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D by Ebullient07: 10:22am On Sep 13, 2016 |
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Re: D by Nobody: 10:24am On Sep 13, 2016 |
I think you should listen to your parents because they told you to leave the guy,but you refused to listen to them....now you are regretting it.....see the time you've wasted.......chai........my advice tho |
Re: D by buygala(m): 10:26am On Sep 13, 2016 |
What a child can't see even while ontop of a tree, his elders can see even while sitting down 'Madness'.. 'Polygamous family'. .. baddest pre-marriage redlights ever liveth OP, just assume you want to enter a building and you see this sign... KEEP OFF!!!! BEWARE OF MAD DOG What will you do? |
Re: D by abokibuhari: 10:32am On Sep 13, 2016 |
sometimes you have to listen to your family when they advice you. Put it in mind that if you go ahead to marry him and things dont work out fine, bae you on your own oooo.... |
Re: D by Luckygurl(f): 10:35am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Wow!! This is a difficult situation I don't pray to find myself in. I really don't know what to say If only our parents can be a little more understanding atimes I would have suggested you involve some respected persons to intervene, but you already did, your grandparents at that and they are still adamant. But one thing is sure, I can't get married to someone my parents ain't in full support. This is not too good Op! Try a bit harder to convince them, go extra miles for them to see reason with you. If it doesn't work out, I'm sorry. You might have to let go 2 Likes |
Re: D by madridguy(m): 10:36am On Sep 13, 2016 |
My sister, your parent are very correct with their point. Background checking is part of what you considered before marrying someone to avoid future havoc. I knew of a family around my area then before they packed away, about 4 boys of the man were suffering from one mental disorder or another and this guy's don't smoke. Later we found out the problem is a long curse on the family at large that higher percentage of male child suffer from mental problem. One of my area sister got preg for one of this guy's unknowingly and one night this guy picked up a knife to kill this girl but thank God sha she escaped unhurt and the next day when his brain come back to normal he apologized. My sister, shine your eyes well well cos when it's set, love will run away. Marriage pass I love you, I love you. Fi Amana lahi. |
Re: D by Nobody: 10:43am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Most people would advice you that true love conquers all and sh.it like that..... But on a real life basis; it rarely does But wait; the guy's a good guy and you really like him Then I'll advice (the guy not you) to make some cool dough and propose to you; in front of your parents; with the ring placed in the middle of an Iphone 7 and galaxy S7 that is on the roof of the toyota Highlander 2016 model. If they still say no then...................Bleep it; you've got one life to live |
Re: D by madridguy(m): 10:51am On Sep 13, 2016 |
Money cannot buy you happiness. SirWere: |
Re: D by firstking01(m): 10:51am On Sep 13, 2016 |
I fear polygamous family, they like divource and break ups cos that's how they where brought up...my ex kept talking abt break ups when we were still together and she has too many exes, every lil thing she 'll look for a way to break up, tho we are no more together. |
Re: D by jnrbayano(m): 11:00am On Sep 13, 2016 |
They saw ominous signs. I saw them too. It hurts, but you have to do what you must do. You can't afford not to be on the same page with people that brought you to this world as regards to marriage. You just can't afford to. Unless their reasons are victimizing (which are not from what you outlined) please by every means, obey them. Take heart and cheer up. |
Re: D by Ebullient07: 12:02pm On Sep 13, 2016 |
jnrbayano: |
Re: D by Ebullient07: 12:13pm On Sep 13, 2016 |
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Re: D by Peacefullove: 1:24pm On Sep 13, 2016 |
Op , this is no doubt a difficult situation. and I think it won't have hurt so much if you had ended it the first time they kicked against it . the family background of a thing is serious at times . they might have say this due to EXPERIENCES they have seen or hear over the years . Put yourself in their position and your daughter is about to make such a decision considering those factors they gave , what will you do ? sometimes its good to see things from the angle of the other person. |
Re: D by Winnelyn(f): 1:25pm On Sep 13, 2016 |
is he a gold digger?? |
Re: D by omega25red(m): 1:40pm On Sep 13, 2016 |
poster No one knows tomorrow. Not even a pastor who sees visions can tell you what will happen tomorrow. Some people would say honor your parents request but in my opinion, you are the person in the relationship. you yourself should know what you are getting into and be ready to deal with whatever comes your way. Marriage is no joke and marriage is certainly different from the days of our parents. i would say go ahead if he loves you and you love him. If he treats you right, thats whats important. If he works hard thats whats important. if he respects you, thats whats important. if he doesn't abuse you physically and mentally, thats whats important. Damn what the villagers and peanut galleries have to say. you and the man simply need to devise a plan to show your parents that his family issues are not inherited. And the brother's wife, is the brother's wife. Nothing in this life is guaranteed but death. So your relationship might succeed and no one will say anything about it or fail and people will say i told you so. The point is if you don't take a chance, you will never know 5 Likes |
Re: D by Ebullient07: 7:41pm On Sep 13, 2016 |
Peacefullove: |
Re: D by Luckygurl(f): 8:40pm On Sep 13, 2016 |
Ebullient07: What a tough decision to make Be strong dear! This too shall pass |
Re: D by jnrbayano(m): 11:22pm On Sep 13, 2016 |
Ebullient07: Do you know one thing about God's will? It must come to pass, no matter how the odds are stacked. Please, let it be a solace. What I can beat my chest and tell you is that obeying one's parents is divine. Hope you know its a commandment? But God's will overrides all remember? You see why I advice for it to be a solace? Be strong. |
Re: D by Holywizard: 11:40pm On Sep 13, 2016 |
ur 1st issue might turn out to be an slowpoke |
Re: D by Ebullient07: 8:04am On Sep 14, 2016 |
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Re: D by Peacefullove: 8:15am On Sep 14, 2016 |
Ebullient07: my dear, what's the joy of a relationship in which ones parent don't give a consent ? for how long will you continue doing things in secret ? for how long will you be sober ? free yourself and experience Joy like someone said obeying parents is a command from God , am telling you that years to this time ; you will look back and thank your creator that you follow their advice . |
Re: D by Ebullient07: 5:34pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
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Re: D by Flickzvill(m): 6:30pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Follow your heart yes I agree u have to obey you parent and all that see one day dey will definitely leave u and join dia ancestors lets assume u marry a diff person just to please ur parent and ur not happy u are only killing ur self see for me o I will marry who I love once dey see tinz going well children everywhere me nd my wife progressing dey will forget d past that's it and also consult God first very important. |
Re: D by Holywizard: 6:44pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Ebullient07:u re a fool. ur guy's background speaks for itself |
Re: D by jnrbayano(m): 7:47pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Flickzvill: When you obey your parents (especially when they advice you out of their love, vast experience and clear dangers evident) you have already consulted God (After all, it's what God commands) "Follow your heart" advice is never a good advice. The heart, a member of the affective domain, is unable to make an informed judgement outside the subject, love. ......and you know love is only but a subset of marriage. Marriage is a complex union. "Follow your brain" is a better advice I reckon, why? The brain is a cognitive tool which centres on logics and reason. With this, unthreatening or ominous signs are unblinkingly spotted, and decisions for or against made unimpeded. May I also remind you that when two come together in marriage, their families also come together in marriage. However, there's "God will" in everything as I pointed out earlier. It will always prevail no matter how the odds are stacked. |
Re: D by Flickzvill(m): 9:20pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
jnrbayano:sir everyone has his/her own opinion my own is its better I follow my heart if worst comes to worst no p I take d blame and move on that's life we are all humans irrespective of the fact we have parents yes they are dia to guide us correct but as a matured person you have to take some certain decisions yourself let d parent allow her get married if she feels she loves him and he loves her no p my advice to dem dey should be prayerful and give reasons y her parent should give dem dia blessings dey have huge load of work to do so still follow your heart |
Re: D by jnrbayano(m): 9:46pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
Flickzvill: Okay. One question, ....assuming you are head over heels in love with someone who is a sickle cell anaemia and you are an AS blood genotype, will you still follow your heart? |
Re: D by Beamborla(f): 10:13pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
But why do we keep holding people responsible for choices they did not make? When will we start treating people as an individual? It's really disheartening when we punish people for what they had no control over. Dude didn't choose his life, he shouldn't be punished for it. From what the OP has said, he's one of those who have learnt a positive lesson from his bitter experience. We hear stories daily about beautiful people from horrible background. I really wish your parents would have an open mind to this. So many people have listened to their parents and are regretting it today. OP, should seek the face of God and follow her heart For the love of Christ, there are good people from broken homes. Does this mean we should avoid everyone from a broken home? Then what of those who do not even know their parents? Maybe we should just kill them all already since it's a crime for which they will never be forgiven. 3 Likes |
Re: D by Tommfrench(m): 10:54pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
stubborn girl listen to yo parents for Haven sake!! |
Re: D by Ebullient07: 11:19pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
jnrbayano: |
Re: D by Ebullient07: 11:20pm On Sep 14, 2016 |
[quote author=jnrbayano post=49361985] When you obey your parents (especially when they advice you out of their love, vast experience and clear dangers evident) you have already consulted God (After all, it's what God commands) "Follow your heart" advice is never a good advice. The heart, a member of the affective domain, is unable to make an informed judgement outside the subject, love. ......and you know love is only but a subset of marriage. Marriage is a complex union. "Follow your brain" is a better advice I reckon, why? The brain is a cognitive tool which centres on logics and reason. With this, unthreatening or ominous signs are unblinkingly spotted, and decisions for or against made unimpeded. May I also remind you that when two come together in marriage, their families also come together in marriage. However, there's "God will" in everything as I pointed out earlier. It will always prevail no matter how the odds are stacked. [/quote |
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