Dear Admin,

I am writing on behalf of my husband. Sunny and I have been married three months and we are in pain and need prayers to get through this pain.

When I met Sunny,he was a quiet gentleman whom I used to see during our tutorial classes for ICAN. He used to like to stay by himself. But one day in class,no one could answer a question that the Lecturer asked but him. After class,I walked up to him and introduced myself. It turns out that Sunny is a very intelligent guy,infact,he is a nerd! But a kind one and very sweet. Over the next three years,we became very close friends. I dare say because of my friendship with Sunny,I passed all my ICAN exams very well.


I also found out that Sunny is a born again christian like me even though we both attended different churches. But we shared alot in common. By the second year of our friendship,we became romantically involved. Sunny is the perfect gentleman any woman would want. I used to wonder why he didnt have many girlfriends before me,he would say its because he was shy. He is also a very good cook. That is why I feel so blessed when he asked me to marry him. I was feeling so blessed.

As Christians,we didnt have any sx before our wedding night. We kissed a few times during our courtship but nothing more than that. I used to look forward to my wedding night with great hope. I dont have any sxual experience myself. I mean,I have always been a church girl since childhood.


My wedding night was horrible. Horrible because,when it came for time for the lovemaking that I was waiting for,we were kissing and when that didnt move further than that,I tried to initiate sx but Sunny kept pushing me away.I eventually asked him why he was pushing me away after I got a bit frustrated. But Sunny just said he was tired. That we have all our lives to have sx. I thought wedding night s*x was a big deal for men..well, I let him be after that.

But three days after wedding,still no sx. We always had alot of kissing and pre-intimacy but once I try to go further,Sunny would stop me. After a week,I became apprehensive. I decided we needed to talk. When I told him I was not happy we hadnt had sx one week after wedding,he said he was sorry that he was thinking I needed time to adjust. I asked him if he was a virgin,he said no. So we proceeded after talking but I wasnt feeling it. It felt like I was forcing it. Eventually,he tried to penetrate but he immediately started acting like he was in pain,not long after that,he lost his erection. He didnt even penetrate properly. Immediately,I saw he was a bit ashamed. Not to harm his ego,I told him it was ok. We kept trying every other day but the same experience. It was now clear that my husband had a sxual problem. Three weeks later,I was now enraged. I told him to tell me what was going on. I was crying,screaming and throwing things…I had alot of pent up sxual tension unreleased I guess.

At that point,my husband broke down and said he needed to tell me he has never been with a woman sxualy but with a man. Omo,I was like…no way..you mean you are gay? He said,no. He said, his only sxual experience was with his step father who sexually abused him. Raped him under his mother’s nose for eight years. I cringed. I was in shock. Sunny began to tell me how his step father made him have anal sx with him for years and his mom wouldnt do anything because she didnt want to loose him. Now I understood why Sunny doesnt speak to his mother. He told me he didnt know her much cos he was raised by his aunty. I only met the mother once,his uncles represented his family at our wedding ceremonies. The abuse continued until he ran away to live with an aunt in Kwara. He said the many years of abuse made him an introvert. He never told anyone. And the few times he tried to have s*x with a lady,he would feel so much pain and not able to do that. He could only take a man’s private part in his anus.

Sunny told himself he is not gay. He doesnt want to be gay. He knows its not right before God. But he needs help. I asked him if he is attracted to women,he said.....


http://livelystones.com.ng/my-husbands-step-father-destroyed-our-opportunity-for-happiness/

O di egwu!

It really is a painful experience, having to wait till the D-day and then..,.......no show. I think Sunny is suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and needs psychotherapy. He could visit any of the sexual disorder clinics (psychiatry human behavioral department) in the teaching hospitals and seek help.

What a story!!! He needs counseling. And both of u should go and see a Therapist.

Serious counseling and prayers

Daniel2289:
What a story!!! He needs counseling. And both of u should go and see a Therapist.

yes ooo! wonders shall never end!

Nebes:
O di egwu!