A lot of People ask me what my biggest fear is, or what scares me the most.

And I know they expect an answer like heights, or closed spaces, or people dressed like animals but how do I tell them that when I was 17, I took a class called Relationships For Life and I learned that most people fall out of love for the same reasons they fell in it. That their lover's once endearing stubbornness has now become refusal to compromise and their one track mind is now immaturity and their bad habits that you once adored is now money down the drain. Their spontaneity becomes reckless and irresponsible and their feet up on your dash is no longer sexy, just another distraction to your busy life.

Nothing saddens and scares me like the thought that I can become ugly to someone who once thought all the stars were in my eyes.

I never expected this to be my most popular poem post out of hundreds I've written. I was extremely bitter and sad when I wrote this and left out the most beautiful part of the class.

After my teacher introduced us to this theory, she asked us, "is love a feeling? or is it a choice? We were all a bunch of teenagers. Naturally, we said it was a feeling. She said that if we clung to that belief, we'd never have a lasting relationship of any sort.

She made us interview a dozen adults who were or had been married and we asked them about their marriages and why it lasted or why it failed. At the end, I asked every single person if love was an emotion or choice.

Everybody said that it was a choice. It was a conscious commitment. It was something you chose to make work everyday with a person who has chosen the same thing. They all said that at one point in their marriage, the feeling of love had vanished or faded and they weren't happy. They said feelings were always changing and you cannot build something that will last on such a shaky foundation.

The married ones said that when things were bad, they chose to open the communication, chose to identify what broke and how to fix it, and chose to recreate something worth falling in love with.

The divorced ones said they walked away.

Ever since that class, since that project, I never looked at relationships the same way. I understood why arranged marriages were successful. I discovered the difference in feelings and commitments, I've never gone for the person who makes my heart flutter or my head spin. I've chosen the people who were committed to choosing me, dedicated to finding something to adore even on the ugliest days.

I no longer fear the day someone who swore I was their universe can no longer see the stars in my eyes as long as they still choose to look until they find them again.

(Culled from a Random Tumblr Blog).

Love has no real definition.......


People define it to suit there present situation

Hateu2
Guess wat? My skul is on strike strtd yestrdy.. Meaning..



















No more exams till further notice

Fmartin:
Love has no real definition.......


People define it to suit there present situation

The question wasn't about the definition of love... just pointing out.

Love!!! Ever tried skating on a rough road? That shii' is more fun and enjoyable than love...

Both, love is an upsurge of feelings u've not felt b4 about some1 and it's also ur choice to follow up with that feelings

naughtynaughty:
Hateu2

Guess wat? My skul is on strike strtd yestrdy.. Meaning..




















No more exams till further notice

see as she fling book chai

Love is a choice and nothing more. I will elaborate later.

halfricanadian:


see as she fling book chai

yes oooooooooo, I cannor comman goan kie myslf nah.

Gm boo, hw v u bn?

naughtynaughty:
yes oooooooooo, I cannor comman goan kie myslf nah.

Gm boo, hw v u bn?

I'm good you?

Chai u kan dey talk like me

Tell ur twin sister we are now triplets yaaaaaaay!!!!

And in a situation where d feelings were never dere but relationship is good is it possible to force urself to choose to love?

naughtynaughty:
Hateu2

Guess wat? My skul is on strike strtd yestrdy.. Meaning..




















No more exams till further notice

Babe, that go dey convenient oo. NL without ya naughtynaughty dey tantamount to boredom

halfricanadian:


I'm good you?

Chai u kan dey talk like me

Tell yur twin sister we are now triplets yaaaaaaay!!!!

yaaaaaayy!!! Finally found my 3rd twin how sweeeeeeettttt. I gat ur back boo, anyday anytym

Cc Hateu2 say helloo to ur oda twin

Firstlieutenant:


Babe, that go dey convenient oo. NL without ya naughtynaughty dey tantamount to boredom

chimoooooo c d way ure makin me blush anyhow

Gm luv, hw v u bn

naughtynaughty:
yaaaaaayy!!! Finally found my 3rd twin how sweeeeeeettttt. I gat ur back boo, anyday anytym

Cc Hateu2 say helloo to ur oda twin

Yaaaaaay chai ive always known im a triplet

naughtynaughty:
chimoooooo c d way ure makin me blush anyhow

Gm luv, hw v u bn

gm pumpkin, yesterday was kinda boring, but today will get a lot better now u are around.

Firstlieutenant:


gm pumpkin, yesterday was kinda boring, but today will get a lot better now u are around.

biaa, how come ure followin only ladies?

halfricanadian:

Yaaaaaay chai ive always known im a triplet

such life! Knowing u hav 2sistas who gat ur back in any problem.. *blushing*

naughtynaughty:
biaa, how come ure followin only ladies?

well I aint gay

naughtynaughty:
such life! Knowing u hav 2sistas who gat ur back in any problem.. *blushing*

Awwwwww so tru call on me i can chop ban for ur matter

Firstlieutenant:

well I aint gay

who knws?

halfricanadian:



Awwwwww so tru call on me i can chop ban for ur matter

chop knuckle

No love lost no love found.

naughtynaughty:
who knws?

naughtynaughty:
Hateu2

Guess wat? My skul is on strike strtd yestrdy.. Meaning..




















No more exams till further notice

yagaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrr

Se na good news abi bad news now oo
Anyway sha, una welcome

Hello twin sis

halfricanadian:

Yaaaaaay chai ive always known im a triplet

HateU2:
yagaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrr
Se na good news abi bad news now oo Anyway sha, una welcome

bbad/good.. All join
Showapa? Bawoni aye e?

Naughtynaughty, halfcanadian my twin sis 4rm another mama. Una don derial oooo .


I gat ur backs tooon I will chop ban ontop una matter .
Nawti, I saw iykelvins flirting wen u were not around oo

naughtynaughty:
bbad/good.. All join

Showapa? Bawoni aye e?

heheh
Ore, mowapa ooo.
Yesterday self, I no come on line.
Na mid-9te I came on line to ask bro/uncle/daddyggrandfather Seun some qquestions but he no answer mi

HateU2:
Naughtynaughty, halfcanadian my twin sis 4rm another mama. Una don derial oooo .


I gat ur backs tooon I will chop ban ontop una matter .
Nawti, I saw iykelvins flirting wen u were not around oo

halfricanadian seems cool tho, lol. Me twin1 ()as d biggest anti among u , u,twin 2.. Mama africa twin3


swear
Iykekelvis *holdingcane* bring ur lengelenge self here right now

HateU2:
heheh
Ore, mowapa ooo.
Yesterday self, I no come on line.
Na mid-9te I came on line to ask bro/uncle/daddyggrandfather Seun some qquestions but he no answer mi

saw d post
U shaa no get sense askin seun dt typpa hillarious Q

Ws just smh4u wen I saw it