The most difficult age for any man born in
Nigeria should be between 24 and 29 years, the
pressure to be something, to be someone is so
immense.
When you look around you everyone seems to
be doing something for themselves, people
seem to be living a life you only dream of. You
have applied for jobs and the results have been
more disappointing than Yakubu Aiyegbeni
penalty kick at the world cup.
Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it, the
age when if not careful one is consumed by
alcohol or drugs, because the disappointments
become too much and you find alternative ways
to face reality. Worse is when a few people you
studied with have been lucky enough to land
jobs, soon your circle of friends gets thinner –
mostly they don’t even cut you out but you will
be real with yourself and cut yourself off. I
mean what will you do when you are in a
WhatsApp group of friends and they are
discussing about last week's trip in Dubai and
planning another trip South Africa while you
are not sure of what your next meal would be?
Most times you follow the conversation silently,
all alone like a cross on the grave.
Soon you realize this is no longer your kind of
crowd because the more you keep around the
more the pressure to be something, takes a toll
on you. You know when stories about house
parties come up and you act deaf because you
don’t know where an extra 5 guys would fit in
your house. Have you ever sat in a group of
people discussing the new iPhone on the market
or how British Airways offers poo services and
you can feel your heart whisper to you “boss
this is chest pain hour, can we just go and find a
group that talks about GMAT, SHLn Dragnet,
jobberman or job vacancies sites“.
But you sit there as these people are lost in their
lifestyle conversations, you are like a secretary
taking minutes in meeting. You are totally
forgotten like one of a woman’s breasts during
pre-intimacy. Once in a while one of the friends
will turn and ask if you need another drink and
you wonder if you should just say No and head
home, but head home to do what? So you
grudgingly drop in the comment “I will have
just one last one“ Lie.
But after a few years of job hunting, you are
now ready to take anything even if is to smell a
rich man’s farts as long as it pays , so you end
up as an office messenger in one blue chip
company in town. To imagine that 4-5 years of
studying and getting a degree is now reduced to
picking and dropping off letters and if you are
not doing that, you are being sent for cheap
lunch by the employees when they are broke
and they can’t order with fast food. This is
when conversations about where people
schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of
any use to say you also reached University, it
doesn’t matter – you have resorted to surviving.
Once in while you will bump into your now
well to do classmates, they would offer you
lunch, but not even eating the meals at Eko
Hotel or Sheraton will make you feel better
about yourself, because in your mind you wish
instead they would give you the 30k and you
sort your meals for the next 5 weeks. As it is the
norm you will have photos taken, and uploaded
on Facebook, but always it’s your face that
would look the odd one out – not even the best
filters can hide a face which has suffered the
city’s dust and sun but survives on boiled beans.
The worst mistake you can do during this
period is to try and date – there is nothing that a
person going through such times can offer in
terms of love. How are you going to do evening
romantic walks when you are tired from
walking delivering letters in offices around
town? What are you going to tell your lady
when she says she wants to go for relaxation at
the bar, pool or love garden sites that are in
town? That your financial religion doesn’t allow
it or what? This is the age when you sit back
and watch as the ladies you would want to date
are dating or getting married to guys 10 years
older than you. And you can’t blame them – it’s
only that your life seems to be progressing
slower than their goals in life.
Most of the ladies you meet during this period,
if you are lucky will be patient with you till you
hit 28, and if by then your life is still in disarray
like Liverpool’s and Chelsea’s performance in
the EPL then my friend be prepared for a walk
out.
But then this is the age when you learn a lot of
about life, if you can hack through this stage of
life the only hard moment in your life would be
when you lose your parents – that’s if you are
still lucky enough to have them. This stage
teaches you a lot about perseverance, about
appreciating the small wins you have each day,
it teaches you something about friendship, love,
career growth and personal responsibility. This
is always your rise or fall moment depending on
the choices you make.
How you live your life in the 30’s is determined
by how you handled your life in this phase.
please don't read alone ruminate on it.
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that's why everyone needs to plan adequately! work HARD pray HARD!