This story has been going on for a few years my daughter has been feeding me in.
About 3 years ago two of her friends were bestfriends forever(as they called themselves)
Ella had a boyfriend but her Tradition dose not allow her to sleep with anybody till marrage and she was sticking to it.The boyfriend that was also from her place knew this tradition very well but was very egar to have sex.
Well end of the tale he and the best friend Linda got together.Then Linda has no such tradition.
Ella was very upset and depressed of cause bestfriends forever were no more. Till this day they are not talking.And Ella has gotten over the relationship.
But Linda is having serious problems now.
Then the boyfriend has ended a school dropout and they are always fighting.
He keeps insulting her up to the "I fu**ed you insults.
Well she is very depressed now and my daughter is always having to run over to console her.She keeps phoning at ode hours crying on the phone with the "I still love him bla bla bla"
Well one day i was fed up i told my daughter the Linda deserved what she got.
What goes round comes round.

My daughter says its a heartless comment.

well here are the facts
Linda and Ella were best friends
Ella and her boyfriend broke up because the boyfriend wanted a girl that will have sex.
Linda and the boyfriend started dating.
It broke up the friendship between Linda and Ella.

I say well done she asked for it
my daughter says its a free market the moment you break up with your boyfriend he is free.
But at the same time , she can never date a boy that has dated one of her friends.
In her own words" kissing a mouth were here friends mouth has been is disgusting.
At the same time she says she will not care if her friend gose out with her ex as long as they stay away then what is over is overd

So is it a free market or am i old fashoned

brilliant! you answered it, its gotto be a little of both

Thats life for u.does sex have to occur in all relationship?they are still young though.love never exsisted between them both.girls with female friends should watch out when they've got a cute dude as their boyfriend or else,she will loose him to another linda.
mamaput u played a nice role but u should have at least talked some sense into her as a mother.u've got it help her out with those words.alles klar.

Alles klar.
When your daughter tells you a story on her own free will and you try to "talk sense" into her, she will stop telling you things,
It was not about her so for me its a matter of "in my opinion". and in hers.
We are not one .
I see her point and she sees my point.
I know the boy and i do not find him cute.
he and my daughter were class mates from the first school day in primary school.
I always found him an arrogant Pratt.
we have advised Linda to break up with him he is no good for her.
Better more hard working boys want to go out with her but she still loves the loser.That has stopped school and hangs around with the gang.
Linda thinks he will take over his fathers shop .Then after all the father could provide for the family with the shop.
Well i have told her, His father is not yet old enough to give up the shop to his son. So she can forget that plan.

You're advicing your daughter not to be loyal to her friend? Maybe she will treat you that way someday.
When you dump a man, others are allowed to pick him up. Life is not meant to be that difficult.

Am not asking her not to be loyal to her friend.
Friends come with faults.
Even at the age of 10 my kids have friends that drink or smoke.
I never make them dump their friends But they should know that what they are doing is wrong.
I will not like it if my kids are stamped as boyfriend snatchers.
At the moment my daughter is writing a lot of tests her exams are round the corner.
I admit am _selfish why should my daughter drop her books to run to the Linda's house.
They are classmates they go to school together , sit together come home together, visit themselves. So when my daughter brings out her books to read at night after spending maybe an average of 6 hours with her friend.
Tell me one good reason to drop her books and run to the girls house or consoul her for hours on the phone.
The results she makes now are going to determine her feature.

Do not forget both girls are her friends only that Ella is now in another school.

Hmm. What do I know about parenting? I just felt that compassion is nothing to be discouraged. I feel that if the real concern is that you want to see more of your daughter, you can tell her that and she'll be touched.

mamaput i kind of agree with seun. You too are right in she asked for it. dunno kinda torn

She asked for it dose not mean i do not pity her.
She is a nice girl.
My daughter also told me it was a heartless comment.
Well i asked her how Ella took it that time 3 years ago.
It pained her bad.
She and the boy had been together over a year. They had their issues.
Who do you go to with your boyfriend problems?
First of all to your best friend.
You tell your best friend every thing your joy your pain she advises you and then stabs you in the back.
Good they had broken up but the pain was still fresh.
The best part of it was that as of that time all of them were class mates.
So no hiding or running away.
The whole school knows whats going on and you have to sit in the middle of it till you live the school some 2 years late.
And you know you did nothing wrong apart from sticking to your tradition.

you got a point, true when you think she is your girl and there for you cried to her and all, and tfor her to go with him, that's just disloyal. yes she deserved it.

Anyway that girl sounds like a good girl, that guy didnt deserve her and she should be glad she didnt sleep with him, whta a waste that would have been.

What more it split up a lot of friendships.
You know that girls move in groups. But this story made the girls now take sides.
And a class the (a and b class) and other schoolmate friends were split into two groups that were not talking to each other.

lol geez that takes me back , i feel old now. Yeah i know what you mean. Girls, well female species we are like that unfortunately. It's good they went through the experience early though.

It was also the same in my school days.
But then the split was never about a boyfriend.
It was about "she said i said he said" matters.
And all of a sudden the whole class or school house is fighting.
Or maybe matters about the "locker" and food

lol boarding school eh lol.