What works for them will not work for your Kids
There is what is called destiny
I'm the laziest person on earth when i was small , but when i was a kid i knew i would be a millionaire, i eventually became a millionaire at the age of 24 without working for no one for a single day , that's destiny
If hard work guarantees success barrow pushers, brick layers, bus drivers would be billionaires because those guys grinds and works harder than everyone in this world just like one nairalander said in a comment section
Can you give your son or daughter a 30-minute appointment today? Closed door, heart to heart meeting, in which you will let your child tell you, in whatever words they can manage, how much it hurts them when you compare them with someone else, be it an outsider or even a sibling.


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It's Trying Show You That Nobody Likes A Failure..
But When It Comes To Food Or Material Things They Be Like;
Me:i never belle full
Parent:is it not your mate that are drinking garri,day in day out.
I be like wadafuq,can't you compare me with dangote son on this one.

lool but things might change along the line and u end up doing better than the person they are comparing u with

Christardor:
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This is one thing I dispise the most

i hate it

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not good to do this to the kids

they need to stop

annoying

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ok

loooool

It is not easy o, most of you commenting on this topic ain't even married with kids yet, if you are married with kids pls, indicate after commenting on this post, then tell us the number of kids you gat, and how well academically your kids are doing.i is easy when you kids are doing pretty well not to wanna compare them,like when your lady child is always first position in the class every session, you see, that's easy, you can only be thinking of comparing her with higher level of excellence abi?now what if he/she ain't doing well,eg, misbehaves , very dirty, always playful etc, wetIn You go do, been able parent and a very concerned one for that matter?,una too dey pretend abeg, even in advanced nations , they stylishly do this comparism things!yes , I speak from experience,eno easy when your wards ain't doing well, you will wanna check out, who is better, in that area doing well than such and you wanna talk.But I am not fronting for any parent o, me just trying to be real and not fake unlike many of us on this forum, abeg, make una no vex, if I burst any ones bubble,this was how they told us not to scold our kids (that we are destroying their ego and personality),na so our children take spoil like rotten tomatoes inside clean basket!my first child has been shuttling between 2nd and 4th position in her class,I had t ask all the time, 'who came 1st this time'abi make I no ask ni?,I will talk to her and tel her what is he doing that you ain't doing?yes o, I asked her that last term, so we improved together, I challenged her with the person that always came first, now this term ,that just finished, lo and behold I went to her school to collect her result because she and her momma went for summer, She came first, after the last 4 thposition !i was so hey , the comparism things worked.once again it docent work for all, but you need to have a yard line standard for measuring goals on your kids, it can't be heaven, you need to set goals tha some one has achieved, that's partial comparism if you ask me o!I AM NOT SUPPORTING COMPARISM PLEASE.....BECAUSE WE TOO DEY OVER DO THINGS FOR THIS NATION!

Show me a chastiser/comparer and I will point to you a covetous, hypocritical and egomaniacal person.

For one, they never best their own peers in any good thing, yet they are always quick to gloat and mock others; especially their wards and subordinates over their inadequacies.

They do no evil. They had rather resort to psychological blackmail which comparison is, than to acknowledge their failure which contributes or outrightly causes the kid's underperformce. If as a parent you wishes your kid to best Mr. X child in school, natural law expects you to firstly play your role well by way of providing to your kid a better platform than Mr. X provides to his own child.

As a child growing up among tribes of Tiger Mothers, then later as a teenager let me tell u this ,I've tried different things to satisfy my parent , i tried one silly thing in High school then i edited my report card from %58 to %88 cos i was scared of him yelling at me and i don't want him to compare me to this friend of mine who has been taking the first position since we were in primary school i tried my best but to him that was'nt enough but he forgot there are somethings he needs to help me with also ..things like getting me a nice teacher and co but to him he things reading after school alone will get me the 1st position .so from doing my "best" to live up to parental expectations (the "best" that was never good enough), to emotionally withdrawing from parents, to angry outbursts and shouting and screaming. None of these worked.There is a level of excellence you should expect from yourself. Identify this level of excellence based on what you yourself agree as your personal best (effort.) As you carry yourself forward, you should exact this personal best effort in all that you do....

i think i need to Start comparing My parent with other parents i need to Keep up this approach until they put me up for adoption

IBEJULEKKILANDS:
i think i need to Start comparing My parent with other parents i need to Keep up this approach until they put me up for adoption

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Because their own parents compared them to other kids when they were younger.

thru so they wanna pass it to there kids too
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