This is not to bash Nigerian Men at all. This is just an observation and I have every right to my opinion. I'm also not generalizing, talking about the majority.

Now I've observed something about most Nigerian men that I don't seem to understand. It baffles me and it's very distasteful. I've honestly come to the conclusion that you guys indirectly know what you want but cover it with deceit. I know every effing person has heard this phrase ' All Nigerian women bring to the table is pussy and nothing else, they're useless', but indirectly that's exactly what they want.

You see, a lot of Nigerian men have inflated fragile egos. They run after things that stroke their manhood, which is fine. The problem is that most of them are in denial. When a woman has nothing to offer but her pussy, she's dependent on you in every other aspect, especially financially. And as we all know most men find security and confidence in their pocket size. So when a woman depends on a man for her finances, it's almost like she's stroking his ego and confidence at the same time. He likes that superior/ dominant feeling. It's what most Nigerian men crave for. That financial dominance is a safety ego ground that they can always run back to.

On the other hand, when a woman is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself, what do Nigerian men do? Run the opposite direction. Why? Intimidation. Insecurity. Fear of feeling inferior. Calling her all sorts of names. A woman who is independent will not NEED to beg you for money or ask you for anything. So in that case, they're not feeling as ' manly' as they would like. It burns them internally. Jealousy, envy and lies will begin to fall into the picture. If you don't agree with that you're on a long thing.

So Nigerian men, stop being in denial. If you want a woman who only offers her pussy and frequent emotional availability here and there, just be honest with yourself. A financially independent woman is not for the emotionally weak minded. Indirectly, most of you want a woman who is financially dependent on you. You want that financial dominance, that superiority. My problem is that when she's offering that pussy to you, don't complain. Accept it like a ' man' and take on the financial responsibility. If not, change your class of women. Financially independent women should not intimidate you or scare you away. Go for the women who will compete with you in finances. The ball is in your hands, take responsibility for your damn actions, and stop acting confused all the time.

Dassal.

okay.......the problem really is women cannot handle being superior maturely.......

just pay attention to when a woman is a leader in any place, they tend to be very unreasonable and very sentimental to some very minor issues. they cant withstand real pressure and they can never look the other way when intimidated/bully when they are in control.

in summary women dont have locus of control when she is superior

Op you sound like you fall into the "financially dependant women" group.

whatever

ERORR404:
Op you sound like you fall into the "financially dependant women" group.

If you don't have anything reasonable to say..don't comment on my thread. Noooonsensseee.

kazyhm:
okay.......the problem really is women cannot handle being superior maturely.......

just pay attention to when a woman is a leader in any place, they tend to be very unreasonable and very sentimental to some very minor issues. they cant withstand real pressure and they can never look the other way when intimidated/bully when they are in control.

in summary women dont have locus of control when she is superior

Not all women though but I see your point and can relate with it. Besides most financially independent women mostly marry up not down anyway.

You nailed it, you must be a carpenter.

Such a beautiful thread, I love rich females. bring your money so we can offset the bills whenever I wanna hang out mynd44 what's your opinion on this debate??

Thank you! For this expose.

This is all i have being trying to say and have being wanting to pen for long time in this forum.

This has been my experience with most Nigerian men even the ones that live Outside Africa/Nigeria.


Its the reason most of nigerian men will prefer ugly fat usually white foreigners who cater to their fragile and misplaced ego than marry a well educated good looking (Black)woman who is fierecely her own person. .

When you demand or challenge them to be better, they call you “difficult” or something similar.


Collectively, Nigerian men have misplaced ego/pride/stubborness because that same pride cannot be put to good use to better Nigeria as a country. . What it is really is low self esteem or self hatred in disguise.

Its a generational curse and stronghold that needs to be broken.

And yes! This write up extends to what i ahve observed in this forum too.

Very well said.

PS watch out tho, they are coming to burn you at stake.

Safiaaa:
This is not to bash Nigerian Men at all. This is just an observation and I have every right to my opinion. I'm also not generalizing, talking about the majority.

Now I've observed something about most Nigerian men that I don't seem to understand. It baffles me and it's very distasteful. I've honestly come to the conclusion that you guys indirectly know what you want but cover it with deceit. I know every effing person has heard this phrase ' All Nigerian women bring to the table is pussy and nothing else, they're useless', but indirectly that's exactly what they want.

You see, a lot of Nigerian men have inflated fragile egos. They run after things that stroke their manhood, which is fine. The problem is that most of them are in denial. When a woman has nothing to offer but her pussy, she's dependent on you in every other aspect, especially financially. And as we all know most men find security and confidence in their pocket size. So when a woman depends on a man for her finances, it's almost like she's stroking his ego and confidence at the same time. He likes that superior/ dominant feeling. It's what most Nigerian men crave for. That financial dominance is a safety ego ground that they can always run back to.

On the other hand, when a women is financially independent got her life together and doing well for herself, what do Nigerian men do? Run the opposite direction. Why? Intimidation. Insecurity. Fear of feeling inferior. Calling her all sorts of names. A women who is independent will not NEED to beg you for money or ask you for anything. So in that case, they're not feeling as ' manly' as they would like. It burns them internally. Jealousy, envy and lies will begin to fall into the picture. If you don't agree with that you're on a long tin

So Nigerian men, stop being in denial. If you want a women who only offers her pussy and frequent emotional availability here and there, just be honest with yourself. A financially independent women is not for the emotionally weak minded. Indirectly, most of you want a woman who is financially dependent on you. You want that financial dominance, that superiority. My problem is that when she's offering that pussy to you, don't complain. Accept it like a ' man' and take on the financial responsibility. If not, change your class of women. Financially independent women should not intimidate you or scare you away. Go for the women who will compete with you in finances. The ball is in your hands, take responsibility for your damn actions, and stop acting confused all the time.

Dassal.

My dear, it's not today. We already know, but thanks for reminding them.

Safia may God bless you and grant your heart desires.

I'm still coming back to modify.

richythePH:
Aunty i'm certain you must have been observing a very minutescule set of nigerian men albiet the wrong ones too


an average nigerian man is more attracted to a financially independent woman than he is to a financially dependent woman


majority of these financially dependent ladies mostly end up being side chics

That is not true my sister, they love being dominant and most of them love dependent lady, they derive joy from being the one to give, imagine a guy told a lady he is dating that he will be paying her school fees and caring for her school needs, its his responsibility even though the lady doesn't want him to,

now when this guy does that, he is indirectly massaging his ego and he feels he is dominant and in control.

A guy once told me he is not into working class ladies, that they are too full of themselves; they are arrogant, not submissive etc. Lmfao.

richythePH:
Aunty i'm certain you must have been observing a very minutescule set of nigerian men albiet the wrong ones too


an average nigerian man is more attracted to a financially independent woman than he is to a financially dependent woman


majority of these financially dependent ladies mostly end up being side chics

Really? Please tell me more, I'm interested.

pcguru1:


Not all women though but I see your point and can relate with it. Besides most financially independent women mostly marry up not down anyway.

i wont allow myself to be led by a woman irrespective whether rich/brilliant or have a career.........women tends to be emotionally attached to some silly stuffs and pay attention to trivial frivolity... they exercise power unnecessarily and always want show off indefinitely

That's how it will always be.go and read "the act of seduction" by Robert Greene

Purebeerry:
That is not true my sister, they love being dominant and most of them love dependent lady, they derive joy from being the one to give, imagine a guy told a lady he is dating that he will be paying her school fees and caring for her school needs, its his responsibility even though the lady doesn't want him to,

now when this guy does that, he is indirectly massaging his ego and he feels he is dominant and in control.

who be ur sister .....aunty na man i be o.................i have a pen1s, a pen1s cap and two balls o

and nah....you getting it wrong


we men love submissive ladies who can easily sucuumb to our headship but that doesnt mean we like financially dependent ladies for keeps


that why i said earlier that they mostly end up being side chics cos like u said they're obviously very submissive

fire on baebi

How did you reach your conclusion maam?

A lot, if not majority of modern Nigerian men prefer financially independent women, especially with the difficult economic situation in the country. This your narrative is very old and outdated.

There are men with fragile egos and little self esteem, but the type of hunger in the country presently is working wonders in helping to reset their brains.

kazyhm:


i wont allow myself to be led by a woman irrespective whether rich/brilliant or have a career.........women tends to be emotionally attached to some silly stuffs and pay attention to trivial frivolity... they exercise power unnecessarily and always want show off indefinitely

When you say led what do you mean ? You can't work under a female boss professionally ? If so I don't so see any problem with that, if one is good at their job their sex is irrelevant however I also disagree like I said not all women, there are some good women who lead and also bring out the best in you. Not all women are some power drunk, but good number can be though. Where I work the ladies are chilled, though some power wielding announcer still exist there too

greiboy:
How did you reach your conclusion maam?

A lot, if not majority of modern Nigerian prefer financially independent women, especially with the difficult economic situation in the country. This your narrative is very old and outdated.

There are men with fragile egos and little self esteem, but the type of hunger in the country presently is working wonders in helping to reset their brains.

The economy has made some men keep their egos in check

Delightful piece.

pcguru1:


The economy has made some men keep their egos in check

I am telling you bro.

When ordinary fuel during this scarcity period is about 250 naira per liter

Don't let them put their ego in check, na hunger go scatter their life


I guess what I am trying to say is "SAI BABA" for making Nigerian men see the light

You said it all

Most Nigerian men are confused and a whole lot of them are hypocrites

Most of them don't even have anything to offer too

They always like to dominate their partner and then make the final decision

They can't stand a woman that's financially stable because their roles won't come to life

When they see such women they'll just conclude and say she isn't humble simply because they are intimidated

The truth is that most of them want women that are 'dumb' the ones they can control at will like...Nigerian men don't like smart women

Once a woman is too intellectual then the man starts questioning his worth


I know there are some brave men out there though

pcguru1:


When you say led what do you mean ? You can't work under a female boss professionally ? If so I don't so see any problem with that, if one is good at their job their sex is irrelevant however I also disagree like I said not all women, there are some good women who lead and also bring out the best in you. Not all women are some power drunk, but good number can be though. Where I work the ladies are chilled, though some power wielding announcer still exist there too

i'm working and my direct boss is a lady and two other men by the side but she is the moost senior. in all honesty, i'm enjoying working with her because she is not like this op that think relationship should be about what you have or the position you occupy.............. gals that brings their capability/position to the table dont make a good partner and can be very unreasonable

greiboy:
How did you reach your conclusion maam?

A lot, if not majority of modern Nigerian prefer financially independent women, especially with the difficult economic situation in the country. This your narrative is very old and outdated.

There are men with fragile egos and little self esteem, but the type of hunger in the country presently is working wonders in helping to reset their brains.

You're not being honest. Most of you would rather suffer than to have a woman financially compete with you. Very old and outdated where? It's very much happening in Nigeria now, just open your eyes. Your ego comes before anything, especially anything related to women.

You ended up saying nothing, some men love dependent women, some love financial buoyant women.


How does that make them confused??

Archangel15:
You ended up saying nothing, some men love dependent women, some love financial buoyant women.


How does that make them confused??

Yes some love dependent women. Very few love independent women, realistically speaking. But most if not all of you claim women have nothing else to offer but pussy? Can you please explain this?

you just said nothing significant.... what a waste of space

Safiaaa:
Yes some love dependent women. Very few love independent women, realistically speaking. But most if not all of you claim women have nothing else to offer but pussy? Can you please explain this?

The way women objectify themselves on social media show that most have nothing else to offer.

You can't go through an hour's browsing without seeing a woman displaying her 'goodies' and most times charging exorbitant prices for them.

Safiaaa:
You're not being honest. Most of you would rather suffer than to have a woman financially compete with you. Very old and outdated where? It's very much happening in Nigeria now, just open your eyes. Your ego comes before anything, especially anything related to women.

sis have you ever had shoe without shoe strings [ref kanye west] we are talking of serious suffering here. You making a case for ego.

I am telling you the truth here my sister. The current situation in the country cannot allow men to take on the burden of the only financial provider in a romantic relationship, even if they want to.

Your narrative only applies to some years back when the economy was still doing fairly ok.

Most men will prefer ladies with some sort of financial stability.