I am going to be elaborate on this thread, so if you're allergic to long posts I advise you take a walk. Or better still, read with an open mind and correct me where I am wrong.

Several times I've seen and heard ladies talk about how men "use and dump" them after "getting what they want". Many of them complain that men are unfaithful, men are wicked, men are dogs, men are cheats, men are the same etc.


It's either the men left them after sleeping with them or the men left because they refused to sleep with them. The ones that had sex are complaining that they were left, so also the ones that didn't have sex.

Now I want to address this issue once and for all.
The problem here is that many (not all) of our ladies have just one thing to offer a man: Sex.
To these ladies, once they can satisfy a man sexually, they have done enough. Infact the man should be grateful to have a hot sexy woman who satisfies him sexually.
This is the reason why most ladies go to lengths to take care of their bodies in order to look good and presentable but never develop their minds.

Ladies, a man cannot stay with you just because you give him sex. If you don't have something extra to offer a man apart from sex, then forget it you can't keep a man.
Let's look at it this way. The longest sex lasts about 30 minutes to 1 hour. The man releases and it ends. There are 24hrs in a day, what do u have to offer in those remaining 23hrs? Or is he gonna have sex throughout the day all his life?

You need to develop yourself if you want to be able to keep a relationship. Personally I can't be in a relationship with a woman who only has sex to offer.
As a lady are you sound mentally? Can you initiate or sustain an intellectual discussion or interaction? Can you represent a man outside the home? Can you offer a useful advice to a man? Can you support a man spiritually? Can you keep a home neat and tidy? Can you take care of a man? Can you boost a man's ego and confidence? Can you offer a man a useful advice that can change his life. Do you even respect a man or you're the type that thinks every man should worship you because you're beautiful?

Listen ladies, no man in his right senses can leave a woman who has something upstairs. Men like women who are confident, intelligent, goal oriented, smart, hardworking and independent.

Sex is not everything it's just a spice, an icing on the cake of the relationship. If that is all you have then you're not qualified for a relationship yet. A man can get sex so easily these days. Even in my street there's a place where you can get it for just 500 naira and the girls are hot.

Develop yourself ladies. Read books, watch good programs on TV, not Telemundo and Africa Magic. Take a course, travel, go for trainings. Most ladies aren't just interested in self development, they don't have any direction in life. Some don't even know what is happening in their street talkless of the country or international.

When they tune the TV to news they run away. They will never pick up a newspaper or magazine to read unless it's about makeup and fashion. Some are so materialistic, all they know is the latest stuffs in the market. Some don't know the name of their state governor and they don't care.
The average Nigerian lady is so ignorant and carefree cos she feels men will always come.
How do you want a man to keep a lady who's so ignorant.

Ladies you need to build yourself. Build yourself mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally and financially. Build yourself up so much that a man will be afraid to loose you. Be a beauty and brains.

No man wants a liability these days. Sex is everywhere and very cheap. But virtuous women are so scarce. All I see these days are overly makeup freaks and Kim Kardashian wannabes.
Build yourself for yourself, not even a man. I recommend every lady should read this book: Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady.

Y'all need to think like men. Men think independence, they are always on the lookout for ideas, opportunities, something to learn. Men are very inquisitive, if something is happening they want to know what it is and why it's happening and how to stop or increase it. That's why they end up successful most times.
You need to keep yourself busy doing something productive. Not slaying on facebook and instagram.

Build your internal being, that is the only time you can get to keep a man. Am talking about quality men, not boys. Boys want sex, men want companionship.
I hope I made sense.

LaurelP:

I am going to be elaborate on this thread, so if you're allergic to long posts I advise you take a walk. Or better still, read with an open mind and correct me where I am wrong.

Several times I've seen and heard ladies talk about how men "use and dump" them after "getting what they want". Many of them complain that men are unfaithful, men are wicked, men are dogs, men are cheats, men are the same etc.


It's either the men left them after sleeping with them or the men left because they refused to sleep with them. The ones that had sex are complaining that they were left, so also the ones that didn't have sex.

Now I want to address this issue once and for all.
The problem here is that many (not all) of our ladies have just one thing to offer a man: Sex.
To these ladies, once they can satisfy a man sexually, they have done enough. Infact the man should be grateful to have a hot sexy woman who satisfies him sexually.
This is the reason why most ladies go to lengths to take care of their bodies in order to look good and presentable but never develop their minds.

Ladies, a man cannot stay with you just because you give him sex. If you don't have something extra to offer a man apart from sex, then forget it you can't keep a man.
Let's look at it this way. The longest sex lasts about 30 minutes to 1 hour. The man releases and it ends. There are 24hrs in a day, what do u have to offer in those remaining 23hrs? Or is he gonna have sex throughout the day all his life?

You need to develop yourself if you want to be able to keep a relationship. Personally I can't be in a relationship with a woman who only has sex to offer.
As a lady are you sound mentally? Can you initiate or sustain an intellectual discussion or interaction? Can you represent a man outside the home? Can you offer a useful advice to a man? Can you support a man spiritually? Can you keep a home neat and tidy? Can you take care of a man? Can you boost a man's ego and confidence? Can you offer a man a useful advice that can change his life. Do you even respect a man or you're the type that thinks every man should worship you because you're beautiful?

Listen ladies, no man in his right senses can leave a woman who has something upstairs. Men like women who are confident, intelligent, goal oriented, smart, hardworking and independent.

Sex is not everything it's just a spice, an icing on the cake of the relationship. If that is all you have then you're not qualified for a relationship yet. A man can get sex so easily these days. Even in my street there's a place where you can get it for just 500 naira and the girls are hot.

Develop yourself ladies. Read books, watch good programs on TV, not Telemundo and Africa Magic. Take a course, travel, go for trainings. Most ladies aren't just interested in self development, they don't have any direction in life. Some don't even know what is happening in their street talkless of the country or international.

When they tune the TV to news they run away. They will never pick up a newspaper or magazine to read unless it's about makeup and fashion. Some are so materialistic, all they know is the latest stuffs in the market. Some don't know the name of their state governor and they don't care.
The average Nigerian lady is so ignorant and carefree cos she feels men will always come.
How do you want a man to keep a lady who's so ignorant.

Ladies you need to build yourself. Build yourself mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally and financially. Build yourself up so much that a man will be afraid to loose you. Be a beauty and brains.

No man wants a liability these days. Sex is everywhere and very cheap. But virtuous women are so scarce. All I see these days are overly makeup freaks and Kim Kardashian wannabes.
Build yourself for yourself, not even a man. I recommend every lady should read this book: Think Like A Man, Act Like A Lady.

Y'all need to think like men. Men think independence, they are always on the lookout for ideas, opportunities, something to learn. Men are very inquisitive, if something is happening they want to know what it is and why it's happening and how to stop or increase it. That's why they end up successful most times.
You need to keep yourself busy doing something productive. Not slaying on facebook and instagram.

Build your internal being, that is the only time you can get to keep a man. Am talking about quality men, not boys. Boys want sex, men want companionship.
I hope I made sense.

They are coming for u , no worry
Cool tho, got some points which is true

FemiEddy:

They are coming for u , no worry
Cool tho, got some points which is true

Abeg what did she say can't read that

You made lots of sense...and lots of generalisations. Men have 'dumped' good women in the past,they'll still keep dumping them.

People go into relationships for the wrong reasons. Male and female alike. When they gain nothing from that relationship,it's normal they feel dumped at the end of it. Partners that developed each other in more ways than one rarely cry or antagonise each other after break-up.

The one that didn't have sex cry less. It's the guy that does the crying in those cases . So, the sex is actually important to lots of men and any man that stays with a shallow woman because of just SEX is stupid. The only exception is if he clearly stated he is there for the SEX.

I don't see a man of noble class saying that a virtuous woman has nothing to offer him other than sex. But of course I sure understand what happens when a small-minded man is in a relationship with a small-minded woman.

It's insanity for one to long for what he doesn't have without an option for barter, or that which he has but can't give, or not be pleased to receive in equal measures that which he gives. Hypocrisy is evil.

Responsibleness can never be absent in nobility and virtuousness.

Nice Piece bruv.

Going by this your thread.
A lady can also date a guy just because of money, he helps with her bills and all. After years,she wakes up and reminds him, there is more to being a man than just money. So...she dumps him as a virtuous woman that she is and goes in search of a REAL MAN...

I hope guys can also say nice piece when tables turn and go develop themselves

Men would always keep coming for d pussy n many women would always v nufin else 2offer buh dia Hole,dix circle has been ongoing for generations,so no amount of lectures can change dix circle.. D sh!t has just come to stay....

They're always complaining. Why can't they just move the F on?

Op u can only speak for yourself.

Majority of Nigerian men don't think like you do about their other needs in women.

All they worry about and have sleepless nights on, is how to hit that pussyy.

And hang onto that pussyy with distinct feel and taste, coupled with the shape.. Then perhaps if she's financially OK, or her father is dangote? then wow! That's a real icing on the cake.

It's all about sexx and money.

read the whole thing and first thing I did, checked your profile...

what do you know bout women now?
You said your part, as a man
I'd like to read one from a girl