Life can be stressful for many, if you are reading this, chances are you are or you know someone who is. Stress can come in so many ways, but it's footprint is always evident, a result of pressure and anxiety. Is it possible to live a stress-free life? How can it be done? These question and more will all be answered in this post.

I've been in severe stressful conditions that left me depressed for a long period of time. Today am not, not because the conditions changed, or a miracle happened. But because it wasn't doing me any good, I figured out, and developed a system that worked for me, I call this the Covert Way. Today am going to share the same method with you. You will learn how to be calm, confident and solution oriented in the face of pressure. How to work yourself out of any tight corner. Could be debt, disappointment, betrayal, lack of any kind, emotional trauma etc. But I must warn that this is gonna be a big post, but if you take your time and go through it, I promise it will do you alot of good. Let's get started.


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Accepting The Reality.

Things may not be looking good, there is no need denying or wishing it away, it’s not a weakness to accept the fact that things have gone awry, it’s a call to duty. Accepting the reality does one thing to you, confirms in your psyche that you are responsible.

And truly, you are responsible, not actually for what happened, but for how you react to it and go about remedying it.

The What’s Dead Approach.

“What’s dead may never die” this is a phrase from the TV series, game of thrones, you can apply the logic to your circumstance and see a new relief come from it. Ask yourself this question, if you drop dead now, what will happen to all the problems that are actually trying to kill you. Your guess is as good as mine, they will solve themselves, life goes on for others. So why not assume you are dead and just resurrected. Take up the second part of the phrase, “But rises again, harder and stronger”. This is not a new strategy, many religion incorporate this. Talk of when you are baptized as a Christian, it symbolizes that you are dead in Christ and rises a new creature. So now apply it to your circumstance. Close your eyes and say this: “I am dead to stress and pressures of this world, I rise again stronger and stress free”.

Assume the person who was under pressure was someone else, a new person just entered your body, give yourself a new name, yes the pressures are still there, but it’s not yours, you are just a cleaner who entered this body to sort things out.

How do you feel, it’s time to get to work. Remember, “what’s dead may never die”.

Taking The Lead

At this point, I will like to invent a character for easy understanding. Let’s call him Kelvin, Kelvin just recently lost his job, his savings almost depleted, his house rent expires by the month end, exactly 30 days, he has to pay his fees for his masters degree program which is important to him or forfeit his admission within the next 30 days, his girlfriend is threatening breakup if he doesn’t see her parents before the year runs out. His siblings are calling for help financially too. Now let’s assume you are Kelvin.

Applying the principles of the Covert Way, you have to accept that these are challenges that require urgent attention, there is no doubt these will mount pressure and stress him out. This is his reality. But let’s assume he dies today, all these problems will solve themselves, so he takes the dead oath: “I am dead to stress and pressures of this world, I rise again stronger and stress free”. He opens his eyes to a new being and calls him, Hector. Hector smiles at his new body, looks around and then picks a sheet of paper and writes out Kelvins problems, he’s just a cleaner, kelvin to him is dead, but if he must use his body, he has to sort out his mess.

Now he lists them out against what it will take to solve them. I call this list – T-List, T stands for trouble.

House Rent – N150,000

School Fees – N120,000

Girlfriend – N100,000

Family – N150,000

Feeding – N45,000

Total – N465,000

Duration – 30 Days

He must raise N465,000 in 30 days, or what? Kelvin is dead, his stress shouldn’t be transferred. So Hector will plan and sort out the list based on priority in a fun and adventure mood.

Planning The Way Out

Planning and executing plans is the best way to get out of stressful situations, that’s if the plan is not a stress map on itself. Covert Way shows you exactly how to create plans that are stress free and achieves the purpose.

The first strategy will be to access your strength, what do you have, what can you throw in, what can you start with, while doing this, note your weakness too. example, you can freelance online but you find it hard sitting at a place for long. Get a sheet of paper and list them out, and next to your strength write any weakness that’s attached. I call this the R-List, Resource List.

The next thing is to look at your T-list and rearrange it based on priority. The most important ones at the top and the least important ones below.
Draw The Tree

In the Covert Way, the tree is a virtual map that shows your strategy to solving the problem. Look at one below.

From the tree above, there are three solutions to any T-List, The impulse solutions are for impulse needs, Food, Shelter Clothing, are impulse needs, and the solution should come as impulse, assuming you are stranded alone in an island, what will you do to solve your impulse need, you will likely turn to a fisherman or hunter, you will turn to a builder or resort to cave living, you will make cloths from animal hide or leaves or any suitable material. That’s impulse solution for impulse needs. Now think of it in the modern world. Let get back to hector and see how he solves his impulse need.

First hector realizes that based on current reality, he can’t afford the cost of rent and have to move to an affordable location and that starts with selling off unwanted properties and searching for alternative accommodation. A room will cost N60,000 and that he can’t still afford, how about getting a free or shared accommodation. Where can he get a free accommodation. Are there places he can work for certain hours of the day or night for free accommodation, he goes to the internet and searches, “work for accommodation”. He finds some results but they are mostly not local. How about he list his request on a job directory. “I will work for 2 hours a day or 6 hours at night for free accommodation in Port Harcourt”. While doing that, he also searches for security jobs, or janitorial jobs that may offer such, he sends messages to religious and voluntary organizations for any vacancy of such.

Assuming he gets a place to lay his head in exchange of 2 hours of work per day, he can utilize the next 4 hours to sort out his feeding. He can become a bar tender for four hours in exchange for food. He can also pick up any menial job for four hours to see to this too.

Remember that kelvin is dead, if his prestige never saved him, it’s not important now. Notwithstanding there is dignity in labor, that you are doing a menial job today doesn’t mean you have a low self esteem or that you can’t rise beyond that, with purpose and rigid plan, this is just a phase that will soon come to an end. Meanwhile you can enjoy the lessons this new level of life teaches while rising beyond it’s limitation with the mindset that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.