After traditional marriage, is the couple legally bound to have sex, must they wait until after wedding?

Plz I need your contributions b/c this has raised puzzles somehow.

Traditional marriage is marriage. They are free to have sex.

true! They can have sex.

But churches will not allow you to stay with the man/woman untill after wedding. why

i think they can ave sex after d traditional weddin or even before(lol), as long as they are ready

the norm (at least for me)..the couple dont get together until after church wedding
i guess the church wedding is some kind of seal and uve got witnesses under God that u guys are legally married now
anything can happen now and u guys are not sinning

The traditional marriage is the marriage
believe me
since the man has gone to the girl's parents to present
himself, the require stuff is done
they are married
so after that they can kill themselves if they want to

Renike:

i guess the church wedding is some kind of seal and uve got witnesses under God that u guys are legally married now

GOD is there wit you @ the traditional marriage as well. Ur Parents Seal is God's seal. GOD isnt against custom. Who was the priest at ADam and Eve's wedding?

there are some people who do their traditional wedding, and wait for about 15yrs before doing the church.....so do they have to wait as well...i dont think so!

layi:

GOD is there wit you @ the traditional marriage as well. Ur Parents Seal is God's seal. GOD isnt against custom. Who was the priest at ADam and Eve's wedding?

Layi, I quite agree with this, my great grand parents who wedded them. Afterall there are three types of marriage " Customary, Traditional and Religious", me personally I believe church wedding is just a ceremony, the real thing is the agreement b/w the two families (traditional rites) sefini.

Why would a church first take a woman for pregnancy test b/f they are wedded, meaning they should be having sex but dont get pregnant, who are we decieving.

I am of the opinion that sex after traditional marriage is not sin!

layi:

GOD is there wit you @ the traditional marriage as well. Ur Parents Seal is God's seal. GOD isnt against custom. Who was the priest at ADam and Eve's wedding?

then explain to me why noses are raised when a wife moves into her husband's house after trad wedding...
ok, am talking abt d yoruba culture cos i dont know how it goes for d rest.

enough about this nonsence about having sex after a traditional wedding.
Church marriage was started by the roman catholic in time past and no mention of chuch marriage was stated in the bible.
going by the old testament account, it states that if a man likes a woman, he should invite her dad and the elders pay the stipulated amount and take her home and have the sex of his life, full stop.
church marriage is a ploy of the chuch to join couples in the way it seem fit. i am not against it, but it should not be the basis for a man and a woman enjoying a fruitful relationship. And who said they cannot even have sex before they are married?

then explain to me why noses are raised when a wife moves into her husband's house after trad wedding...

Me explain? Why should I explain norms of people. Did I initiate such. Moreover i'm not obliged to follow it.

God  instituted  marriage and he alone as a final say on how it shouldbe run. Marriage  is the coming  together of  2 people of  opposite sex  to live as 1 with or without the knowledge and consent of their kinsmen.

@ Layi ..o really
marriage is a legal union of a man and woman as husband and wife
and when u say "legal" is anything concened with the law
To me and my opinion...Traditional wedding is more like an introduction while
a church/court wedding seals the d deal legally !

and ur definition of marriage is kinda of fault it cos from time in memorial , couples have always
needed the blessing/prayer or kinsmen ( most times the parents)

my opinion...if u dont see my point..then, i guess we just have to agree to disagree.

and your definition of marriage is kind of of fault it because from time in memorial , couples have always
needed the blessing/prayer or kinsmen ( most times the parents)

...and couples without parents or kinsmen (e.g orphans) cannot get married right?
...and if my parents dont want me married, then i cant be married..right?

layi:

...and couples without parents or kinsmen (e.g orphans) cannot get married right?
...and if my parents don't want me married, then i can't be married..right?

please be logical...
ppl get prayers from whomsoever...

u getting married w/o ur parents consent is a different issue.

In the beginning, there was nothing like church/court wedding.Traditional marriage or no traditional marriage,so far ur parents have given their consent and prayers,no prob with d rest.Just move on and enjoy ur marital bliss.Atleast, there r so many pple that after having their 4th child,they still come back to wed legally.So, go on my pally......nothing dey happen.

The essence of church wedding to my own understanding, is for the marriage to blessed in the church. Not that you are not leggally married to start enjoying yr thing?

The question still remains why is church against couple living together after trad wedding?

@ Renike

First u say

and your definition of marriage is kind of of fault it because from time in memorial , couples have always
needed the blessing/prayer or kinsmen ( most times the parents)

then u say

please be logical...
people get prayers from whomsoever...

Why contradict yourself? Who should be logical here? There are obviously people living in this world without parents or kinsmen (1 out of a thousand examples are the sunami victims). Does this means they can't get married?

Anyway there is no point arguing here because we are obviously outside the topic.

there is no contradiction..read outside the box
if there isn't ANY kinsmen ( which i doubt) , someone wld take up d duty!!!!!

lol...tsunami...son, please...we are talking abt 9ja here..
they wld have thier culture...and i believe they wld follow it

i don't know.

did they even wait for the traditional wedding before they started love making?

Yes, of course they can have sex.

Hmmmmmmmmmm u can av M-love but u guys no it's kind of so SPECIAL if u have it that NIGHT

yes, they are allowed to do anything as far as i know.marriage is marriage traditional or church.as as matter of fact traditional is our culture while church is from the western world. [i][/i]

Sin, true talk! for me, i would settle for traditional marriage. the church wedding is fashion parade, wasted time, money and energy.

Marriage is contracted when the dowry is paid. In a church wedding, before putting the ring, the officaiting priest asks the pride parents if the groom have done for them what he is supposed to do ( paid the pride price, gotten kinsmen consent) if he says no, the wedding stops.
Marriage starts traditionally before church wedding, church wedding is a mere formality and to feel belonged.
You cannot go to church for wedding without satisfying the tradition. Once traditional marriage is done, sex can start legally for me.
Churches insist in wedding to satisfy there doctrine. Churches should help by making advicing there members to make wedding very less costly.