Male rape is often a topic that is readily not discussed because frankly people don’t see male rape as such an issue. People would readily harp on female rape and also forget that men as a matter of fact can be raped also. Male rape and molestation is only discussed when it’s a child involved, after all we all watch movies where a beautiful actress force herself on an actor and all the male go like “wow! i wish” scientists has told us that men want sex anytime and anywhere so how can we not want free sex from a girl who is ready to give it to us? So what are some truths about female to male rape?


1. People don’t believe a man can be raped: people don’t usually want to agree that a man can be raped, even a man won’t listen to a another man when he says “Johnny i have been raped”….. Johnny would look at the guy and probably say “you lucky bastard!”. However, the truth is men also can be forced to have sex when they don’t want to. Here is someone’s experience shared on Cracked.com A few years ago, I was at a house party, and I’d had what could politely be described as a bit too much to drink. My girlfriend tried to convince me to leave with her, but I assured her I was having fun and would be fine, and she somehow understood me even though I almost certainly sounded like I was speaking Dothraki at that point. It soon became clear to me that “fine” was a planet I had left hours ago, so I found a couch to crash on.

My face slipped neatly into a cushion ass print.

From here on out, every part of this story would be absolutely typical of a sexual assault … if the genders were reversed. In fact, if I were female, many of you would literally be saying, “Are you crazy? This is how people get raped!” as you read this next part.

A resident of the house, being a good hostess, generously offered to stash me away in the relative privacy of her bedroom. Sometime later, another woman who was at the party came into the room, got into bed with me, and started trying to convince me to have sex with her. My memory of all this is very hazy, but I know that I repeatedly said, “No thanks, I have a girlfriend, surely you understand.”

That’s where my coherent memory of the incident ends, but suffice it to say, she absolutely did not understand at all — she took advantage of me while I was barely conscious and could no longer say no, which is more or less the exact definition of rape.

If the genders were reversed.

But for me, whenever I tell someone I was raped by a woman, they act like I just told them I was bitten by a leprechaun. They can’t even fathom how such a thing would be possible. By far the most common response is a brief pause, followed by, “What do you mean?” One of the most hurtful responses was from a close male friend, who dismissed me by saying, “I’m sure she didn’t hold you down.”

“Or did she? What position were you guys in? C’mon, give a bro some deets!”

And that, right there, seems to be the psychological hurdle no one can get over. It’s based on the idea that sex is something men do to women. Men give out sex, women receive it, and that’s just how sex works. So if sex occurred, it must mean I was the one who made it happen. That either knowingly or deep down, I must have wanted it to happen.

That I was “asking for it.”

Yeah, sound familiar?

2. How did you get erect if you didn’t enjoy it: This question seems very logical, after all men get erect when they are enjoying the sex isn’t it? This is not entirely true. Men get erect for anything! Men get erect when they wake up from sleep, when the wind blows… etcetera Boners happen at the drop of a hat, a rustle of fabric, a gentle breeze, you name it — as long as everything works down there, literally anything can set it off. An erection is not a dowsing rod of intention, it’s a bundle of nerves that can be manipulated by anyone who halfway knows what they’re doing. If men had absolute control over their arousal, premature ejaculation wouldn’t be a thing..

3. Male rape is more common than you think: : In 2003 the statistics for male rape was just 10%,however in recent times the stats has spiked up to 40,000 households found that a staggering 38 percent of sexual-assault victims were male. Nearly half of those men reported that their attacker was a woman.

So what’s going on here? Well, for starters, if you ask a man who’s been coerced, intimidated, or physically forced into sex with a woman whether or not he’s been raped, he’s pretty likely to say no (it took researchers years to even think to ask men this question, by the way). But they eventually figured out that if you rephrase the question and ask whether or not he has been “made to penetrate” another person, they’re more likely to respond in the affirmative.

That’s because the word “rape,” in their minds, represents something totally different from what they experienced. It’s a masked man in a dark alley holding a knife to some terrified woman’s throat, or it’s the violent shower sequence in American History X. Of course, the overwhelming majority of sexual assaults don’t look like that at all, which is the same reason why a disturbing number of people still don’t believe that date rape is a thing. Which is to say, the same problem plagues female and male victims alike: in real life, rape just doesn’t look like it does in the movies.

4. People treat male rape as one helluva joke: Imagine walking up to a buddy with a straight face and tell him you were just raped by a horde of girls, what do you think would be his first reaction as a typical male, he would probably laugh so hard and tell you how lucky you are. The recently revised DOJ definition of rape reads:

The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.

But, like, whose vagina or anus? Is it a requirement that the victim be penetrated, or just that penetration occurs? What is this, Jeopardy! The Marquis de Sade Edition? Nobody really has a good answer, which is why female rapists are often charged with the lesser crime of sexual assault. But believe it or not, that new definition is actually an improvement — the law used to state specifically and without ambiguity that rape can happen only to women, regardless of what was penetrating whom. Male has never and is still hardly taken seriously

5. You become a joke when as a male you admit to have being raped: You’d become a ridicule to everyone who knows you were “raped” because to them it’s impossible for a man to be raped! You are supposed to be stronger than a woman, so questions like “why didn’t you push her off” are asked. But they forget that rape is not just physical it’s also physcological, they don’t take into cognizance the physcological state of that person when the rape happens.

Rape is not just a female thing, men also get raped and it should be taken quite seriously. #saynotorape#

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