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The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by Nobody: 2:23pm On Oct 04, 2017
Favoritism is quite likely what some people faced or they are still facing it in life on a daily basis and in the family setting it is seen to cause a bit of rivalry among the children as one child can feel left out or unloved by one or both parent(s)

So I want to ask "As a child did you ever feel unloved by any of your parent(s)?" How did you cope with it?
and as a parent "Is it right to treat one child better or more fairly than you treat the others and why?"
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Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by anoda(m): 4:56pm On Oct 04, 2017
Everyone should be treated equally.
Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by Eyimofe2017: 5:15pm On Oct 04, 2017
Its hard to love two people equally. more like a 49/51 thing..
but parents should learn how to make it less obvious...growing up, my younger sis was the golden egg,had everything, no punishments, the book worm, so its natural my parents liked her..
she got gifts on her birthdays cos she was always coming out in flying colours
Twas tough then but I knew you can't love two people equally, really took time to realise they loved me just that they were not too happy about some of the traits I was exhibiting then.. When I took my studies serious, stopped rebelling, then I knew they loved me
Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by Nobody: 6:30pm On Oct 04, 2017
anoda:
Everyone should be treated equally.
but not everyone gets treated equally in the family ... no matter the similarities there is always a more preferred child

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Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by Nobody: 7:57pm On Oct 04, 2017
The love they have for last borns.

Z that also favouritism?
Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by mrphysics(m): 8:00pm On Oct 04, 2017
In most cases, men are treated better. I hate it when I am given such treatment simply because I am a man.

It's just culture and should not be so
Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by Nobody: 8:07pm On Oct 04, 2017
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Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by Nobody: 8:13pm On Oct 04, 2017
L3G3ND:
Favoritism is quite likely what some people faced or they are still facing it in life on a daily basis and in the family setting it is seen to cause a bit of rivalry among the children as one child can feel left out or unloved by one or both parent(s)

So I want to ask "As a child did you ever feel unloved by any of your parent(s)?" How did you cope with it?
and as a parent "Is it right to treat one child better or more fairly than you treat the others and why?"
.....

My last born is prob my moms fav as she stresses herself more on him, well can't say my woman was a banker so she left pretty much early and came very late, so we never spent that much time , obviously we didn't have help so had to do some stuff so wasn't much room to think about whether I was loved or not.
Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by Nobody: 8:17pm On Oct 04, 2017
julietkcee:
The love they have for last borns.

Z that also favouritism?
it depends on how much of the love the shower on the last born when compared to other children, does he/she get away with every error? does he het every and anything he /she asks for?
Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by Nobody: 8:19pm On Oct 04, 2017
mrphysics:
In most cases, men are treated better. I hate it when I am given such treatment simply because I am a man.

It's just culture and should not be so
well I know of some families where the ladies are dotted on by their parents especially the fathers
Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by mrphysics(m): 8:20pm On Oct 04, 2017
L3G3ND:

well I know of some families where the ladies are dotted on by their parents especially the fathers
Not when they have reached 25 years and above
Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by Nobody: 8:24pm On Oct 04, 2017
mrphysics:

Not when they have reached 25 years and above
talk of marriage?

at 25 a guy is expected to at least have a source of income even though his parents can tip in frm time to time and in the events of that not happening there is a change in the way he's seen around the home
Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by Nobody: 8:29pm On Oct 04, 2017
L3G3ND:

it depends on how much of the love the shower on the last born when compared to other children, does he/she get away with every error? does he het every and anything he /she asks for?

Nope
Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by mrphysics(m): 8:37pm On Oct 04, 2017
L3G3ND:

talk of marriage?

at 25 a guy is expected to at least have a source of income even though his parents can tip in frm time to time and in the events of that not happening there is a change in the way he's seen around the home
True but they still know he is part of the house. Nnamdi Kanu at age 50 is still leaving with his parents. It's a clear example. Ladies receive preferential treatment at a tender age, but when time advances, men takes over
Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by Nobody: 9:21pm On Oct 04, 2017
mrphysics:

True but they still know he is part of the house. Nnamdi Kanu at age 50 is still leaving with his parents. It's a clear example. Ladies receive preferential treatment at a tender age, but when time advances, men takes over
well then different strokes for different folks
Re: The Issue Of Favoritism In The Family by mrphysics(m): 9:27pm On Oct 04, 2017
L3G3ND:
well then different strokes for different folks
Good you know

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