Hi my lovely and respectable nairalanders, I need us to help this young husband manage this childbirth anxiety. His wife is pregnant and is more than 35 weeks now, so the midwife has already told them to start preparing for the child's delivery.
Interesting thing here is that anxiety has taken over him as his wife look restless each day that passes, with either complain of waist, weakness, painful joint or an urge to throw up..
He feels helpless at each occasion, not knowing what to do, sometimes in the middle of the night. Though midwife says her situation is perfectly normal.
The problem is that he has heard of men who have had to wake their neighbors at mid night to seek for help simply because their wife is in labour.
Such an experience look very scary for him since he love his wife so much, and he just could not wait to see her deliver safely.
In the light of this, is their anything he should do that will help him prepare for this and possibly overcome this anxiety.
Fathers in the house, what was your experience with your wife's first childbirth and how did you prepare and managed it.
Even when he goes to work, he kept thinking that, perhaps labour may start in his absence, since he is not sure how women feel at such moments: not sure if she will be able to call him on phone, as it's only her at home most times.

Candid opinion needed pls

Just breathe and relax. Think about the good times you would have with the baby.

Divinehealer:
Just breathe and relax. Think about the good times you would have with the baby.

ok, thanks

You might be helping a soul with ur advise

He should go online and Google what to expect/do during labour. Or Google how a husband can help during labour.
Um sure there'll be loads of articles on that. That'll help him to be prepared a bit. He needs to be calm, so he doesn't be a nuisance on that day. I'm sure there'll be you tube videos of people in labour.
A lot of activities to do to make the time pass, how to do breathing exercises, how to be a source of support for the wife in that day instead of being a source of worry.
Once again, a clear, focused mind is needed. Even if he's anxious, he shouldn't project it on his wife

eyinjuege:
He should go online and Google what to expect/do during labour. Or Google how a husband can help during labour.
Um sure there'll be loads of articles on that. That'll help him to be prepared a bit. He needs to be calm, so he doesn't be a nuisance on that day. I'm sure there'll be you tube videos of people in labour.
A lot of activities to do to make the time pass, how to do breathing exercises, how to be a source of support for the wife in that day instead of being a source of worry.
Once again, a clear, focused mind is needed. Even if he's anxious, he shouldn't project it on his wife

well understood. Thanks

Hmmm!!! @ op, from a woman's point of view, its best you bring in a fellow woman who has gone through child birth preferably ur wife's mom or yours. In all sincerity both of u need to be clear minded and free from anything making you anxious or fearful at this stage. Believe me ur anxiety will not help your wife in anyway.

More so the need for an experienced hand will help assist ur wife whenever labour starts esp in your absence. I seriously dnt advise you doing things on ur own as first timers. Just as someone advised, Google up ur expectations as an expectant father and prepare your mind. Seriously if u can't stand the entire process alone, get someone who can help u make sound decisions during this period to avoid any eventualities. All the best sir.

op congratulations....

It's always like this the first time....

Can help u ease the tension...give me a call

Have a bag packed and ready to go incase she goes into a labor at night. That will make you feel more comfortable.
If this is her first child, the likelihood that she will go into impromptu labor is slim. Most likely it will happen one day before or after her scheduled due date. Usually after the given due date. Have no fear. You won't be rushing to deliver a baby by yourself in the middle of the night because your wife suddenly went into labor.

I will tell you what helped when my daughter was born..

Her mothe read a lot and learnt almost all the signs, what to expect and all that. So when the edd drew near, the panic wasnt there when she started feeling those apprehension but only prepped and went to the hospital. She was quite impresive for a first-time mum. Reading and mastering those signs by both of them would help a lot. Congrats ahead of you safe delivey of a sweet baby abi na triplets?

silvoice:
Hi my lovely and respectable nairalanders, I need us to help this young husband manage this childbirth anxiety. His wife is pregnant and is more than 35 weeks now, so the midwife has already told them to start preparing for the child's delivery.
Interesting thing here is that anxiety has taken over him as his wife look restless each day that passes, with either complain of waist, weakness, painful joint or an urge to throw up..
He feels helpless at each occasion, not knowing what to do, sometimes in the middle of the night. Though midwife says her situation is perfectly normal.
The problem is that he has heard of men who have had to wake their neighbors at mid night to seek for help simply because their wife is in labour.
Such an experience look very scary for him since he love his wife so much, and he just could not wait to see her deliver safely.
In the light of this, is their anything he should do that will help him prepare for this and possibly overcome this anxiety.
Fathers in the house, what was your experience with your wife's first childbirth and how did you prepare and managed it.
Even when he goes to work, he kept thinking that, perhaps labour may start in his absence, since he is not sure how women feel at such moments: not sure if she will be able to call him on phone, as it's only her at home most times.

Candid opinion needed pls

Don't worry, she can make a call if you are at work. It's not like nollywood portray it.

cococandy:
Have a bag packed and ready to go invade she goes into a labor at night. That will ale you feel more comfortable.
If this is her first child, the likelihood that she will go into impromptu labor is slim. Most likely it will happen one day before or after her scheduled due date. Usually after the given due date. Have no fear. You won't be rushing to deliver a baby by yourself in the middle of the night because your wife suddenly went into labor.

very useful comment here. Thanks dear.

mcdokwe:
I will tell you what helped when my daughte was born..

Her mothe read a lot and learnt almost all the signs, what to expect and all that. So when the edd drew near, the panic wasnt dear when she started feeling those apprehension but only prepped and went to the hospital. She was quite impresive for a first-time mum. Reading and mastering those signs by both of them would help a lot. Congrats ahead of you safe delivey of a sweet baby abi na triplets?

yes! that is what I told her to be doing

byvan03:
Don't worry, she can make a call if you are at work. It's not like nollywood portray it.

alright, thanks