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Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Funky123(f): 1:05pm On Jul 11, 2017
Have heard some parents saying if she is not 25 yrs and above marriage is a no for her,but some said they can release their daughter anytime she feels like getting married
My question is Will u release ur daughter to get married in her final yr in sch. Nb her husband to be is a working class and is ready for marriage
Or can u allow ur daughter to get married in her early twenties
Pls matured comments only
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by thesicilian: 1:09pm On Jul 11, 2017
The question is, will you (be able to) prevent her from getting married when she is ready to?

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Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Funky123(f): 1:15pm On Jul 11, 2017
thesicilian:
The question is, will you (be able to) prevent her from getting married when she is ready to?
I just want to know people's opinion abt this...i know some people we are of d same age{early twenties}and they re married but it seems my dad is not cool with this,so i just want to know if its bad to get married in my early twenties cos i don't want to loose my man who will be ready any moment from now
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by AndrewDex(m): 1:37pm On Jul 11, 2017
Op. How old are you?
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Funky123(f): 1:44pm On Jul 11, 2017
AndrewDex:
Op. How old are you?
Must you know dat before commenting on this thread
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by AndrewDex(m): 1:48pm On Jul 11, 2017
Funky123:
Must you know dat before commenting on this thread



your thread sounds childish.

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Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Funky123(f): 1:56pm On Jul 11, 2017
AndrewDex:


your thread sounds childish.
Really,how
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Funky123(f): 1:57pm On Jul 11, 2017
AndrewDex:


your thread sounds childish.
Really,how
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Agbaletu: 1:58pm On Jul 11, 2017
Once my daughter is above 18 she is free to do whatever she likes let alone when she is in her early twenties.

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Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by AndrewDex(m): 2:08pm On Jul 11, 2017
Funky123:
Really,how

so you wan tell me na say u no know d answer to that ur question?
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by EfemenaXY: 2:14pm On Jul 11, 2017
Funky123:

I just want to know people's opinion abt this...i know some people we are of d same age{early twenties}and they re married but it seems my dad is not cool with this,so i just want to know if its bad to get married in my early twenties cos i don't want to loose my man who will be ready any moment from now

There's nothing wrong with getting married in your early twenties. A lot of us did back in the day.

Your dad isn't cool with your decision (and rightly so) because he'd rather you concentrate on your studies, finish up and graduate. You're already in your final year anyway - not long to go - so why the rush?

Re: losing your man - no dear, you wouldn't. Not if he has your best interests at heart.

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Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Funky123(f): 2:20pm On Jul 11, 2017
EfemenaXY:


There's nothing wrong with getting married in your early twenties. A lot of us did back in the day.

Your dad isn't cool with your decision (and rightly so) because he'd rather you concentrate on your studies, finish up and graduate. You're already in your final year anyway - not long to go - so why the rush?

Re: losing your man - no dear, you wouldn't. Not if he has your best interests at heart.
Thanks ma
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by joyAA(f): 5:32pm On Jul 11, 2017
Early twenties yes, maturity is not by age.

Final year? Well , if she insists after all she is an adult, but I'd prefer she got married at least after school smiley

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Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Funky123(f): 8:04pm On Jul 11, 2017
joyAA:
Early twenties yes, maturity is not by age.

Final year? Well , if she insists after all she is an adult, but I'd prefer she got married at least after school smiley
Thanks
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by KanwuliaExtra: 10:35pm On Jul 11, 2017
Oh yes o!
Better to become an ashawo AFTER HAVING YOUR CHILDREN.

No need allowing yahoo-yahoo animals to mess up your body with numerous dating sprees. kiss

Get married right in the UNIVERSITY and use 10 years to have all your children.

No need for unserious loafers! kiss

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Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by cococandy(f): 11:17pm On Jul 11, 2017
I got married in my early twenties. Nothing wrong there. I'll give my daughter my blessings too if she
wants the same for herself.

As long as you're mature enough to handle marriage it shouldn't matter.

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Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Funky123(f): 9:11am On Jul 12, 2017
cococandy:
I got married in my early twenties. Nothing wrong there. I'll give my daughter my blessings too if she
wants the same for herself.

As long as you're mature enough to handle marriage it shouldn't matter.
Thanks ma'am
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Nobody: 9:58am On Jul 12, 2017
Funky123:

I just want to know people's opinion abt this...i know some people we are of d same age{early twenties}and they re married but it seems my dad is not cool with this, so i just want to know if its bad to get married in my early twenties cos i don't want to loose my man who will be ready any moment from now
If you must know if you're ready for marriage or not more especially when you're still under your parent's watch, ask them. They're the only people who'd tell you whether you're matured enough for the task ahead or not without adding sentiments to it.

I think your father thinks you're not ready for it. Simply ask him his reasons, that's if the both of you have a father and daughter relationship, and you'll be shocked that he knows you more than you know yourself.

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Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Funky123(f): 10:09am On Jul 12, 2017
Benita27:
If you must know if you're ready for marriage or not more especially when you're still under your parent's watch, ask them. They're the only people who'd tell you whether you're matured enough for the task ahead or not without adding sentiments to it.

I think your father thinks you're not ready for it. Simply ask him his reasons, that's if the both of you have a father and daughter relationship, and you'll be shocked that he knows you more than you know yourself.
Alrite,thanks
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Rukkydelta(f): 1:01pm On Jul 12, 2017
If she is up to 21 and I'm sure she is matured for marriage then it's a yes
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by obontami: 4:41pm On Jul 12, 2017
If your daughter can perform different types of sex positions like doggy, spoon, cow girl, reverse cowgirl, touch-your-toe and so on... I think she's good to go.

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Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Water101(f): 10:54am On Jul 13, 2017
Some parent can be a pain in d ass sha!so early 20s is not ready for marriage but can go ahead and engage in pre-marital sex provided she no carry belle cm huse.dat ur fada slf...his he a bornagain?education shud nt be an hindrance to any thing,hv seen people get marri while in school hv children slf and life goes on.are u burning with passion 4 sex? Abeg'marry'. Abi till u clock 30 or late 20 nah him he want mk u marry.....
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Chubhie: 11:25am On Jul 13, 2017
That depends on how tough she's mentally.
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by kunleweb: 4:46pm On Jan 17, 2019
Funky123:
Have heard some parents saying if she is not 25 yrs and above marriage is a no for her,but some said they can release their daughter anytime she feels like getting married
My question is Will u release ur daughter to get married in her final yr in sch. Nb her husband to be is a working class and is ready for marriage
Or can u allow ur daughter to get married in her early twenties
Pls matured comments only


Ladies tend to be cool.from 25.

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Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by ZIMDRILL(m): 10:09pm On Jan 17, 2019
Funky123:
Have heard some parents saying if she is not 25 yrs and above marriage is a no for her,but some said they can release their daughter anytime she feels like getting married
My question is Will u release ur daughter to get married in her final yr in sch. Nb her husband to be is a working class and is ready for marriage
Or can u allow ur daughter to get married in her early twenties
Pls matured comments only


experience is the best teacher, am 42 got married at around 27 and when i look back now, i see that i was still young for marriage. the best thing is never to come out blue to tell a daughter that she cant get married at certain age and below but you teach them as they grow and show them the advantages of getting married at very mature age,

i was 27 i wasnt ready mentally and financially, all i was, was being in love and that i took it as being ready for marriage but its not(african wise 27 is the right age but its the number ) mentally and financially we are not.

if you want to tell your daughter not marry early teach her to be independent and show
her examples of those married early and are struggling due to rushing, there was a thread here talking about getting married and within a year a child is born

as couple your barely know each other and child is born, there come trouble inmaturity,a
child to look after and culture wanting you behave like a 35 yr old woman/man who has matured through mistakes etc its not easy

i would love my daughter to get married at 30

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Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Funky123(f): 5:13pm On Jan 18, 2019
ZIMDRILL:



experience is the best teacher, am 42 got married at around 27 and when i look back now, i see that i was still young for marriage. the best thing is never to come out blue to tell a daughter that she cant get married at certain age and below but you teach them as they grow and show them the advantages of getting married at very mature age,

i was 27 i wasnt ready mentally and financially, all i was, was being in love and that i took it as being ready for marriage but its not(african wise 27 is the right age but its the number ) mentally and financially we are not.

if you want to tell your daughter not marry early teach her to be independent and saw
her examples of those married early and are struggling due to rushing, there was a thread here talking about getting married and within a year a child is born

as couple your barely know each other and child is born, there come trouble inmaturity,a
child to look after and culture wanting you behave like a 35 yr old woman/man who has matured through mistakes etc its not easy

i would love my daughter to get married at 30


Woah.....30years,well I have come to realize age is just a number and what matters is maturity....Thanks for your input sir.
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Nobody: 5:21pm On Jan 18, 2019
Why not? Age doesn't show maturity.

If she's matured and the guy too is matured I'll allow the man make a honest woman out of her instead of giving them both an excuse to fornicate.
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by bukatyne(f): 6:33pm On Jan 18, 2019
5thElement:
Why not? Age doesn't show maturity.

If she's matured and the guy too is matured I'll allow the man make a honest woman out of her instead of giving them both an excuse to fornicate.

What does the term 'make an honest woman of her mean'?
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Fhemmmy: 7:22pm On Jan 18, 2019
Let's break this down and reason together
Let's assume the education system of Nigeria works well and unemployment is not as high as it is . . . . With this in mind, lets reason together:

A boy or a girl should already be in the high institution at the age of 17 or 18
Most of the courses or programs are 4 years
They serve the nation via NYSC for one year

All these means the student should graduate and done serving the nation via NYSC by age of 22/23

Now he or she gets a job and start life, work for couple of years to save some money and then start to talk of marriage

With these is mind, is it possible to be married in early 20s? if the couple are able to manage it, why now but why being in a hurry if they are not able to

In a nation where strikes makes a 4 years program become 8 years and a graduate has to be begging to get a job that will pay him or her just 20K per month, how will such plan or talk of marriage?

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Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Nobody: 8:45pm On Jan 18, 2019
bukatyne:


What does the term 'make an honest woman of her mean'?

Marry her instead of sneaking into her panties like a thief in the night.

Put a ring on it and make it all legal.
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by bukatyne(f): 9:16pm On Jan 18, 2019
5thElement:


Marry her instead of sneaking into her panties like a thief in the night.

Put a ring on it and make it all legal.

Interesting.

You believe it's OK for the man to sleep around.
Re: Can You Allow Your Daughter To Get Married In Her Early Twenties by Nobody: 10:01pm On Jan 18, 2019
bukatyne:


Interesting.

You believe it's OK for the man to sleep around.

I can see that you don't understand what I wrote up there.

I wrote exactly the opposite of what you just typed.

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