.. You are not sure if you are the owner of the child she gave birth for you,try and do DNA TEST

plz summarize so we can get your message.