Please I need your sincere contributions. I have been in a six years courtship now and still an undergraduate living in my father's house but have my own privacy and my room is well furnished to a working class taste, but I have a better dream as soon as I secure a good job.

The reason why I need your advice is that my fiancee is pregnant and we're both in school of 400 level and she insist that wont abort the pregnancy for God knows reason and am trying to avoid her from my mother cos if she knows she wil accept it cos am the only one of my dad. Should I run away or what? Because I can't imagine having a baby in my 27.

RUN AWAY!?
man, you were man enough to have unprotected sex with that girl so now be man enough to DO THE RIGHT THING.
sit down and talk to the girl and listen to what she has to say. at the end, if she decides that she wants to keep it then you have to accept your fate and try to make it work the best you guys can . . . . . . . . . . for the child.

probably not what you had in mind for your near future. oh well!

idmoore:

Pls i need your sincered contributions i av been in a six years courtship now and stil an undergraduate living in my father's house but av my own privacy and my room is wel furnished 2 a working class taste, but i av a better dream as soon as i secure a good job, but d reason Y i need your advice is dat my fiancee is pragnant and we 'r both in skool of 400level and she insist that wont abort d pragnancy 4 God knws reason and am tryin avoid her frm my mother cos if she knws she wil acept it cos am d only one of my dad, shd i runaway or wht? cos i cant imgine av baby[b] in my 27[/b].

I suppose that means u are 27? Guy u need to accept this as ur responsibility cos ur choices brought u to this situation. If u run away do u think everything will be come better? U just have to try n make things work. U have the support of ur family cos I doubt they will throw u out becos of this so maintain guy.

Guy is it dat at 27/educated u dnt know dat releasing seed in ur gal wil mk her preg? Condom is just 20 naira. I hv no sympathy 4 u face d consequences and i support ur gal no abortion instead u shd hv done vasectomy. Bloody prick

Guy I no wan reply 'cos the way wey I dey boil now.

Hold on, ma ke I check weather na my sister.

, I don return , Thank God, she no be the one.

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@ 27 you are spilling that?

Why the hell do you want to run away?

You said you're both in 400 level. You will both graduate soon.

Lets face it you really don't like her.

@nazzyon
it is not dat i dont like her, i love her so muh cos it is six years dat we av been courting but Y am bored is dat i always see mysef doin a good job and living large, u knw wht i mean a large comfortable life and i made her see reasons but she insisted.

Her pregnancy will not stop u from achieving ur dreams except if ur dreams did not include her. Still u need to just make the necessary adjustments to the added responsibility. Ur family is comfortable so u shouldn't have too much stress taking care of the baby.

idmoore:

@nazzyon
it is not dat i dont like her, i love her so muh cos it is six years dat we av been courting but Y am bored is dat i always see mysef doin a good job and living  large, u knw wht i mean a large comfortable life and i made her see reasons but she insisted. 

Abortion should be the last option in your mind.

You have to put so many things into consideration.

Think about "What if?"

What if
         after you get all the luxury you seek, then you realise that you made mistake of aborting the child?

,

Abortion though a simple process may cost you darely in future.

@lord_reed and nazzyon
true talk guys, but do u suggest dat i shd do a introductn b4 she puts 2 bed eventhough i dont av d hundreds of thousands 2 do a wedding now, and abt her family they actually all acept me.

Then keep the pregnancy.

I can't believe this, a 27 year old doesn't know what to do coz his girl is pregnant.lol.

Guy you were man enough to dip your stick in there, so the earlier you started accepting your responsibilities like a man, the better for you, your girl and your parents. Abortion for what? See you big mouth!

@ ID

You are old enough to make this decision yourself.

You need to ask her and know what she feels about your future together.

You both have to decide what the way forward will be.

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Since there is pregnancy in your relationship now, there shouldn't be room for jokes or pranks.

Talk to her.

Not all advice given to you in this forum will be applicable to what your life will be like.

You are your own maker.
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For EVERY SINGLE thing that happens in life there's always a reason

This might just be you ONLY chance of having a child in your life time

If this girl end up abborting it due to your pressure just know you have commited MURDER which makes you a freackin MURDERER

You are not ready for marriage but enjoying what 'only' married men should be enjoying.

guy i dey vex with you i swear,

na to dey chop toto anyhow you know
that thot dint occur to you dat yhu not ready to be a fada, wen you were going in raw
wear a hat next time you decide to pull a stunt like that

talknafree:



You are not ready for marriage but enjoying what 'only' married men should be enjoying.

guy i dey vex with you i swear,

Who tell you say na only married men suppose dey enjoy am? No make me vex o!

@nairalander
wel i apreciate u guy 4 ur opinon her mum just calld me not quite long told me wht her daughter (my fiancee) said to her abt my opinon on d pregnancy, she said it has happened and der's nothing i can do abt it, dat we wil al face d situation. But guys to b sincered am feeling heavy and soaked inside me, i feel i am put in d middle of a community been accused of bedwetting cos am not prepared 4 dis,

idmoore:

@nairalander
wel i apreciate u guy 4 your opinon her mum just calld me not quite long told me wht her daughter (my fiancee) said to her abt my opinon on d pregnancy, she said it has happened and der's nothing i can do abt it, dat we wil al face d situation. But guys to b sincered am feeling heavy and soaked inside me, i feel i am put in d middle of a community been accused of bedwetting cos am not prepared 4 dis,

great news. congratulations on bein a 2010 daddy

idmoore:

@nairalander
wel i apreciate u guy 4 your opinon her mum just calld me not quite long told me wht her daughter (my fiancee) said to her abt my opinon on d pregnancy, she said it has happened and der's nothing i can do abt it, dat we wil al face d situation. But guys to b sincered am feeling heavy and soaked inside me, i feel i am put in d middle of a community been accused of bedwetting cos am not prepared 4 dis,  

if u r mature enough to sleep with a woman, you are mature enough to be a father,
smchewwww!!!

Yes you can runaway.

One thing you can't run away from though is your conscience.
You see in life sometimes things come our way that we aren't prepared for.
Man up. That's all i have to say.

ednut1:

Guy is it dat at 27/educated u dnt know dat releasing seed in your gal wil mk her preg? Condom is just 20 naira. I hv no sympathy 4 u face d consequences and i support your gal no abortion instead u shd hv done vasectomy. Bloody prick

gbam

@ post, step back and think about it - she will have to buy diapers, formular milk if she isn't breastfeeding, clothes- which they outgrown VERY often, and that is just the beginning. of course her family is there to support her but, don't forget - they have their own lives. I am STRONGLY against abortion but i hope you make the right choice

There's a price 4 evrything. This is a foolish thin 2 do. U impregnated her, now u wanna run away.

U guys just av 2 talk.

dont know what gift you have, that may be your only future hope. Beside, u're overdue@ 27. wake up boy!

I support your fiancee for not wanting to go through an abortion. You want her to risk her life, just to satisfy your selfish desire for "finer things"? I'm absolutely seething! At the ripe age of 27, you have unprotected s3x, yet seem confuzzled when your semen turns to a foetus, huh? That's what happens, remember your Biology classes?

Let's know when the baby's born, we'll wish you well, Daddy.

Welcome to the real world.

So u tink u re nt old enof 2 b a dad @ 27?didnt u rememba u re livin in ur dad's house wen u were wiring?run away if u want 2 but ur baby'll be waitin 4 u wen u com bak,xcept u r planin 2 neva com bak abandonin ur sch which i tink wil be d wisest decision u'll mak in ur life.ITI DI KA GI.

You're 27??

I have only 3 words of advice for you: Get a life!!

ednut1:

Guy is it dat at 27/educated u dnt know dat releasing seed in your gal wil mk her preg? Condom is just 20 naira. I hv no sympathy 4 u face d consequences and i support your gal no abortion instead u shd hv done vasectomy. Bloody prick

@ poster
so at 27 you are still acting like a boy !!! you are a man alredi so accept your long-due responsibility and have your baby in your daddy's well furnished apartment  rent is sha free so its just baby food u have to deal with

its good she keep d baby. i love babies

@poster, probably u've been singing have a baby by me, baby be a millionaire. There's no advice I can give you, cos wat u wanna hear is make sure she aborts it, dump her, but know wat I wanna tell u is accept your responsibility as a man, u're 27, not 17. You said u're the only one of your father, and ur mum would be glad to recieve the baby, so wats the stress, u're both in 400level, u'll soon be out,and within 3 years u'll be stable, and since as u said ur mum will understand, count urself lucky. At 27, people already have 3children so guy chillax. Nairalanders, give it up for the new dad in town. Congratulobia

papa giddy:

its good she keep d baby. i love babies

LMAO everybody does, but this is a critical situation my dear so pls keep your sense of humor to
yourself.


@poster, As long as she knows that whatever she decides to do, you will stand by her
and that you love her and just want whats best for her, then that is all you can do. It is a horrible situation
to be in, especially for the man because even though this baby is 50% you, the final decision to keep the child
or abort the child is ultimately hers. and I can see she have chosen to keep it, so what can you do? support
her.

@POSTER
U ARE A LOSER, 27 YEARS?OLOSHI

Are you really 27? Gosh!