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Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by ismart: 8:54am On Sep 17, 2015 |
bukatyne:between February and March |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by bukatyne(f): 9:12am On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart: So she put to bed about 7mths ago... CS or not, she is fit enough to care and also mobile. The DIL to be is not a good person and I doubt she will make a good wife in the long run. Nothing stops her from cooking once in a while for her MIL and visiting her. Your cousin sends money to her so what stops her from taking the woman's clothes to the dry cleaners bi-monthly? I will even bet she doesn't work so why can't she shift base to the MIL's place awhile considering the fact the baby daddy is not around? AND yes, if it was her mother, she will move mountains to ease her pain. Also, it is NOT your place (you, MIL, fellow cousins etc.) to decide if she is good enough for your cousin or not aka 'kick' her out. I understand you are a very close knit family however bros, there are boundaries... Well well... in our society, a man's care = money a woman's care = chores The cousin is 'playing' his part and it is expected the DIL plays her own part too. And OP, your aunt still needs a maid. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Nobody: 9:21am On Sep 17, 2015 |
Diary of an angry black man The hustle is real. OP is probably a 45yr old man who is still eating from hand to mouth and is angry that the small girl is driving car even before marrying their money bank. Girl had a surgery MIL had a surgery Girl still nursing a baby MIL nursing no one but weak and old. OP had no surgery OP not nursing anyone . OP is still young OP couldn't arrange for a maid for his BLOOD relation who is sick And he is here ranting like a $#/@ when he should be in the market cooking for his beloved aunty and helping their in law to be with her baby. Wickedness in high places. Nigerian men Change o. Wickedness won't do you any good. 26 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by ayoi: 9:22am On Sep 17, 2015 |
So she had d baby about 7-8months ago,so if she were working she wld have resumed. Let's just say d timeline isn't a strong excuse. So let's say she isn't a 'hands - on' kind of person,mayb a fair excuse bt then she shouldn't have allowed your aunt take care of her when she had a baby, since she is not her mother in law @least she won't be indebted to her now. She should hv been with her family. For your aunt,I truly understand cuz it actually sucks when u go out of ur way to help people and they wouldn't lift a finger to help you. Bt she has done her part which is very commendable. Even if she didn't help her when she had a baby,or she never even had a baby,if ur intended 's loved one is sick,why can't u just be there for them? If u can't cook or clean,u can bring someone along to do so, dats just human kindness. 4 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Nobody: 9:23am On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart: ismart: Nna Mehn. This Op can lie sha. From four months ago. Now it's seven months. Wicked people N'a dia way be dat Always telling more lies to cover their Wickedness. 31 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by ismart: 9:43am On Sep 17, 2015 |
Chillisauce:Me saying some should tell you that it's not specific. I said between february and March should explain that it was early this year. I had to do proper revision to when I went to Lagos and came back. It was around that time she put to bed and I was in Lagos in January and came back around February. Now if it was 4 months, could she have been able to be driving in 4 months? That should tell you I didn't get the date right initially. |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Nobody: 9:47am On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart: I catch your lie, you then telling another one. You all centered on driving shows how the car dey pepper your body. Pls stop calculating and go get help for your aunt and your inlaw to be. Able bodied man just siddon dey plot scheme with a s8ck woman who while be getting her rest. Btw, where is your aunt husband in all these 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by ismart: 9:48am On Sep 17, 2015 |
Chillisauce:you didn't see where I said I did the washing of her clothes, I lift her up when she needs to change position to sit on a chair. I make her bed and more. I would do more because she is a mother to me. So in your wasp reasoning, you will meet your mother in law in such condition and you won't do ANYTHING to help. Only come and go with your bag, right? Anyway, it further gives me reasons to be very careful of current set of Nigerian women! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Nobody: 9:50am On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart: Go and help your aunt dear and also the nursing mother with CS . You can remain single , better sef . Make you no kill another person daughter with this your attitude . 19 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by ismart: 9:50am On Sep 17, 2015 |
Chillisauce:The husband is very much around...and he does his part. It's so pathetic that you see no reason in helping with whatever way. You are a woman, you will be a mother, you will grow old one day! 2 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by ismart: 9:52am On Sep 17, 2015 |
Chillisauce:well madam, nobody is killing anyone. Anyway, I believe you women on here have made your point which is good. Adios! |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by ayoi: 9:54am On Sep 17, 2015 |
@ ismart. Why not stop justifying whatever you post. If it's true, fine! If it's not, it doesn't take a strand out of anyone's hair well maybe urs. 3 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Nobody: 9:54am On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart: So her husband is even alive and she is here winning and plotting downfall on another person. Is her husband a handicapped? I'm a mother and I know what's like nursing a child. Heck I didn't even have a CS. What will my husband be doing when I fall sick at old age? Esp if he is still able. That's why it's better not to marry old man during your prime. Now she needs help she is solely depending on an In law to be. 20 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Nobody: 9:57am On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart: No adios me jor. enter market and help these women recovering from sickness. Have you even bought diapers for the baby sef. Even if na baby powder sef. Chai N'a wah for you o. You no only wicked. You Come stingy on top. Your case N'a deliverance for mountain of fire and brimstone 18 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by freecocoa(f): 9:58am On Sep 17, 2015 |
Stories are best heard from both parties but since we only have one side, I guess we just have to work with it. If everything written here is true, then the DiL no nice gan, haba!. 3 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Nobody: 10:10am On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart:I really find what you have said hard to believe because you said they had a good relationship during omugwo. . So why the sudden change? Why has she become such a bad person now? If what you said is true as regards not checking on her MIL when there's no dispute btw them, then she isn't nice at al.... But I think you should take it easy. Have you communicated to her? Maybe she needs you people to point out to what she should do... All d best... 1 Like |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by queenfav(f): 10:15am On Sep 17, 2015 |
May God deliver single ladies from families that will want you to die pleasing them.Its bad that the DIL didn't reciprocate the love.she erred there o,esp as the aunt took care of her after delivery.But again,maybe she is not a very strong person.And op thank God she is not a pretender.I like the fact she is not overdoing things just to make you guys like her.That way,everybody knows their boundaries.Please don't scatter your cousin's marriage.He likes her like that.One man's meat is another man's poison.You shouldn't be the one to sow any seed of discord into their relationship,simply because she didn't care for your aunt.When I visited my fiance's family..The mum was like can I pound yam..I said NO!If na that one wan make her tell her stepson not to marry me,no wahala.Despite that,she took very good care of me.I cannot do good face and then fall sick when I get home.My man even told me not to over work myself there.Abeg,leave the girl.Your cousin likes other things abt her.If she is lazy,they wil get a maid. 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by ismart: 10:38am On Sep 17, 2015 |
MarvellousGod:It's okay. I believe I have done my best for my aunt and she knows that. For the sake of the child involved like so many people pointed out, one should call her talk to her. But based on what I have seen in life, I doubt this girl will change. I could have said something more but like it's already, people will still feel I am hating on the girl. Which isn't the case. Anyway, I am done already. I will leave them to sort theirselve. I know what I want from my future wife and I stand by it. I say so because I know I go extral miles for people around me. I know I can't treat my own MIL like she is an alien. There are things I can do to show I care. Relationship shouldn't be one sided. 1 Like |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by ismart: 10:44am On Sep 17, 2015 |
queenfav:quite matured. Thanks. Even though you didn't state it clearly, I am sure you did help in other ways aside pounding. It's very obvious from your writeup. That shows you care and have good background . Yes, it's no longer my business. I will just leave it at that. If it works out for them good. If it doesn't good. Besides, I never talked about this till yesterday. I just kept my observations to myself. We all have our rewards for deeds of our ventures. 1 Like |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by ismart: 10:46am On Sep 17, 2015 |
Chillisauce:Okay. |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by goodgate: 10:50am On Sep 17, 2015 |
Miami11:Ahhh, so you no know say OP na GBEFFF, he said she is not strong for business, but they feel she is strong enough to do HOUSEGIRL for them. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by delishpot: 10:54am On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart:Amen. Its a big shame my brother. Women are destroying themselves. 3 Likes |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by goodgate: 10:55am On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart:You said she isn't strong enough to start a Business, but you expect her to have strenght to do house chores ba? Go get a house help for aunty PERIOD. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by thelish(f): 10:56am On Sep 17, 2015 |
cococandy:I know say u nor dey disappoint. |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Kimoni: 10:57am On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart: Exactly! Someone should call her and talk to her like a daughter of the house. Don't assume she knows everything you expect of her. Families are different, some families are very independent of each other and only help when called upon to do so. If anyone needs her help, pls call her and ask her. The fact that her husband abi na fiancé is also not around means there is nobody to guide her on how you guys want her to behave. My husband helped me a lot to familiarize with his family and vice versa. 1 Like |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by thelish(f): 11:07am On Sep 17, 2015 |
Kimoni: intelligent kimoni |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by goodgate: 11:10am On Sep 17, 2015 |
Chillisauce:You 've said it all. He's probably Jobless, he should have just been the Maid for his Aunt for the time being. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by goodgate: 11:15am On Sep 17, 2015 |
Chillisauce:I swear this is SMARTEST post on this thread. The OP is a SADIST and a LIAR. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by goodgate: 11:21am On Sep 17, 2015 |
ismart:Guy Forget, you are a LIAR and a SADIST. If you don't like the girls Face, go and HUG Transformer. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by coldgate(f): 11:59am On Sep 17, 2015 |
[quote author=goldenruby post=38089403]This girl is still weak to start a business as your aunt said earlier, why is she worried or 'bittered' that she can't help her cook, wash and bla bla. @Op I totally understand your point but you're totally Wrong. All these are not in any way a medium to portray ones good or bad act. We all came from different homes. Make I tell you one weird thing (to people that might see it as) when my Mum comes to my house, She washes my beddings,clothes,fetch water for me from the well if the water tap stops running,run my bath, Make my meals. I no sick o, na just small laziness o(wetin you go Call that one). And she'd jokingly ask me if I can try this at my inlaws when I eventually get married. . Truth is can Y'all stop seeing this babe as 'a plant in the ecosystem' and see her like a daughter? My sister, you have said I all. My mum does all that for me and I always have to beg her to stop. The problem with many people is that they don't know how to give. They don't know how to love another person selflessly. My mum is always happy to do this and does not expect anything in return. She is simply happy to be able to care for her "child" however she can. Many people give with insincerity. They stretch forth one hand and both legs and an arm are peaking at the corner trying to receive all that has been given out and more. Now that is not love, that is BANKING. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by Nobody: 12:13pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
goodgate: My dear, 45yr old nigerian man wey never marry Na him you say make him do housegirl work You wan OP to swear for you ni. The fiancee of his cousin. Cousin oh. Not even direct sibling . N'a this kin people dey pursue widows from their husbands house if they happen to loose their husband to death. They will chase and sell everything living the fate of mother and children bleak This OP mind no good at all at all. See him mouth like my cousin will not marry her. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: This Girl Is About To Be Kicked Out! by goodgate: 12:22pm On Sep 17, 2015 |
Chillisauce:His posts depicts Pride,Arrogance and WICKEDNESS. He is already feeling like a demi-god. I pity the Lady sha. 6 Likes 1 Share |
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