Dating this girl for 2 months now,shez alright and very pretty...but I just discovered she isn't the kind of girl I want to marry.
She is shallow minded and not as hard working.

A thread I read on Nland here where a lady cursed the hell out of sm1 for letting her down as gently as I would have got me worried.
I dnt wanna hurt her,cos i hv feelings for her.

Tell it to her face. Simple

hmmm @op do u know d implication of what ure abt to do?

Just tell her explain ursef to her dats all

change your simcard,relocate to another location without her knowledge,period.

There is no ''gentle" break-ups...

U don't have to marry every girl uv been with unless maybe u promised her heaven & earth when u still both happy that's y ur scared if she curse u...

Juz try to explain everything in the best possible way...don't brag anything that may insult her.

Toktee:
change your simcard,relocate to another location without her knowledge,period.

Dis is wicked of u to say

Wat u said is worst dan break up sef u goin to emotionally disstabilize her

Better late than never, tell her kindly and without using harsh words. Give her ur reasons, hopefully they are cogent enough and she's sensible too.

BTW I admire your guts, most guys would rather string ladies along and instead use their actions to make the girl break-up with them. I hope you go through with the break-up sha

KashyBaby:
There is no ''gentle" break-ups...

U don't have to marry every girl uv been with unless maybe u promised her heaven & earth when u still both happy that's y ur scared if she curse u...

Juz try to explain everything in the best possible way...don't brag anything that may insult her.

How do u tell sm1 that to her face wtout sounding insulting...

Bro why break up na ?. U see I once had a girl like that nd I made d mistake of breaking up with her, nw I wish I hadn't. it's just 2 months if u love her like you claim u won't want to leave her.

I am sorry but there is no gentle way of breaking up. No matter how you doing it, it will always hurt one party.

Buy a range rover in her name, drop a breakup letter on driver's seat. otherwise say it to her face(there is nothing like "gentle breakup")

yakflowz:
Buy a range rover in her name, drop a breakup letter on driver's seat. otherwise say it to her face(there is nothing like "gentle breakup"

smh for u

u quantify sumones emotions to a non living thing

Happy for u

a simple "babe we are not compatible" would suffice
then tell her the reasons
she might be willing to change for you

The way men want to marry intelligent and hardworking women these days is worrisome.

let's break up
#DazAll

if u break up with her because she is lazy ,who will marry the lazy ones.u should tell her what u are telling us now and teach her things she doesn't know because no one is perfect.thank you

Here is what I did...give her the signs to show you are fed up. You know like forming being over busy, travelling a lot(wen u no go any where ) etc. If she code fine, she might want to adjust for u. But if you are already fed up look for the moment she is in her elements, take her to a nice bar, talk sweet nothings and pleasantries. Then look her in the eyes and be like since so so date my love for you is not as I thought. The thing is I can't pretend any longer....we could still be friends.... make her understand you did it early so you can not be wating her time(n ur own too but make nah she think am)

She might cry but before now strongly make up your mind. Nb. Bring gum and you two should be chewing while you are at it....trust me the gum will perform magic for you and her....eeerh my ⅔cents. Cheers.

Bro no gentle way to break up a relationship.one party must be hurt.change your attitude towards her if you really want to break up her.