Ani Lee:

I think my first reaction will be a major turn off. Then definitely followed up by disgust. And then may be awe i.e. after getting over the fact that its a man. [b]But generally I dont think I will get hurt because it would be a strange and shocking position to be in. But u never know, posa dearest might have a point there too. [/b]

posakosa:

If the person has informed me from the beginning that they are NOT monogamous in anyway and its been my choice to continue the relationship, then it may not hurt as much because I, myself, will be playing my own game. As they've been upfront with me from the getgo,

I imagine that it HURTS more when theres an expectation that this individual is monogamous and then, aarrgh, they're with another person.

Missy B:

Catch my man 'hitting' anatha man's butt?
It's not the cheating that would hurt me . . . .It's knowing that I once allowed him
into my life.

posakosa:

If the person has informed me from the beginning that they are NOT monogamous in anyway and its been my choice to continue the relationship, then it may not hurt as much because I, myself, will be playing my own game. As they've been upfront with me from the getgo,

I imagine that it HURTS more when theres an expectation that this individual is monogamous and then, aarrgh, they're with another person.

posakosa:

It hurts either way. It depends on how much you really like the person.

Missy B:

That would seem more normal and hurt less.

iice:

More or less, same thing i was thinking

iice:

No cheating. . .

justwise:

If he tells u from day1 wouldn't that be a turn off?

justwise:

U know sometimes when one is cheated on with an opposite sex, u will be thinking why did he/she do that? Was it cos i'm not doing enough in bedroom department or the other woman/man is good at something.

But when the cheating is with the same sex, its hard to figure out what exactly that drives him/her to that.

I don't find it hard to figure that out.  If he cheats with the same sex.  .  .it would mean that he was either bisexual or he hadn't known/settled for sure that he was gay.  Besides some gay men have wives and kids _*shrugs*

If it's with the opposite sex, again _*shrugs*.
I doubt i would be thinking that.  .  .I tend not to react as what people call 'normal'

posakosa:

I must have been in a haste to respond or [b]maybe the OP edited the original post, I didn't know that this was about same-sex/homosexual relationships, [/b]


But urm,

iice:

I don't find it hard to figure that out. If he cheats with the same sex. . .it would mean that he was either bisexual or he hadn't known/settled for sure that he was gay. Besides some gay men have wives and kids _*shrugs*

If it's with the opposite sex, again _*shrugs*.
I doubt i would be thinking that. . .I tend not to react as what people call 'normal'

justwise:

Absolutely! that was y i started this topic. A friend, married with 3kids caught her hubby with another man, but she is confused.
He still confess his love for her, very good dady and husband, he works hard and look after the family. She is really confused about the whole thing

iice:

Ahhhh
Well he loves her as the mother of his kids, wife and companion but he's not necessarily jonesing to jump her bones. It happens. Some couples work that out. . .like having an open relationship, some divorce. . .others struggle to keep the family together and not cheat. . .

justwise:

Up untill last wk when she caught him, she never ever susppected nothing, they dated for abt 3yrs b4 marriage, now this

iice:

Sometimes, they keep it in, in the hopes that the feeling goes away. Others try to prove themselves wrong, sometimes they are just afraid. . .I always tell people to get their gaydar up and running. If yours is strong, you can sense it. . .